i was 14 and i was walking through a mall by myself at 12am after my shift at coldstone creamery lol and a bunch of men started whistling and meowing and getting really close to me and they kept asking me questions and i kept not answering until i didn’t know what else to do so i said “i’m only 14” and almost in unison they said “we don’t care” i was so fucking scared i didn’t know what to do and they kept talking about how i looked and how my body looked and what they would do i was on the verge of tears i was all alone in a huge mall i knew i couldn’t outrun them all i felt totally hopeless until a maintenance worker came up to all of us with a huge industrial broom in her hand, i thought she was going to yell at all of us for being in the mall after hours bc she probably thought we were all friends but instead she cursed all of them out in spanish, threatened to press a panic button on her belt and then proceeded to walk me to the basement garage and waited with me until my mom got there to pick me up she had a death grip on her cart the whole time and a face of steel she looked so strong and i just kept saying thank you and she kept saying not to thank her because she had to stop them.

that was the moment i realized women were the most important beings on this planet and we have to protect each other bc nobody else is going to, she didn’t even know me, we couldn’t even communicate that well because of the language barrier, she could have lost her job for waiting with me in the parking lot but she looked out for me when she didn’t have to, she had nothing to gain from it, i’m 21 now and i tell everyone this story even though it happened 7 years ago, what she did that night helped me form and shape lot of my beliefs early on. 

i was at a grocery store really late one night and some old guy kind of eyed me as i walked out of the store next to this other lady. She and I made eye contact and i knew she was scared too. we loaded up our groceries into our cars as fast as possible and I had way more bags than her so she got done faster than me. I panicked because i was sure she was going to leave so i just hurried faster, shaking a little, and then i noticed she sat in her car, watching me and making sure nobody came near. She waited not until all my groceries were loaded, or until my cart was put away, or until I got into my car. No, she didn’t drive away until I drove away. 

And that was the moment that I realized how much women need other women. That we can’t win this war without each other and we have to be looking out for each other, every second. 

my last year in new york city, i got off the subway around 9 or 10p.m. i only lived about 5 blocks from the f train, but i hadn’t gotten more than two before a woman’s hand suddenly touched my arm. 

“that guy behind us is following you,” she said. “he was watching you leave the train car and followed you up.”

i hadn’t noticed him, or at least not noticed him following me. when we stopped outside a grocery store, he stopped half a block back and loitered. the woman linked her arm with mine and walked me several blocks out of her way to my front door and made sure i got inside safely.

another time, nocigar and i were walking home and at a stoplight a stranger grabbed my arm when i wouldn’t respond to him and tried to physically drag me over to him. she—who is, by the way, not a very physically imposing girl—ripped his hand off my arm and snarled, “don’t fucking touch her.”

protect your friends. protect strangers. there are good men in the world, but don’t wait for them to do something if you can do it yourself.

Darrien Hunt. The surveillance video of his murder was also released today but since his case was not as recent its not being talked about as much. As a cosplayer (who also carries swords) this video is frightening 

Fuck…..

Trigger warning

THIS. Why would you write me this? We’ve never interacted, and clearly you’ve ignored the countless photos of me with my husband I’ve posted here. This shit is triggering. I, like many womyn, have been stalked, harrassed, assaulted,etc. And while you may think your message in the middle of the night is harmless, it makes me uncomfortable. Makes me feel like I have to look over my shoulder even more if I go outside. Am I overreacting? Hmmm… I don’t know, but what I do know is I want you to leave me alone. Don’t message me again. Unfollow me. Don’t message other womyn like this either. It sounds obsessive and comes across scary and ENTITLED. black-8-bit

She asked you to leave her alone. Now people are watching.

Lmfao chic wouldn’t answer my question when I asked her why she’s following me after she hated my replies towards her “copyright” issues. I felt awkward but she still followed me , she didn’t answer my question so now I’m creeped out. Fuck! I feel abused and stalked, oh wait, it’s just tumblr.

I DON’T FOLLOW YOU ASSHOLE. fuck off already!

Not anymore bitch, but you’re wanna be fridah ass unfollowed me. You popped up in my dash following me but now I’m the asshole. Lmfao

If anyone is reading this, don’t interact with this blog

barrio2barrio

. I received numerous warnings from different womyn telling me not to even call him out or interact with him here cause he’s a misogynistic jerk troll. Now he’s making a post completely directed at someone else about him, because he can’t handle womyn just flat out ignoring his ass. I attempted to block you, and all tumblr allows is to ignore. I’ve never followed you, yet you find any opportunity to reblog my posts that give you an opening to insult me or discredit what I’m saying. GO THE FUCK AWAY.

(I could not make this shit up)

My apartment has windows facing the street, meaning I can hear pretty much everything that happens on the sidewalk beneath them. And this morning, just as my side of the street was getting the cars cleared for street cleaning, I heard some dude outside go, “C’mon, I just want your number, is that so much to ask? You’re so pretty, you know?”

Well, in light of recent conversations, I was like RED ALERT, and bustled my nosy butt outside to see what was up. Sure enough, a guy in his mid-to-late thirties had stopped his car, gotten out, and was now following a girl down the street. And when I say a girl, I mean a teenager.

Now, I’m brave and stuff, but this guy had shown himself willing to go so far outside the socially acceptable boundaries of behavior that I was pretty sure if I called him on this he wouldn’t take it well, and I was weighing my options when, like an angel of mercy and goodness, a parking enforcement officer came rolling up and she got out. First she saw me and was like, “Is this your car?”

And I was like, “It belongs to that guy down the street hassling that girl.”

And bless this woman’s heart, she gave this great eyebrow and was like, “EXCUSE ME SIR, UNLESS YOU WANT A $75 TICKET I SUGGEST YOU MOVE.”

I will give him credit for balls of steel, because he actually said, “Hold on one minute, I’m talking to my friend,” which, NOPE.

Fortunately the officer is like, “Sure, I’ll wait a minute, and in the meantime I’ll be writing you this ticket.”

So the dude goes grumbling back to his car, and of course he can’t park it anywhere nearby, so he drives off. In the meantime, I ask the girl if she wants to come inside for a minute to make sure the dude left, which she did, and sure enough DUDE CIRCLED AROUND THE BLOCK LOOKING FOR HER (I watched him while the girl was inside getting acquainted with my dog) before taking off. The girl is 18, she didn’t know the guy, and the whole time I was driving her to her brother’s house she kept trying to figure out what she’d done wrong.

Not all men harass women. But all women - and girls - are harassed by men.

this is my daily life back home

The amount of times I have had to walk into random apt buildings and hide is crazy

Especially when I’m on my front porch. I just go inside and won’t leave all day

I’m seeing a lot of people on Tumblr criticize Gaga for tweeting about Perez and it’s just yet another fucking example of how hypocritical and selective this place is about its activism. Lady Gaga has been harassed, stalked, and verbally abused by a man twice her size for nearly two years now. This man has now attempted to rent an apartment inside of her building just so he can be around her and stalk her more than he already has. He has sent her death threats, attacked her family, and has posted hundreds of libelous tweets and posts about her. You can try to belittle how Gaga is feeling by saying she’s “playing the victim”, but, like, she is a fucking victim.