(((Digimon Is Forever)))

Some people on this site really need to just admit that they don’t like m/f ships and move on. 

I get the desire to see lgbtq+ representation, but people act like two white women/white men are the be all to end all, they never recognize pairings with people of color.  And they never consider how our identities intersect.  Like they don’t realize that seeing a black character gaining importance through relationships is often the only representation queer black people get, we don’t get the lgbtq+ part.  So for me, seeing people have violently negative reactions to het romances involving a black character becomes a red flag.

every time someone bashes an interracial couple bc they’re ‘hets’ i can actually hear my brain cells dying

It is a truth universally acknowledged, that fandom will advocate the romantic sub-plot between two main characters, unless one character is portrayed by an actor who is a person of colour. This phenomenon within white fandom is called ‘why can’t they remain as friends, I feel a certain discomfort with a potential relationship between *insert ship*, for which the strength of this WOC will be threatened by any romantic subtext because every woman of colour is an island”. This phenomena or “discomfort” is commonly known as racism. 

het relationships involving characters of color are not heteronormative and rooting for them to stay platonic isn’t ground breaking or progressive. full stop. end of discourse

the prevalence of stories in which a “happy ending” means marriage and children is definitely an issue, which traces back to heteronormative expectations and outdated boomer notions of success – that being said, it doesn’t mean that a happy ending involving marriage and children is inherently bad, nor that there isn’t a place for those kinds of stories in modern fiction. children are often a shorthand representation of the main characters leaving out a legacy and, in stories about wars and similar atrocities, of new life coming forth after a long period of death and metaphorical barreness. depending on the themes and motifs of your story, having your main character become a parent as part of the happy resolution can be absolutely fitting and I wish some people here weren’t so against it on principle.       

this is specially relevant for characters of color because, even if the story itself never touches upon issues of race, the mere choice of showing families of color thriving and growing in fiction is an uplifting and revolutionary act in and of itself when there are entire hate groups irl dedicated to the cause of wiping out ethnic populations altogether. just because you are personally tired of seeing white characters end up in nice traditional marriages with 2.5 children doesn’t mean that the entire concept has become obsolete all of a sudden.

I would really like if LGBTQ folks stopped behaving as if all heterosexual ships are created equal. Shipping two heterosexual white people is never the same as ships that are interracial and I’m getting bored of the whole ‘yeah but it’s still het!!!!’ as a reason to hate interracial pairings.

*signal boost*  ESPECIALLY if the ship contains a black woman.  please fall back.

every time someone bashes an interracial couple bc they’re ‘hets’ i can actually hear my brain cells dying

tbh i think there’s a problem with how some of you see queer rep where you seem to think queer rep means “a queer character being in a happy m/m or f/f relationship by the end of canon” rather than just “a character who is canonically queer”

this is shown by the countless occasions where i’ve seen people act like queer characters don’t ‘count’ as rep if they don’t have a same-gender significant other, where they acted like a character suddenly stops being queer rep if they were in a same-gender relationship that did not last (particularly if it ended badly), and especially those of you who have viewed multisexual characters in m/f relationships as not being ‘real queer rep’. 

like…don’t get me wrong, it’s 100% okay to want to see queer characters in f/f or m/m relationships in canon. it’s okay to have slash and femslash ships and be disappointed when they don’t make it to the end. but please stop acting like a character’s queerness is dependent on them being in a f/f or m/m relationship and that they’re suddenly not queer the second that’s not happening. this is especially bad when it comes to canon multisexual characters (who are still queer no matter who they date) but it’s also really devaluing to canon gay and lesbian characters as well. 

a queer character is still a queer character if they’re single. they’re still queer if they have a break-up. they’re still queer if they’re multisexual and end up in a m/f relationship. queerness is not a thing that comes and goes depending on who someone is dating at the moment.