this is not a duet

It always gets me when MRAs bring up the draft as an example of discrimination against men. Yes, it’s true that no woman in America has ever been subject to conscription in times of war; however, being that the most recent draft was in 1973, most likely neither have you. If you get to drag up stuff that happened before you were born, so does everybody else - and I’m pretty sure the ladies are going to win that particular game of misery poker.

BAM.

Eminem is like the most homophobic misogynistic piece of trash ever and white people never bring him up in those "omg hip hop is so homophobic/misogynistic" essays they always write 

When asked about his accident that happened earlier that day

i am not your nice girl

You know what one of my biggest — but not the biggest, not at all, but, nevertheless, big — problems with the Nice Guy phenomenon is? One I have never seen discussed, which is why I am doing it now— it’s this: that I don’t want to date a nice boy.

There. I said it. I don’t want to fuck a nice boy. I don’t want to fuck a nice boy who never gets angry, who won’t start a fight and finish it, who would never ever tell a guy who needs to go fuck themselves to go fuck themselves. I’m not interested in someone who uses ‘nice’ as a synonym for ‘silent’ or ‘passive’, who wants to float along in the world as it is without trying to change anything— without even believing that anything needs to change. There is a lot wrong with the world! There is a lot wrong with the world, and I want to do something about it, and I want the guy (if it’s a guy, as I’m bisexual, but we’re assuming for the purpose of this exercise that they would be) I date to want to do something about it, too. 

I want to date someone vicious. I want to date someone who isn’t afraid of street confrontation or not always saying the polite thing or having some people take an instant dislike to you— him, me, both of us together, because we’re together, because we threaten. I want him not to care that some people hate him, that some people hate me. I want him to love me for all the reasons that other men call me a ‘bitch’, but never call me one himself, because he understands that isn’t his word to use. I want him to be confident and arrogant and clever. I want someone who makes me feel like an equal and someone who is equal to me. 

Because that’s my most fundamental problem with Nice Guys telling me I should want them and society telling me I should want to want a nice boy— I am not a nice girl. I have no interest in being a nice girl! I would like to a be a decent girl, a kind girl, a girl who helps strangers and stands up for herself and tries to do the right thing. None of this makes me nice. None of this makes me want to be nice. None of this makes me want the nice guy, because nice guys think they’re better than me, because they are “nice” and I am not. Because I argue back and I’m difficult and I am not going to stop doing either of those things. Because to be a girl who can get what she wants in our society means arguing and being difficult and not sitting down and shutting up. 

I want someone righteously angry. I want someone who sees oppression everywhere and wants to do something about it (in a respectful way which acknowledges their own privileges) and who won’t tell me that I’m ‘making a big deal’ or that I am being ‘hysterical’ or ‘getting angry about nothing.’ I want someone willing to go the distance. I want a boy who isn’t nice and will never ask me to be, either. I want a partner in revolution. Stop telling me that I should want anything else.

fyi ‘wow u must be on your period’ is the most misogynistic reply to a debate that i have ever fucking heard in my fucking life and believe me one of us is gonna be bleeding and it aint gonna be me

No. You had sex with a girl when you were a child. It ended in pregnancy. You are attacking the morality of a 14 year old girl who terminated a pregnancy that would have resulted in a child that neither you or her had the capacity to care for. A girl that preserved your and her own youth, and stopped a child being raised in circumstances that are not fit for any child. You really should be assessing your own morality. What kind of 14 year old boy fucks a 14 year old girl, without protection, gets her pregnant and then runs an online smear campaign against her for doing what was best for her, her family and you? What? You think you had the capacity to raise a child at age 14/15? How would you feed it or look after it? You wouldn’t. You were going to dump it on her or your own parents, live like the carefree little shit you are and occasionally play with the child when you could be bothered and think “Wow, what a good, brave young father I am.” You made the mistake, she went through the trauma of saving your youth for you. You owe her so much better than this. You absolutely disgust me. Less than forward-slash three, you’re real fucking remorseful. That’s poetry that is. You’re breaking my heart kid. That girl should have every right to decide what she wants to do to her body. The idea that you should take responsibility and give birth implies that you are responsible to this fetus and you owe it something. A pregnant person does not owe a fetus anything any more than they owe you an apology for being alive. Try again, pro lifers. Pro-Choice.

This.

All of this.

next time you unfollow someone for having a bad day and venting on their blog remember to be perfect for the rest of your life

Look, I get it and I used to be one of those people, who was like “I don’t hate women I just hate every female character because they’re written badly!” or whatever and like

I want you to spend some time really honestly thinking about why you hate those characters so much

I had a friend who HATED Ana Lucia from LOST, HATED her, and I was like “why do you hate her?” and she was like “She’s bossy!” and I was like “if she was a bossy dude would you still hate her?” and she stopped and thought and then said no.

You don’t have to like or accept every female character obviously, I’m just asking you to be honest with yourself about your reasons for not liking them.

We saw Wreck-It Ralph this morning and I loved it! I also loved Paperman, the short that played before the film. The animation was just stunning. I may or may not have shed a few tears just from the sheer beauty of it all. 

noooooooooo

oh my god can we stop

a bit of accidental lipstick on a sheet of paper gets played off as flirting because they interacted for ten seconds

he then feels so entitled to her attention that he thinks he should interrupt her job interview with paper airplanes

you know

jeopardizing her future employment

as if women don’t have enough trouble in the workplace ugh

BUT THEN OH MAGIC HAPPENS BECAUSE HE WAS SO NICE

SUCH A NICE GUY

BY WHICH I MEAN A TOOL WHO FEELS ENTITLED TO A WOMAN’S ATTENTION/AFFEECTION

JUST UGH

this may not seem like much but it lays the groundwork for worse things like stalking and harassment

acts of violence commonly portrayed as romantic when men do them to women

young boys and girls are internalizing this shit

it’s like Rape Culture Lite and this short made me SO uncomfortable

Seriously, ain't nothin' romantic about that shit.