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The Truth of BuzzFeed’s Grindr BBQ

The Buzzfeed article was titled “This Man Invited People To A “BBQ Not Orgy” On Grindr And It Was Surprisingly Heartwarming.” It’s about how Chris Bowman, a 61 year old man from Apex, North Carolina has been hosting an annual summer BBQ. He advertises this BBQ through the gay dating/hookup app, Grindr. It’s about how the event is surprisingly sweet and Bowman, who is a recovered alcoholic, wants to give back to the community and bring people together.

TL;DR Chris is a registered sex offender with a history of pedophilia and preying on young people. His ‘not an orgy’ and community talk is a gaslighting tactic to groom young people into having sex with him. Buzzfeed, Vice, and other social media outlets giving his event a platform endangers LGBT youth.

Buzzfeed Link: Click Here

Time for the real shit. Buckle UP.

A group of four of us (J, M, S, and A) attended the BBQ in the summer of 2017. J received an invite similar to the one shown in the Buzzfeed article over Grindr, and we’re young and dumb so we decided what the hell, let’s go. We rolled up and saw a fire truck and ambulance already there. He’d invited the local fire department and EMS to attend the BBQ. The food was admittedly very good, and the crowd was a strange mix of after-church and from Grindr. Most of the other folks at the BBQ seemed fine and kind. Buzzfeed got that right. Here is what they left out:

HE’S A SEX CRIMINAL

His page on the NC registry: Click Here

More information about his charges & appeal: Click Here

1997: Chris is giving Daniel, a 14 yo boy, a golf lesson. He locks the doors to the store and turns off the lights. He comes up behind Daniel under the impression of adjusting the child’s technique. He reaches down into Daniel’s underwear and molests him.

1998: Chris’s daughter has two friends over for a slumber party. They are sisters. When everyone is asleep, Jessica, a 15 yo girl, is walking down the stairs of his multi-level house. Chris approaches, pulls down her shorts, and performs oral sex on her. He stops when Jessica’s sister stumbles upon the scene.

2005: Chris provides his house as a location for two friends, a 24 yo and 18 yo, to have sex with their underage girlfriends, 14 yo and 15 yo.

He appealed his 2005 convictions that testimony from 1997 & 98 was inadmissible in the determination of guilt phase of his trial.

THE BBQ

Chris knew who we were and immediately inserted himself into our group. We figured, yeah we’ll talk with him a while—he gave us all this food, so we kind of have to (!!THIS IS HIS STRATEGY!!). Anyway, we listened to him talk about orgies, sex, golf, and drugs in Europe for about an hour. Topics he hit:

-        Orgies he’d attended in downtown Paris where you circled the arc de triumph in your car until forming a chain of other searching cars that would eventually peel off into a warehouse or somewhere to initiate the orgy. It’s cool you, should totally try it sometime! OKAY.

-        He talked a lot about how his favorite drug to use was Black Beauty

-        He talked a lot about how good the golfing was in Scotland (He molested a 14 yo boy in 1997 while teaching a golf lesson!)

-        He spent a lot of time trying to convince us to attend the “BBQ After Dark”

The heat was incredible that day and we were starting to get tired of his weird sex talk. Chris saw this and asked J what was wrong. J told him it was just kind of hot. Chris followed up by inviting J to go on and take his shirt off. J said no, he was fine. Chris said, “Oh no, come on! Take your shirt off! I’ll take my shirt off!” J ignored it. We were all uncomfortable. Throughout the ENTIRE event, Chris constantly reminded us about the after dark portion of the BBQ, which we were all very invited to. We had no plans of going, but kept our refusals soft and polite out of respect, because again, the BBQ is a tactic to make you treat him kinder and feel bad about thinking he’s creepy.

THE NEXT DAY

This was when the solicitations started. For the next year and a half until J deleted his Grindr last fall, Chris continued to send J messages trying to move things forward. He also tried to pick up A and S through J’s Grindr. He’s talked about how he’s really excited about the buzz the event has been getting and how he’s hoping the event will grow and grow. J hasn’t responded to the messages that have kept coming for over a year. Attached are a few screenshots.

CONCLUSION

We tried to contact Buzzfeed after the article was first published about how they had misrepresented the nature of the event. When they didn’t respond, we didn’t think it mattered too much. Maybe we were being too critical? The food was good… However, now that we are aware of Chris’s history of pedophilia, we want to make sure anyone who decides to attend knows what to expect.

I really would like anyone who reblogged the original version of the post to reblog this one. The original one (with over 300k notes) has too many variations of this story. NO ONE should attend this man’s bbq. He’s a pedophile that grooms young boys on grindr and at his “Pure” BBQ. The evidence is all here.

OP, thank you for this. BuzzFeed News actually picked it up and published this just now. They’re conducting an investigation.

https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/juliareinstein/viral-grindr-bbq-convicted-sexual-battery

Fuck anyone who says rape culture doesn’t exist. Stories like this make me hate America more and more for treating women and girls with such dehumanization. 

“Ross disclosed the rape victim’s address to Mirasolo and ordered Mirasolo’s name to be added to the child’s birth certificate — all without the victim’s consent or a hearing, according to Kiessling. 

An assistant prosecutor on this, Eric Scott, told me she had granted her consent, which was a lie — she has never been asked to do this and certainly never signed anything,” Kiessling said.”

They literally gave a rape victim’s address out to the rapist himself. Words cannot describe how disgusted I am with this country’s justice system. There’s something very sinister about American’s desire to protect rapists. 

Why are they calling a 12 year old a woman?!

This story is even worse than it looks… Apparently the State started this because she made an application for food stamps??

Please don’t forget this election season that circuit and district judges are also elected officials.

republicans for years: gay marriage will lead to pedophilia!!!

republicans in 2017: is using the fucking bible to defend an actual real goddamned pedophile running for senate

Zachary Quinto Slams Kevin Spacey For His Response To Sexual Misconduct Allegations (x)

Tbh when I say anime must be destroyed, I don’t mean all anime. I mean the kind of anime with disposable female characters, the kind that has a strong female character lose every ounce of determination when she falls in love with the protagonist, and turns into a doting housewife when they get together. I’m talking the kind that has little sisters with a crush on their big brother, that uses sexual assault for fanservice. Sword Art Online. I’m talking about Sword Art Online.

here’s a really relevant twitter thread (view the whole thread here)

Please read this if you’re a white or non-Asian fan of “idol culture” in any way, be it IRL or a series like Love Live. I know it’s long but if you really claim to not have any resources detailing its connections to sex trafficking of minors and child pornography then well here it is for your viewing now

When Sherry Johnson was eleven, she found one day that she’s gonna marry a 20-year-old member of her church who had raped her. She became pregnant and in order to avoid investigation and criminal case, her family and church officials decided to make the girl a legal wife of this monster.

“My mom asked me if I wanted to get married, and I said, ‘I don’t know, what is marriage, how do I act like a wife?’” Johnson remembers today, many years later. “She said, ‘Well, I guess you’re just going to get married.’” 

However, her case is one of thousand cases of child marriage. According to statistics, children 16 and under are still being married in Florida at a rate of one every few days.

Johnson and her family also attended a conservative Pentecostal church and that other girls of a similar age periodically also married. One girl said when she was 10 she was raped by both a minister and a parishioner and later gave birth to a daughter. There were all documents confirming her and her child’s age, but still, the judge approved the marriage to end the rape investigation, telling her, “What we want is for you to get married.”

And nevertheless, America prefers to interfere in other countries’ internal affairs, like in Syria, calling it “defending freedom” rather than to change states’ laws and to protect American children from rape, coercion and molestation. 

Today, Johnson is campaigning for a state law to stop underage marriage that has already become a norm in some states.

Please, help me to raise awareness to this issue. No one can remain indifferent to the problem of child molestation. 

#StopChildMarriage  #StopChildAbuse

Wtf

Why don’t we discuss the vast amount of underaged dating within the LGBT community? We only crucify creepy men preying on young girls, but it doesn’t stop there.

For example:

I know of a couple that met when one was 15-16, and according to my calculations, that would make her partner at least 26 at the time they got together. Now, they receive a lot of praise on here but every time I saw their pix, I felt sick to my stomach. 

Because we don’t talk about it, we young people walking around thinking this behaviour is okay.

I had a girl try to get at me one time who said she was 21 and ended up being 17. When I found out her real age I ceased communication and dead the shit immediately. She kept trying to contact me because she couldn’t wrap her mind around it…saying she was “grown” and that she’s “been with older women before,” like that makes it okay.

I’m in NO WAY blaming her…I blame all of us who see this shit going on and don’t speak up. When we see men seeking out younger women, we’re all up in arms and are quick to drag them. But when it’s a same-gender couple, why don’t we have the same reaction?

If you’re in your mid twenties, what could you possibly have in common with someone in their teens? What do you talk about? Where y’all gonna go? Why can’t you find someone close to your own age?

^^ that part. what could this teenager be offering you other than the ability to be easily manipulated.

#relatable trauma survivor feels

Imagine yourself.

This phenomenon is NOT lost on adults. Take it from someone who IS one.  As an adult, anyone who is a teenager is a child to us. This is not meant to be condescending; adults see teenagers as people who have growing to do. People who are so much younger, immature even. Small like a younger sibling who needs protecting. If you are underage, and an adult tells you that they see you as an adult and are attracted to you because of it, THIS IS A LIE. They see you as a child. If an adult tells you that they see you, who is underage, as an adult, stay away. That person is attracted to children. That person is a pedophile.

Yes yes yes

Oh my god, so important. Listen, normal adults will not want to date you when you are still a young teenager. We don’t look at you as viable options for a serious relationship, simply because we’re at very different stages in life.

Please do not listen to any adult who tells you otherwise. They are not attracted to you because they see you as an equal - they see you as a young person who doesn’t have the life experience to call them on their bullshit, and they want to use that to manipulate you.

You’re awesome and you deserve a healthy environment in which to learn and grow.

To add to this: this doesn’t mean that you AREN’T “mature for your age” or whatever the heck they decide to tell you. You might be. But you don’t need to be in a relationship with that person to prove it. By removing this person from your life, you will be the mature one.

What I support:

What I do not support:

A.K.A. the entire cgl community on tumblr. :)

how to fucking flag pedophiles

call me the fucking ~internet police~ BUT I DIDN’T KNOW UNTIL TODAY THAT THERE’S LITERALLY A COMMUNITY OF “PEDOPHILE POSITIVITY” ON THIS HELLSITE

THERE ARE PEOPLE OPENLY ADMITTING THAT THEY ARE ATTRACTED TO CHILDREN/CONSUMING CHILD PORN ON THIS WEBSITE!?!??! THERE’S 13 YEAR OLDS ON HERE!!!

so my dudes, how to flag “maps” (minor attracted people aka pedophiles)

1. click “flag this blog”

2. click “this violates tumblr’s community guildlines”

3. click “someone is at risk of harm”

4. click “harm to minors”

5. type “pedophile” in the box

THIS IS GOOD AND ALL BUT PLEASE IF THEY HAVE ACTUAL CP PLEASE REPORT IT TO FBI TIPS,

If it’s clear they have broken laws (they post/talk about using child porn, admit to things they’ve done with minors, etc), go fill out a form here ( https://tips.fbi.gov ) to make the FBI aware and bring this filth to justice. Every single one. And if there’s no proof of criminal offense, then go on and flag them, at least then they aren’t here to prey on children on the internet.

Drawing porn of child characters from comics or cartoons is ILLEGAL in the United States

18 U.S. Code § 1466A - Obscene visual representations of the sexual abuse of children                                                                 

(a)In General.—Any person who, in a circumstance described in subsection (d), knowingly produces, distributes, receives, or possesses with intent to distribute, a visual depiction of any kind, including a drawing, cartoon, sculpture, or painting, that—                    

(1)                        

(2)                     

(b)Additional Offenses.—Any person who, in a circumstance described in subsection (d), knowingly possesses a visual depiction of any kind, including a drawing, cartoon, sculpture, or painting, that—                    

(1)                 

(2)                       

©Nonrequired Element of Offense.  It is not a required element of any offense under this section that the minor depicted actually exist. Source

Here are some recent cases and convictions.

Most recent conviction seems to be May 2016. That’s this month.

When abusive adults in fandoms prey on the children in them, try to spread that it’s okay to draw child porn of the child characters, to sexualize the child characters, they are breaking the law and encouraging minors to break the law. The law doesn’t care if you use it as a “coping mechanism” (even forgetting that abused people can become abusers themselves). This is illegal and it can get you imprisoned.

Please boost this. Not enough people know the law exists and big-name artists routinely bully people, survivors, minors into believing that spreading child porn in their fandoms is okay and to do it themselves. It’s not, and it can get rebloggers arrested for possessing and spreading obscene visual representations of the sexual abuse of children.                 

this is the best news i’ve heard all day arrest all of them

I can’t believe people have had the law clearly laid out in front of them and are still trying to defend child porn with “it’s just fictional!!!”