Question then Jax since you have some standards in what you look for in a person to go out with. What do you do if someone is into you and wants to ask you out or likes you and confesses their feelings to you but you dont feel the same or find them attractive. How do you handle that situation?
Well first off, I will commend anyone in asking someoneout that they like because that takes a whole lot of courage just BALLS to doit.
But I’ll just be honest cause I don’t want to wasteanyone’s time or give them false hope cause I see so many people do that.
Now if they did it in a public area wheres theres tonsof folks around and if I just say no everyone’s just gonna start booing me orchiming in cause Humans are stupid annoying like that then I’d politely askthem if we could talk in private and just POLITELY say to them
“You’re very sweet and I’m flattered but I’m just notinto you that way but I wish you the best”
I would never react like “EWWW NOOO” cause I’ve seenthat shit happen several times before and its heartbreaking to witness and it took this person so much courage to ask you out.
NOW on the flipside of that if I ask them if we can gotalk privately and they decide to make a big scene like “JUST GIVE ME A YES ORNO AM I NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU”
Nice Jordan is gone now,
first off you’ve completely just annoyed me by DEMANDING me to give you the time of day.
Secondly I respectfully asked you if we could move somewhere else as I didn’t want to turn you down publicly but now I will straight up say I’m not into you and if you try to say
“OH SO YOU WON’T DATE ME CAUSE YOU DON’T DATE *blank* people”
You’re doing what I fucking hate. Mitigating your own feelings of inadequacy because your feelings just got hurt that the person you liked didn’t reciprocate your feelings and I’ll Fuckin say that in front of everyone and just be blunt about it.
I DO NOT RESPECT PEOPLE Who take their own PERSONAL ISSUES OUT ON OTHER PEOPLE! Because I used to do that and honestly its a bitch punk move and I lost people close to me because of it and thankfully I found meditation to help me keep a clear mind.
And to be honest I fuckin hate when that happens and I’ve seen it many times over the year In High School, in College, in Bars etc theres always someone who gets their feelings hurt and decides that they want to make this person enemy #1 cause the person is not their type.
If a person is BASHING YOU for what you are or saying something like
“Why would I ever go out with someone like you”
Thats one thing to be justifyingly upset over.
But if someone politely says “I’m just not into you” for whatever personal reason they have and lets say you happen to be something like (Black, White, Asian, Middle Eastern, Lesbian Gay, Bisexual Trans, Fat, Too Skinny etc etc)
DONT AUTOMATICALLY TAKE IT LIKE ITS A DISS ON whatever you are! If they are respectful about it and never said a single negative thing to or about you don’t take it personal. There are tons of people who would willingly go for you and this one person just happened to not be into you. And if it is for one of those reasons REALIZE There are 7 billion people on the planet you can easily find someone more of a match for you. Thats life not everyone is gonna love everyone in that way but have some sense cause if you fuckin start attacking them for saying No to you thats gonna just make them sour on the whole situation in the first place and make a once open minded person now judgemental.
DO NOT MITIGATE FEELINGS OF INADEQUACY CAUSE YOU GOT YOUR FEELINGS HURT!
Notice your own self worth, recognize it, Love it, and move on to better things cause just being angry and full of hate will poison you.
Sorry about that little tangent. I saw something like that happen to my friend when we were in college and it pisses me off whenever I think about it.
But as I started this post I think its best just to get it out the way and not give them false hope that maybe one day you’ll like them back cause its going to keep them glued on you and getting their chance. Just be polite but firm if you need to and you can both get on with your lives.
