Anyone else, esp. neurodivergent people, ever talk to someone and get elated because you’re like wow :) I am doing a Conversation :) I am doing the Asking Questions and Listening Attentively and Expressing Interest :) I have shared a Joke or brief Amusing Happening and this person liked it :) this person seems to enjoy speaking to me and I enjoy speaking to them :) I’m a person.

I once was talking to someone I admired and they told a joke about our managers and I added to the joke, and they laughed so hard they couldn’t talk  and I was like thank you for laughing I have truly never experienced this level of euphoria and also I would die for you now.

Recognition Responsive Euphoria is a hell of a drug 

excuse me officer i would like to report a murder

my favorite way to hang out is so lowkey like u wanna watch reality tv all day in our sweats?? ok. wanna do homework n barely even talk except to complain about how much work it is?? ok. wanna read different books while sharing an entire tub of ice cream?? ok. going out is so much effort like sometimes u just wanna enjoy someone’s company without doing anything “special” and i think those are actually the most special times 

this is messy… but…

The pressure to forgive an abuser or rapist can actually be incredibly damaging for a lot of survivors. People press us to forgive sometimes before we even have a chance to discover our anger.

We’re expected to be forgiving, unchallenging, to let what happened pass without talking too much about it or holding anyone accountable. People don’t want their social landscape to change too much, so they pressure survivors to quietly let things go, to not stir the pot. We are expected to give up our right to be angry, and we are told it is for our own good.

In reality, anger can be an essential part of recovery for a survivor of abuse, rape, or other violence. Anger means finally recognizing on an emotional level that what happened was wrong. That it should never have happened. That we didn’t deserve it, invite it or cause it.

Reclaiming our right to be angry about the violence inflicted on us means rejecting cultural narratives that blame the victims of abuse and assault for what happened to us. It often means rejecting the narratives our specific abusers used to justify their actions, and replacing their perspective of what happened with our own. Learning to be angry about the wrongs done to us, especially as a group of people who are constantly told we have no right to anger, can be an incredibly powerful and healing act.

When I am allowed to be angry that someone hurt me, I stop meekly accepting future hurt. When I am allowed to explore my true feelings about the violence I endured, I am finally able to start processing my experiences and their effect on me, and pour less energy into appearing to be the “good victim”.

The good victim that an abuse culture encourages us to be – always meek, quiet, serenely self-sacrificial, devoid of anger, endlessly forgiving, never fighting back, looking only in ourselves for answers to why this happened to us – is the exact kind of person many of our abusers tried to force us to be. Trying to fulfil this expectation makes us vulnerable. It means ignoring our own needs, feelings, and experiences and never really healing.

Real healing can involve forgiveness, but only when it originates from the person who was wronged. Forgiveness that’s forced, forgiveness that requires us to give up our right to anger, forgiveness that means silence or taking on part of the blame or minimizing or excusing what happened or returning to a vulnerable position with our old abusers – that is just a new layer of violence.

types of writers

The Lore-ist 

The Bae

The Researcher

The Lemon Flavored Factory

The Word Vomit Canoe

The Muse

little fury road things i dig way too much:

Why MM:FR Was the Most Tasteful Action Movie I’ve Seen

Things that the film handled with restraint:

Rape: As countless people have said – Half of the movie’s main cast consists of sex slaves. And there’s not a single rape scene. 

Gore: The film looks exactly the type to be ultra-violent a la Quentin Tarantino. But it’s not. The one gory moment is one that you can see coming from miles away and lasts only for a second. And even then, it’s not terrible. Considering this, the movie probably could have had a PG-13 rating with minor alteration.

Sexualization: Five women wearing nothing but gauze sounds like a recipe for anything but what we got; no lingering, awkward, bodily shots. There was even a scene with a completely naked young woman with the camera focused directly on her. Guess what. The camera treated her exactly as if she were wearing flannel pajamas.

Degradation of women: Bad people get upset. We get that. Sometimes they like to swear at our heroines. And yet no one felt the need to say “bitch,” “cunt,” or “whore.” How a film managed to present about the least female-friendly society you can imagine but treated its female characters with more respect than 99% of action movies is beyond me.

Things that the film did not handle with restraint:

FLAMETHROWER GUITAR.

Gender equality: No one once says “Women are ___,” or “Men are ___.” It almost seems like outside of Immortan Joe’s freakishly utilitarian society, men and women get along just fine. Huh. Weird.

Death: Good and bad people die alike on the Fury Road; very quickly. It’s your typical action movie body count. But in a move that’s both odd and brilliant, the film spends a good amount of it’s scarce dialogue detailing what death means to the characters. For some, it’s a suicidal call to honor. For others, it’s a necessary risk to bring about more life. People die in droves. And it’s sad. Death matters.

Criticism: This is about the most critical movie of gender inequality, capitalism, and fascism I’ve ever seen without anyone ever mentioning gender inequality, capitalism or fascism.

COMPASSION: I can’t state this enough. This is a post-apocalyptic genre movie where people kill each other over sex slaves, border disputes, and cars and its message is hope and compassion. The biggest, most heroic moment of the movie is an act of healing, not an act of violence. WHOA.

pretty much agree.

#SHE DID THAT

2 important things about ST: Beyond: 1. Jaylah  2. LISTEN ALL OF Y’ALL IT’S A SABOTAGE 

Thorin ‘More Majestic than you’ Oakenshield

#performative hubristic single-minded to the point of messianic vainglory douchebag #you are noble and awful and selfish and blindingly self-sacrificial to your nomad dwarf kingdom that you carry in your soul like you are … #the sole caretaker of it #i am in love with your honour #i am in love with your own self-making myth #SO. MUCH. FUCKING. MAJESTY

(tags from okayophelia)

#Oakenshield and displaced prince; heir to a kingdom that isn’t; son and grandson and orphaned still#Thorin is as much a myth as a man#(sorry; dwarf)#he becomes a story for the sake of his people; he remakes himself in order to recapture his home#that scene where he’s basically taking Dramatic Heroic Pose 2 and the story of the Oakenshield is being told#that’s his inheritence; he forged it from stories to replace the gold lost to him#URGH I have such a thing for heroes who lose themselves to narratives you guys have no idea#(also the story still makes more sense of Thorn’s a woman)

                                           We’re a team, aren’t we?                                                                              And I’m so proud of my victors.

I’m so glad she’s guarding our galaxy

so my brother was telling me about this human resources certification he attended a while ago. in a panel, the panelist asked a bunch of people in attendance, “who here knows if an applicant for a job is right for it in under 60 seconds?”

hands shot up around the room, people smug about their ability to “weed out the riff-raff” when it came to hiring for their fortune 500.

“you should all be fired and probably in jail,” they said, waiting for the whole room to get uncomfortable, then continued, “because the only things you can really learn about a human being in under 60 seconds are all things that are fueled by prejudices and biases covered by american law. so now, i will teach you how to stop being racist, sexist, judgmental assholes and hire people that will better your company of employ.”

So you know what I don’t get? Why people repeat words. (x)

screams my professor was trying to find an example of reduplication so the next class he came back and said “I FOUND REDUPLICATION IN ENGLISH” and then he said “Milk milk” and everyone was just “what?” and he said “you know when you go to a coffee shop and they ask if you want soy milk and you say ‘no i want milk milk’” and everyone just had this collective sigh of understanding.

Another name for this particular construction is contrastive focus reduplication, and there’s a famous linguistics paper about it which is commonly known as the Salad Salad Paper. You know, because if you want to make it clear that you’re not talking about pasta salad or potato salad, you might call it “salad salad”. The repetition indicates that you’re intending the most prototypical meaning of the word, like green salad or cow’s milk, even though other things can be considered types of salad or milk. 

My inner linguistics nerd just woke up and it was Christmas morning.

Ke$ha is a perfect example of how the media loves to make intelligent girls seem dumb and bitchy even though they are actually smart and caring. Ke$ha isn’t far from being a feminist icon but the media continues to label her as a dumb drunk party girl.

and Ke$ha is all for loving yourself and equality but she continues to receive harassment from mainstream media. Enough harassment to the point that she developed an eating disorder because of it. She is an example of how horrible and sexist the music industry is.

Ke$ha stands in the category of “gifted genius”, she scored near perfect (1500) on her SAT’s and has an IQ of 140

After I ran across Kesha’s cover of “Don’t Think Twice It’s Alright" (one of my favorite songs in the world) I did a bunch of research and discovered that her persona seemed to have been invented entirely for marketing purposes…a fact which is much sadder given the apparently abusive relationship she had with her producer.