#questioning – @izzyizumi on Tumblr

a person who is questioning their gender identity is allowed to say that they’re not comfortable with their birth name or that they don’t like certain pronouns. a person who is questioning is allowed to try new names and pronouns and ways of presentation. just because they are questioning does not mean that it’s okay for you to treat them disrespectfully and call them things they’ve said they’re uncomfortable with.

“you don’t know what you are yet so why does it matter if i keep calling you by that name?” isn’t a good excuse.

“you don’t know if that’s how you’re going to dress from now on so i can say how much i hate it all i want” is a shit thing to do.

a person questioning their gender identity does not make them someone who it’s okay to be an ass to. respect people who are questioning their gender identity the same as you would anyone else.

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sapphic-sprite

I just hope all closeted nonbinary people have a nice day and remember they won’t have to be closeted forever even if it can sometimes feel that way. one day you will meet people who use your pronouns, your name, and/or the language you prefer to describe yourself.

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koushirouizumi

ndmlm

comprehensive list of people allowed to question your identity:

you

and hey, you don’t have to be questioning your own identity 24/7 either. sometimes it’s good to just let yourself be for a bit. you don’t need to explain yourself, sometimes not even to yourself.

#mentallyillmlm #lgbtqiapn positivity #lgbtqiapn inclusivity #lgbtqiapn #lgbtqiapn validation #lgbtqiapn acceptance #lgbtqiapn support #questioning #questioning support #closeted support #closeted #gender identity #identity positivity #gender identity positivity #labels positivity #not dgmn #IMPORTANT

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genderqueerpositivity

Here is your regularly scheduled reminder:

Queer is a whole and complete identity in itself.
Queer is an identity with a rich and complex history.
Queer people do not have to further clarify or explain their identities unless they choose to.
You are not owed the specific details of a queer persons identity if the person doesn't want to share those details with you.
Literally, demanding that a person share details about their gender and/or sexuality that they aren't ready to share (or may not have even figured out yet) because not knowing makes you "uncomfy" is invasive, creepy, and entitled as fuck.
Coming out as queer is perfectly valid--and no less significant or important than coming out as lesbian or gay is.
People who identity only as queer are every bit as much a part of our communities as lesbian and gay people are.
Discourse about a queer person's identity and whether or not a queer person is "reALly LgBT" or not is queerphobia. Full stop.