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Aspec labels are good. Microlabels are good. Any label that's useful, that helps people make sense of their identity or orientation, or helps someone feel more comfortable in their own skin is a good label.

*tumblr user voice* oh I don't hate microidentities out of basic bigotry or anything no nooo I have a totally good reason it's, it's um. it's. uuuuuuh. capitalism. people using microidentities and making little flags in their own time for no monetary gain is a way capitalism is tearing our communities apart sure mm hmm yeah that sounds legit. oh also unrelated but by the way don't search "asexual" on my blog.

There can be as many microlabels as there are stars in the sky, and as long as someone finds them useful, I won’t care.

If having all those labels makes someone feel happy and secure in themself and their identity, that’s a good thing.

If you don’t need multiple labels to be happy, congratulations, but stop shitting on people who do.

binary people need to realize that no one is asking y'all to remember the names and definitions of every nonbinary label that exists. there aren’t any nonbinary folks out here hiding behind the bushes, just waiting to ambush y'all and give you a spelling test. we don’t carry pop quizzes in our back pockets just waiting to pull them out and interrogate you about what this word or that word means.

i doubt there are even any nonbinary people who remember all of the labels nbs can use—i know i don’t! i have the memory of a damn goldfish and i have to use google every time someone makes a request on this blog for posts about certain identities because there are only like 5 i can confidently remember how to spell and define on any given day.

our labels are not for you or about you, they are for us. they are for our own personal use. they are for our piece of mind from being able to put a name to our experiences. all we want from you is to be treated with basic decency, to believe us when we say we are what we are, and to not try to argue with us like you know what we feel and what we need better than we do.

what we don’t want is you asking us, indignant and aghast like the hundred other binary folks before you, “but how can you expect me to POSSIBLY remember all those labels?!” before you walk off in a huff and go on to treat nonbinary like crap and deny we even exist because widening your worldview a bit is too much work — we are not asking you to remember jackshit except for how to treat others how you’d want to be treated.

Fact #708: It’s okay if you only want to describe your gender in vague terms. And it’s okay if you want to have a super specific label for it. Both macro and micro labels are 100% valid and you shouldn’t have to feel like you have to give up on either of them because of other people’s demands. People telling you that you are being “too vague” or “too specific” are wrong; you are allowed to describe yourself in whatever ways you want.

i'm here to tell you that your unique relationship to your gender or sexuality, your micro-label, your neopronouns, your nonbinariness, however you understand yourself to exist, none of that is a threat to the greater LGBTQIA+ community. anyone who tells you your identity label is problematic is wrong and probably very insecure with their own identity.

you are so important to the community and we need you.

the point of “gender is a social construct” isn’t that gender is meaningless, it’s that we should be allowed to decide what it means

Say yes to gender identity

Say no to gender roles

Gender identity is “you get to decide what your gender means”

Gender roles is “society gets to decide what your gender means, regardless of your feelings”

You don’t owe other people an explanation for why you chose the labels you did. You don’t have to justify it to anyone.

There’s no such thing as using too many labels for your identity. You’re allowed to use as many or as few words as you want to describe yourself.