the criticism lesbians get for having a preference for butch lesbians is.. astounding.
i don’t just mean femme lesbians either, i know a lot of butches who are butch4butch who get a lot of flack too.
us femmes are criticized because we’re “replicating” and “reinforcing” heterosexuality and heteronormativity, as if it’s like, “what’s the point of being a lesbian if you’re just gonna appear like a straight couple?”
butches are criticized when i know many who prefer other butches partly because they feel more at home with them and feel like they have a lot more in common with them, and that love and comfort and solidarity is somehow a personal attack on other people.
and all of us who date butches eventually get the “why not just date a man if you wanna date someone who looks like one anyway” argument at some point in our lives.
i get that femme lesbians need and deserve love too, but butch lesbians? who are so deeply demonized by the rest of the world by daring not to conform to societal expectations of women, who struggle every day with misogyny but those struggles are overlooked because they aren’t feminine, who change the very definition of what it means to be a woman, many of whom struggle for so much of their lives discovering how to be happy with who they are despite the rest of the world telling them that they are “incorrectly female”? i’ll never stop talking about how much love and appreciation i have in my heart for butches. ❤️