If you’re considering telling/asking an adopted person any of the following, or anything similar to such:

May I make a small suggestion?

Ew. Gross! Also, people say “you could have been aborted” when they find out I’m pro-choice and like … Yeah? My mom probably would have had a better life with less children? And I don’t care because I wouldn’t have existed so I wouldn’t have feelings? And my existence isn’t integral to the planet?

If you would ever call anyone a “degenerate” or “freak” in hostility, for any reason, under any circumstances, you’re already on too many levels of fascism. Unpack it.

This.

Also what I like about this post: the mention of “levels of fascism”, fascist isn’t something you become one day with The Wrong Thought, it’s something that slowly comes, makes itself a nice comfy place in your brain. It starts with rhetoric, it tries to appear normal, it disguises itself as “common sense”, as “it’s just an insult for bad people”.

And it’s something you can peel off, starting with understanding that “degenerate” or “freak” aren’t weightless words, they are loaded, and people can be suspicious of you or don’t want to interact with you on the basis of you calling fellow humans “degenerates” for any reason whatsoever.

Jimmy Kimmel’s response to the president saying there were “very fine people on both sides” at Charlottesville 

Seein' too many Twitter refugees asking if they'll get in trouble for saying "kill yourself" to people and while no, you're not gonna get nuked from orbit, that is maybe something you just shouldn't be doing in general perhaps?? Maybe telling people to kill themselves is bad actually?? Some of y'all are wild, why is the first thing you can think to ask on a new platform if you can send one of the worst kinds of harassment to people?? Grow tf up and learn how to use the block button. It'll do wonders for your mood, trust me.

What part of "it is unacceptable to tell another human being to kill themselves" is hard for you people to wrap your heads around?

unpopular opinion but goyim literally is not a bad term and if your response to jewish people saying it is “if you’ll call me that i’ll just call you a jew!” shows that

1. you’re antisemitic, obviously, if your response is to call us a historically dehumanizing term just bc you’re upset

2. you can’t stand being the “other” category for five seconds when we have been our whole lives

3. you’ll only tolerate being the “other” when it’s in pretty words you like such as “non-jewish” or “gentile”

they mean the same thing! jewish people aren’t doing anything wrong by using one over the other, leave us alone lmao

Why I Will Never Shut Up About The Holocaust And Anti-Semitism

Let me tell you a short story. The main reason my grandfather survived the Holocaust was because he was of working age, being 14 in 1939. Instead of spending most of his years in ghettoes and death camps, he was predominantly in labor camps. That meant that the Nazi commandants had at least some incentive to keep their prisoners alive, but only to a point. 

One day three prisoners escaped from the camp. To punish the inmates for the actions of their fellows, every single Jew was lined up in the courtyard. The commandant counted each Jew down the line, shooting every tenth Jew in the head. My grandfather was number nine.

Why do I talk about anti-semitism? Because I am number nine. I am the person who exists by the barest of margins. And if I ever let my guard down about the safety of Jews in the world, I will allow for the possibility that something like that will be done to me or to my children.

Do Jews talk about anti-semtism and the Holocaust too much? No. Anti-semites just don’t want us to talk about them. They know if we stop talking about it people will stop caring about it. If people stop caring about it, they won’t pay attention the next time someone comes for us.

So I’m sorry if it’s annoying. Or if you care about something else more. Or if you buy into anti-semitic myths and believe that Jews are somehow more privileged than the dominant ethnic group of any country other than Israel. 

I will never stop talking about anti-semitism and the Holocaust. I will say “Never Again” with my last dying breath.

Jewish People Problem #40

Having to ask people not to make jokes about the Holocaust because your family was murdered but they still joke about it anyways because it’s ‘funny’ and ‘just a joke’

this is going to amaze some of you but the Hebrew language is older than the state of Israel. Older than theordor Herzl, in fact. And before you go off about how it’s just the modern Hebrew that is evil - Hebrew has had a long history of post exilic use and original composition. “Dror yikra” wasn’t written until 860 c.e. “Lecha Dodi” was composed in the 1500s. Hebrew vocabulary has an important place at the core of diasporic languages like Yiddish. It’s not as simple as “disappearing” at the time of the exile and being “awakened” by Eliezer Ben-yehuda. Plus it’s a generally bad look to paint any middle eastern language as evil, no?

A NON-EXHAUSTIVE BUT NEVERTHELESS EXHAUSTING LIST OF NEO-NAZI AND WHITE SUPREMACIST DOGWHISTLES

since some of y'all apparently need a refresher course. as always, use your judement when deciding if it's a dogwhistle or just innocent usage of a number or symbol

Gonna go full white girl here for a moment

If I ask if a food is spicy at all, and you reply “No, not at all! You can barely feel it!” then that is a contradiction. It is spicy. It may not be very spicy, or even moderately spicy, but it’s still spicy. Please just tell me that straight-out.

I know there’s a good chance you’re mocking me in your head when I say that I cannot handle spices at all, and that even the mildest of sauces, that you insist are barely there, are going to hurt, because I’m mocking me too. I know I’ve got a child’s palate when it comes to spicy food. I know it’s almost laughable, how badly I react to even table pepper in more than the most minuscule of doses.

But if I ask “is this spicy,” and you answer “not at all,” and then proceed to tell me that it’s mild, then I will still consider it too spicy.

If I ask “is this spicy at all” and you say “no” while knowing that it is, just a tiny bit, because you can’t imagine anyone reacting, then please don’t be offended when I take one bite and then throw it out, because I asked for a reason.

It’s a dumb thing to talk about, but… yeah. Just do your cannot-handle-spices friends a favor and be honest when they ask. Mild is still a level of spice.

(This goes doubly for strangers, because if they have a digestive problem like, IDK, ulcers or something, then spicy food can irritate the stomach lining further and cause extreme pain. Some people claim that capsaicin can be used to treat ulcers, but you know… just play it safe, yeah?)

Let people be babies about spices! It doesn’t hurt you any. 

This is important. 

Food doesn’t taste the same to everyone. There are scientific reasons that some people might be able to tolerate ‘mild’ spice and others might not. If someone tells you they are sensitive to spice, that doesn’t mean they’re experiencing what you experience when you eat those foods. It means that for them, it feels far different. It hurts. 

My partner is super sensitive to spice. She calls herself a ‘spice wimp,’ which I hate, because there’s nothing wimpy about not wanting to suffer through horrible burning sensations in your mouth. Which is what she has to suffer, when someone tells her something “isn’t that spicy” when in fact it is. 

This isn’t about flexing.This isn’t about being tough. This is about acknowledging that the chemical and anatomical composition of someone else’s taste receptors is different than yours, and you need to be sensitive to that. 

I’ve learned to detect even the smallest amount of spice, so I can tell her if something is probably safe for her to eat or not. I’ve learned that the tiniest burning sensation to me means something is going to cause her physical pain. I’ve gotten better at identifying which foods will be okay and which will not. And you know what? I’m able to do it without being a dick about it. It has nothing to do with who’s’ tough and who’s a wimp and everything to do with the fact that her nerves process spice differently than mine do. 

She’s not a wimp, and she’s not a baby. She’s just someone whose DNA doesn’t let her eat spicy foods the way someone with my DNA can. That’s all. 

yes!! I feel really shitty about being unable to handle food spicier than kfc strips so I’d be grateful if people were mindful of that💞

Also someone might have sensory issues, and liking or disliking spice has nothing whatsoever to do with race 👍

Or someone might have some kind of GI issue where they can’t eat spicy foods and eating it could make them get sick. 

PLEASE don’t do anything for me if you are going to throw it in my face later.

I know social media is full of death threats and suicide baiting and violence all over the place, and I know people often use this form of language in a sarcastic way, but please know that if I see that bullshit in my notes at all, you’re blocked. No second chances. No excuses.

It’s harassment, and it’s unacceptable, and I have a zero tolerance policy for that kind of bullshit. Don’t let the screendoor hit you in the ass on the way out.

There’s this… phenomenon… I’ve witnessed in several fandoms, where a particular blog gets really popular within a fandom.

And suddenly that blog will start getting people literally asking them for permission to hold certain opinions. I don’t mean someone just asking “hey can I get your feelings/opinions on this subject” but “is it okay if I think/do xyz?” like some child asking their parent if they can go somewhere.

Worse, is when these blogs start taking these questions seriously and feeding them answers. Like they suddenly start believing that they truly have this authority. I mean it’s bad enough when people do this and the blogger is just like “well I have my own opinion but don’t ask me” but when they start to actually act like they can tell other people what they are “allowed” to do.

This I the creepiest fucking thing on tumblr I swear.

Why would you give some random stranger on the internet that much power over your mind? Why would you be so afraid of forming your own opinions that you have to ask someone else to give you opinions to hold?

And so often they end up with a rabble ready to crucify anyone who doesn’t do as they are told, and that’s when I really run for the hills…

anyway misorienting + misgendering lgbtqia+ people because they ship a pairing you don’t like isn’t okay.

i get that it’s a lot easier for some of y'all to make arguments against ships you hate if you pretend everyone who ships it is “cishet” but there is not a single popular pairing that exists where the majority of the fanbase is entirely devoid of lgbtqia+ people, particularly when we’re talking about fandoms on tumblr where there is a large lgbtqia+ demographic. talking over lgbtqia+ people, stuffing your fingers in your ears, and going “lalala can’t hear these nasty cishets” and willfully denying their orientation and gender identities is an entirely shitty thing to do.

and no, it’s not okay if you’re lgbtqia+ yourself.

and no, it doesn’t matter how “nasty” you think the ship is.

if you can’t make an argument without denying a person’s identity then your argument wasn’t good to begin with.

PSA:

If you deliberately keep referring to someone as a “person with autism” because we’re “people first and foremost,” even after they’ve told you they prefer “autistic person,” by not respecting their choice, you’re NOT putting the person first.

Aka, you’re being a “person with hypocrisy.”

Fun idea - Stop mocking aro culture for once. I keep seeing posts joking telling people to go outside in reference to aro people trying to explain squishes and other alloromantic people are mocking the idea of queerplatonic relationships and saying it’s literally just friendship and that people are idiots.

Please, just… Stop. If you don’t understand it, that’s okay! You don’t need to, but if you don’t have the experience you can’t tell people that the way they experience things is invalid or identical to some other thing.

tl;dr: mocking squishes and queerplatonic relationships isn’t funny and I really hope some of you guys will understand that and stop.