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e.e. cummings, from ‘now that,more nearest even than your fate’ (Poem #37 in 73 Poems), Complete Poems: 1904-1962
[Text ID: “that hugest whole creation may be less incalculable than a single kiss”]
from journal entry (april 11th 2022, silas denver melvin, paper + digital)
click for quality + do not remove caption (instagram)
[ID: a black and white photograph of several muscovy ducks swimming in a line on a pond. in yellow text above them it reads "it's hard work, trying to make yourself into something your mother can stand to look at." /End ID]
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Audra McDonald, Anne Hathaway and Raúl Esparza in Twelfth Night by Brigitte Lacombe, 2009.
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inspired by @mercuriian and her lovely prompts for napowrimo! day 13: a poem about an animal 🐍❤️🐍
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one day one of you is going to call the wrong person "a queer" to their face and get hit lol
though i guess that would require talking to actual logged-off LGBT people and i know y'all don't do that lmao
"queer being a slur is something people just made up recently" please talk to any logged-off LGBT person over the age of 40 sometime
Allow people to like you, to enjoy your company, to want to be your friend. Allow them to compliment you, allow others to think you're cool and funny even if you think you're not. It is not up to you to tell others how to feel, and remember that people might see the positive things in you and qualities that you have been failing to see while being too self-critical. Allow yourself to be liked by other people, even when you don't see why they should. Don't self-isolate because you think you are not good enough for other people.
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White allies and white leftists and liberals need to read this.
In regards to posts about racism or intersectionality with race involved you MUST listen. Not respond. LISTEN
What I have seen so many white “allies” do is add onto posts (my own included) to put their own thoughts and opinions. In some cases take the words of the original poster and try to “translate” what is being said to other white people.
You are ACTIVELY taking away the voices of poc and speaking over them when you do this. When you tack on your own personal anecdotes or try to to give a definition of what a person or color is saying you are in the simplest of ways insulting their intelligence
I have multiple posts on this site talking about racism and there is ALWAYS a white person ready to reblog it with their own commentary. You are NOT helping. And you are being micro aggressive
Your job as an ally is to uplift our voices. Not add your own.
Please sit down with yourself and ask yourself why you feel the need to insert yourself into a conversation that does not need your opinion. No matter if you agree or not.
Please save your thoughts and opinions for the tags. This isn’t a blackboard discussion class
This won’t get as many notes as my other posts and I know this but I still must say it because it’s so very aggravating and honestly very rude
Again, if you’re white, don’t post and don’t reply: if your comment isn’t adding to the conversation, it is detracting from it. The things that white people post on discussions of racism clutter up the notes, center conversations that should be about POC on themselves, and worst of all contain misinformation. There’s nothing that makes me wince more than seeing a cogent, salient point drawn from lived experience chopped up and repackaged by someone who doesn’t even know what they don’t yet know.
White people, your silence is a political act: quelling your ego enough to not comment is a really powerful way to give POC space to express themselves. If you’re not certain as to whether your comment is necessary, then as a courtesy to POC just keep it as a thought. Still, here is an (inexhaustive) list to be aware of:
- You don’t have anything to add, but you just want to affirm that you agree. Do not do this. Just imagine the users you’re talking over as actual people: a circle of black and brown people discussing their mutual experiences, but constantly being interrupted by a white person saying “Yep!” “I’m white and I agree!” “We white people need to listen to this!” What could be more entitled in a conversation that’s not about you? If you’re reblogging a post, you’re already showing you agree. That’s uplifting voices of color. Tacking on a redundant comment in your own (white) words is suppressing voices of color.
- Your comment is about racism/privilege/injustice, but is not directly related to the post. Distracting. Irrelevant. Rude. And, by pulling the thread away from its central idea, you’re making it harder for allies who are still learning to understand how different ideas link together. Don’t derail. All issues of injustice are not the same, and specific topics need to have their spaces respected. If you want to talk about your own experience, you can make your own post somewhere else.
- You didn’t fully understand the post. Injustice is a constantly-evolving beast created through millennia of detailed history that interacts with every facet of our lives. Its consequences ripple out to touch parts of the world that we don’t even know of. If you know there’s something in the post that you don’t understand, you can’t even begin to know what’s behind the post that you understand even less. If you try to analyze it with only half the information, you will lead someone else astray.
I encourage you, even or especially if your blog is just something you do for fun, to practice silence. It takes humility to swallow your words for the sake of letting voices of color be louder. Most importantly, it’s vital practice for the real world: you’ll never be trusted to advocate if you can’t show enough restraint to listen.
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Ravioli Of Lying To God
what a mother does for you out of obligation vs what a mother does for you because she wants to. the taste of a cup of coffee made from obligation vs. the taste of a cup of coffee made. did you raise me because you wanted to or did you raise me because you had to, because i was in your home and you thought, i have to put food in every mouth under this roof. did you look at me with love or did you look at me. did you ever look at me? did you ever see me? did you want to? do you want to still? if i asked you to love me would you laugh? would you ask me why? would you tell me to not ask such stupid questions? would you go to bed and wonder to yourself, why does she think i don't love her? i've done everything for her i've bathed her i've clothed her i've fed her i kept a roof over her head. isn't that love? do you even know? do you know what love looks like? did your mother love you? did she make you coffee? can you tell me what it tasted like?
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Privacy is power. What people don’t know they cant ruin.
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Anonymous asked:
Which articles did you read??
Speaking to No One: Broadcasting on social media is less about communication than making you the audience to yourself
Social media as masochism: Using social media can be a masochistic means of escaping the self
Social Media Is Not Self-Expression: Self-expression is the internalization of social authority, not the externalization of a “true identity”
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