instead of assuring everyone that it “isn’t a phase”, why don’t we just assure everyone that if it is a phase it’s fine? it’s healthy to figure yourself out? because if we tell everyone it’s not a phase and it ends up being a phase, those people are going to feel guilty, like they stole resources or wasted time. It’s not bad to ‘go through a phase’. It’s a healthy way of finding out who you are. And if it isn’t a phase, that’s fine too. But if it is, there’s no reason to feel bad.
THIS THIS THIS THIS^^^^^^
Phases are how I learn things, cuz phases = intensive consideration of a thing. Then it gets less intensive but what I’ve learned stays with me.
Also, a “phase” doesn’t have to just be about experimentation or still figuring yourself out. Sometimes you feel totally set & comfortable in your identity, but it can still change over the course of your life, sometimes multiple times. And that’s okay!