Tw for child abuse and grooming mentions.

Teenagers are too immature to make their medical descions, but they’re mature enough to drive but they’re too immature to choose the school they want to go to or use the bathroom during class, but they’re mature enough to cook in a fast food place under pressure with blaring alarms and lights and they’re too immature to live in their own but they’re mature enough to have their parents sign a marriage contract on their behalf in states where child marriage is legal but they’re too immature to get a divorce.

They’re mature when they can be exploited but immature when they want to be free.

Adding the tags from @functionally-immortal because yes

Children are too immature to join or leave a religion, or to say what their gender, name, pronouns, or orientation is. But they're mature enough to birth another literal child.

Children are mature enough to go to adult prisons, but not mature enough to get a vote on what is considered against the law or how those laws are enforced.

This is your permission to block that person!

There is no stigma attached to blocking people on tumblr. I promise.

Listen, I promise you. You can just block them.

I have blocked someone because I don’t like their art style. Their art constantly shows up in a fandom tag I follow; so I blocked that user.

Someone I follow reblogs from someone I don’t want to see on my dash so I put their entire URL in my filtered terms/ blacklist.

There was an aesthetic blogger in a tag I frequent and I didn’t want their collages/ mood boards to clog up my search results. So I blocked them.

I promise you, you are allowed to filter out and/ or block people.

People don’t need to be bad, don’t need to be annoying, don’t need to “deserve” getting blocked.

You are allowed to block people for any reason whatsoever; including no reason at all.

20 Low effort meaningful comments to leave on fics when you can’t think of anything to say that most authors love and appreciate (and you will too).

1.) Thank you for writing this!

2.) This really helped distract me from the horrors of reality, thank you for writing it!

3.) I really really really loved this.

4.) <3

5.) Literal keyboard mash q3kjt2uh0erjiurjfnejkrgnkejoiiueirnf!!!!

6.) My favorite part was when they ____.

7.) I laughed at ____.

8.) How dare you! /affectionate.

9.) I am very excited to read this story in its entirety!

10.) I really enjoyed the first __ chapters, I cannot wait for more!

11.) This gave me everything I was hoping for!

12.) 10/10 fic, thanks for writing!

13.) I am going to be thinking about this fic for a long time, thank you for writing!

14.) This made me feel a lot of emotions and I cannot describe them, so thank you for that. I really enjoyed this.

15.) This was the best ride I haven taken in a long time, wow! Thank you for writing this.

16.) If I had the ability to bind this as a real book I would, I loved it so much.

17.) I'm not good with words but I just loved this so much.

18.) This is complete perfection.

19.) I am in awe of how you described ____.

20.) This means so much to me that you wrote this. Thank you.

The more you comment, the better you will get at it and the more enjoyment and fulfillment you will received out of saying thank you.

they probably cant love me back in a human or even mammalian sense, but my goldfish with their smooth pea-sized brain have learned to trust that i will make them better when they are sick. i feel like crying about this often

Maybe Princess the tarantula never had anything resembling what we as humans know as emotions, but she still came out of her burrow and up to the glass when we’d talk to her and used to stare at the drawing I’d tape to her terrarium. Maybe she couldn’t even comprehend what we were, but she knew we were there to take care of her. And even if she never showed that sort of curiosity or trust we’d still love her.

Idk if Munchie the praying mantis felt love for me, but I do know he trusted me enough to climb onto my hand when offered and was comfortable with allowing me to carry him places despite me being absolutely massive in comparison to him. So that's close enough in my book.

This also applies to wild animals/birds you might encounter in your garden. The feral city pigeon with the distinct white spot on his head will never love me, and will probably never be brave enough to eat from my hand. But I don't feed him in the hope of making him love me. I feed him because I love seeing him, doing his little spiny walks on my balcony, cooing up a storm, and not flying away immediately when I open the balcony door to bring him some seed. His presence brings joy to my heart, and I'm blessed to see him every day.

I'm not naïve enough to believe an animal can love me the same way a human can, but to know it trusts me enough to feel safe in my presence is an honour I strive to maintain as a sentient human.

My tortoise who is older than me just ran up to me when I was bringing her lettuce. Head and forelegs as high off the ground as possible looking at me like :-} I don’t know if she loves me but she recognizes me as the source of food and she lets me scratch her head

Things antis need to actually get acquainted with

Morning Sermon

I need to say something and I need y'all to be calm

if it isn't actively bad or harmful, no representation should be called "too simple" or "too surface level"

I have a whole argument for this about the barbie movie but today I wanna talk about a show called "the babysitters club" on Netflix

(obligatory disclaimer that I watched only two episodes of this show so if it's super problematic I'm sorry) (yes. I know it's based on a book, this is about the show)

this is a silly 8+ show that my 9 year old sister is watching and it manages to tackle so many complex topics in such an easy way. basic premise is these 13 year old girls have a babysitting agency.

in one episode, a girl babysits this transfem kid. the approach is super simple, with the kid saying stuff like "oh no, those are my old boy clothes, these are my girl clothes". they have to go to the doctor and everyone is calling the kid by her dead name and using he/him and this 13 year old snaps at like a group of doctors and they all listen to her. it's pure fantasy and any person versed in trans theory would point out a bunch of mistakes.

but after watching this episode, my little sister started switching to my name instead of my dead name and intercalating he/him pronouns when talking about me.

one of the 13 years old is a diabetic and sometimes her whole personality is taken over by that. but she has this episode where she pushes herself to her limit and passes out and talks about being in a coma for a while because of not recognizing the limits of her disability.

and this allowed my 9 year old sister to understand me better when I say "I really want to play with you but right now my body physically can't do that" (I'm disabled). she has even asked me why I'm pushing myself, why I'm not using my crutches when I complain about pain.

my mom is 50 years old and watching this show with my sister. she said the episode about the diabetic girl helped her understand me and my disability better. she grew up disabled as well, but she was taught to shut up and power through.

yes, silly simple representation can annoy you if you've read thousands of pages about queer liberation or disability radical thought, but sometimes things are not for you.

you need to get it out of your mind that psychosomatic illness is just “making up symptoms” when it’s actually much more like your body is being actively poisoned by chemicals released from your brain

if you’re so stressed that you’re puking your guts up every morning, are unable to eat or keep anything down, you can’t look at light without feeling infinitely worse and feel exhausted and in pain all the time (or whatever your particular stress induced symptom set is) you’re not just feeling like that because you’ve willed it into being. your body is begging for relief from the constant barrage of stress hormones and it requires the fundamental source of stress to go away, not just distracting yourself from the symptoms

just because the root is psychological doesn’t mean the result isn’t an entirely physical process.

This and also "your body is desperately trying to alert you to the fact that stress is killing you"

So there's this thing, direct vs. referred pain. Direct pain is, well, direct. You break your wrist, your wrist hurts. Referred pain is when injury or illness in one part of the body results in pain somewhere else. Muscle tension in the back and neck leads to a migraine behind your eyes, a dislocation or injury to the hips results in knee and back pain.

Point being, psychosomatic pain is, essentially, just another form of referred pain. Function issues from one part of the body telegraphed to other connected systems.

this is your gentle reminder to stop fighting against your adhd and instead structure your life around it

buy a pack of chapsticks and put one in the pocket of all of your coats and jackets because you always forget to bring one and chapped lips is sensory hell

leave important things where you can see them. if they go in a box or a drawer you will forget they exist

put any appointments or deadlines in your phone calendar As Soon As you get them. set a reminder for a week before, a day before, an hour before, as many as you need as often as you need them.

when that little voice in your head says "i dont need to write that down, ill remember it" that is the devil talking!!! write it down anyway!!

plan for down time. have a few hours at the end of every day to just do fun stuff like engage in your hyperfixations. even if you didnt get all of your work done that day, have the rest anyway. you probably spent the whole day beating yourself up for not doing what you Should be doing, so you still need the break.

if you never eat vegetables because its too much effort to chop and cook them, get the frozen or canned shit. it doesnt go off for ages and you just have to microwave it. theres no point buying fresh vegetables if they just keep going off and being left to rot in the bottom of your fridge

if you struggle to decide what to have for dinner every day, take the decision out of it. choose a set of meals and eat those on rotation until you get sick of them, then choose some new ones and do it again.

its not stupid if it works! our brains literally have a chemical deficiency. you are allowed to accommodate yourself. go forth and stop making your life more difficult than it has to be because "this shouldn't be this hard". it is hard, so make it easier.

You are allowed to accommodate yourself.

a hysterectomy??? but you’re so young!! why remove a perfectly healthy body part?? what if you meet a nice guy and he wants babies?? you have such a lovely temperament you’d be a great mother!! just take a few years to reconsider and i’m sure you’ll change your mind :) anyway i noticed you’re a big huge fatso, have you considered this irreversible elective procedure with a ton of complications where we remove 80% of your stomach so you can never eat normally again? :)

No, no, I think we need to put in some laws and regulations saying that the corporations aren't allowed to do that anymore.

A lot of us can't just "stop buying from the Bad Companies" because they have a MONOPOLY on things that we need to live. Like FOOD.

I'm a renter with a full-time job; I do not have the land, the time, or the means to become a Sustenance Farmer as well! I HAVE to buy food from grocery stores!

Which they know, which is why they all felt real comfy jacking up the prices on everything.

We need those anti-trust and anti-monopoly laws on the books, and we need to see them enforced!

One of the best lessons I ever learned was "you don't have to know everything; you just have to know how to look it up"

this tweet really is fascinating to me. cis women feel so worried for trans boys they will…. wait outside a bathroom. that two young teenagers are using. so worried for them that she would DO said creepy behavior so someone else doesn’t do it, but maliciously.

the kids were fine. they used the bathroom as intended and left. not only do i dislike the implication that two trans kids, kids often perceived as gnc, would be safer in a womens bathroom but also the way she felt so comfortable watching two kids in the bathroom in the name of protecting them. she’s right, it is lunatic behavior!

i would be terrified if knowing that out in public, i could do something as simple as use the bathroom, and some older woman i dont know would watch me in the name of safety. that does not make me feel safe and it worried me more because i am not 13. can you imagine being watched and having no idea, AND youre a fucking middle schooler? that isnt even like “looking out for local kids” its just creepy. jesus.

As @anomalousmancunt pointed out in the replies, this woman is being classically transandrophobic by both infantilizing and demonizing these kids she views as transmasc. They’re so misguided and in need of protection but also who knows what harm those delusional girls are going to do to the real men around them, apparently

Yeah that's weird phrasing. "What they may accuse a man of" so....you're not worried about them, you're victim-blaming them about something that hasn't even happened.

And if it was two cis boys going into a mens bathroom that would be completely innocuous, same as two cis girls going into the womens. So trans kids are uniquely in danger of....accusing adults of rape? Is that the fear? Or that an adult will tell them they're using the wrong bathroom and the kids will accuse the adult of transphobia?

And so she waited outside the mens bathroom, for what exactly? For what purpose? To protect adults from accusations? To bravely run in if a kid yelled? What?

And "giggling back out" just silly little girls doing dumb shit for the lulz but there will consequence for the lulz this isnt sexist this is a SOCIETAL ISSUE the TEENS are causing TROUBLE.

I mean. Objectively/not this particular context, I think discreetly keeping half an eye on kids in public who are goofing around in a way that could be dangerous and could require an adult if something goes wrong, is an OK thing to do. That might be what OP means about "looking out for local kids". I wouldn't intervene. We do have responsibilities to each other as a society as people in community. Possibly also if adults were doing particularly dumb shit, honestly.

But standing right outside a bathroom is not it. And she's pretending it's concern but it's obviously also some weird creep-disgust-fascination with trans kids - I don't necessarily mean sexually- it's almost like she's waiting for something bad to happen to them as much as she's ostensibly waiting to make sure they come out safe. She's worried what damage they might do. What those little freak kids might get up to.

Thats not communal concern for health and well-being, that's not looking out for ones neighbours. It's hating on teenagers in the name of status quo and normalcy. Its hate-condescension-transphobia and its creepy.

"There will be consequences" is ominous too. Is she considering violence against these kids? What's she imagining?

Cis women love fantasizing about trans boys experiencing sexual violence as a way to “prove” to us we’re actually girls. So as others pointed out, she’s both afraid FOR them and afraid OF them - but I’d add that she’s also secretly hopeful they experience this trauma, to detransition us.

I wrote a longass thing about kink and pride and how people are trapping themselves in a closet of their own making and getting mad at everyone else for not similarly engaging in normative sexuality but I deleted it. I deserve some kind of reward... dubloons perhaps

Hahaha okay I'll just say one brief thing [handing back some doubloons] queer people who happily engage in the whole "Eww i hate these icky degenerate other queers, we're normal unlike them" the gates of heaven are closed to you and you will never be happy defining yourself solely by the Aesthetic Du Jour and what you are Not (the caricature of queerness that right wingers have crafted) and I think deep down you know that too

Call me crazy, but I don’t think the people that use Pride Month as an excuse to expose non-consenting adults and sometimes children to their fetishes and be gross in public are the arbiters of who goes to heaven and not.

I'm gonna be as polite as possible:

1) You have almost entirely imagined this group of people. They do not exist. You have fallen for a specific caricature of gay people as sexual predators designed by homophobic right wingers. I would take a second to pause and take a step back and wonder what basis in reality your fears about exhibitionists exploiting kids at Pride have.

2) Gross does not mean harm. Part of living in a public space means learning to distinguish between the two. The temptation to conflate it in order to lend moral credence to your feelings of disgust is powerful but it doesn't make it valid. People will see a gay couple chastely hold hands and be overwhelmed with feelings of disgust. They will see a gay couple give each other a peck on the cheek and think it's the grossest thing they've ever seen in their lives. Disgust alone can't be the sole measure of what is and isn't allowed in public spaces.

3) Sorry to dig up old discourse, but unfortunately there is a difference between "performing" kink and engaging in kink. A person in a dog mask at Pride is, most likely, not necessarily titilated by the activity or feeling aroused in a particular way. Same with people in leather. They're almost certainly just preoccupied with advertising their lifestyles to other queer kinksters in the same way that anyone in a rainbow tee is. Why do you think people wearing leather to Pride are secretly getting off to it? Have you ever spoken to them? Because you'll find their primary emotion, at least in my experience, is largely variations on a theme of "It's so fucking hot here and I wanna go home and shower and get a vodka soda." They're not like, secretly nutting. Seeing someone in leather gear is not "participating" in their kink any more than seeing someone in a rainbow shirt is participating in their gay relationship. You can't "not" consent to seeing someone in leather gear any more than you can "not" consent to seeing someone in a shirt that says like, "I love blowjobs."

3) Pride isn't "for" kids. This isn't to say kids aren't welcome; rather, as an event it did not originate as an activity or gathering catered towards kids. Its rules and goals were never formed with children in mind. I would again urge you to consider why you think Pride is an event that needs to cater to children and why you think a statistically significant number of them are attending Pride specifically with the children in attendance in mind.

oh no! the punishable offence of being gross in public!

people can find anything gross. Some people think chocolate chip cookies are gross! Maybe use a different metric to determine your morality instead of relying on your arbitrary disgust that is so easily manipulated by social mores.