You don’t have to prove that you’re nonbinary to anyone and that includes other nonbinary and/or trans people.

Trans and nonbinary are still just people, and people often want you to change to fit their expectations rather than make them have to learn something new.

But, learning and growing is what life is about, so don’t hold back.

i’ve literally been here the whole time

Reblog if you think a woman can be complete without children

Trying to prove a point to my parents

oh my god will it fucking kill you to say “they”

That is a fuckin mess

If they go by “they”, just use fucking “they”. Jesus fucking christ it costs 0 cents to be a decent human fucking being and use the correct pronouns

Sailor Moon Super S : We love fashion! The Stylish Guardians

“Be normal in the replies!” “Why can’t people just be normal about–” “Do you [some douchey thing here] or are you normal?”

Fuck off. Fuck all the way off. Normal does not equal kind, does not equal accepting, does not equal chill. Normal is context-dependent and a lot of the fucking time it’s actually fucking awful.

It was normal for my classmates to use ‘gay’ as a pejorative. It’s normal for me to face antisemitism in the workplace. It’s normal for ableism to influence listed job requirements.

No, I’m not normal, and it has nothing to do with whether or not I’m gonna act like a jackass.

The sentiment is good but I’ve had enough “you don’t owe cis people androgyny” to last me a lifetime, time for cis people owe ME androgyny

Like, why does it gotta be so damn hard just to exist as an androgynous person. Stop calling me wearing a women’s cardigan “feminine” when I am very clearly wearing androgynous and masculine stuff with it. Stop hen pecking trans men’s wardrobes like “hmm, I’m not sure a man would wear that!” Stop asking people if they’re transmasc or transfeminine when you clearly have no fucking idea what that even means. Same with “alignment.” Quit analyzing trans and nb people and getting upset when they aren’t clearly identifiable as a single binary gender presentation! That’s the point! That’s why androgyny is a thing. Leave androgynous nb and trans people a l o n e we have literally done nothing to you by presenting androgynously.

… evidently I have tapped into a well of rage I didn’t even know I had

Anyway if you’re androgynous you look incredible today may all your favorite clothes be clean when you get dressed

Send it to your friends! Your teachers! Your parents! Yourself!

You’re allowed to prioritize one part of your identity over another. You’re allowed to see it as all equally important and all just as much a piece of who you are.

Thinking about fashion and working on your appearance as a nonbinary person is not vanity.

It’s one of the most harmless, yet effective, methods of undermining a system that constantly works to erase us.

It is our way of breaking free, revealing truth, and finally being seen.

Don’t you ever wish... you were a more... average...schoolgirl? Do you ever get lonely because ordinary happiness is so far away? I’m not sure what “ordinary” happiness would be, but I don’t think my current self is “abnormal”. What I am now is what is closest to my true self. Tenoh Haruka who fell in love with motorsport can only live in this manner, no matter what she does. I have something more valuable than “ordinary” happiness. I guess.

if you want to ask a bisexual or asexual person about their sexual history to verify that they’re queer, but you don’t want them to take it the wrong way, try this useful communication technique:

give them twenty dollars and go away.

As a bi person, I can attest to the beneficiality of this method.

As an ace person, I concur.

As a biromantic asexual person, I further confirm this will absolutely work.

I’ve been on this website a pretty long time - since 2012 - and in the non-straight side of it for that whole time, so I’d like to talk about a bit of recent history, both of the site and from my point of view.

When I started, I didn’t yet identify as asexual or aromantic spectrum. I hadn’t really heard of them before. But in the first few years I was on Tumblr, there were so many ace and aro people, proud, talking about their experiences, sharing jokes and puns, inventing terms for their experiences (squish, zucchini, WTFromantic, etcetera, etcetera). It was wonderful. I learned that I wasn’t alone and what I was feeling wasn’t freakishly unique. I started identifying as ace and arospec. I started an ace/aro humor blog, which got very popular.

Then exclusionists suddenly started appearing. They attacked everyone with a wiff of non-alloness and attacked anyone who defended them. They threw around accusations of homophobia, pedophilia, racism, anything they could think of. There was massive discourse. Everyone was in turmoil.

Ace/aro people stopped talking about their experiences because they knew they would be jumped on. We stopped using our words because we knew they would be used against us. We shut down our blogs to desperately try to escape the hate, anonymous and personal. I shut down my humor blog which had given so many people innocent laughter. People took their identities out of their descriptions - including me - because we knew they would be quoted and used as weapons in debate.

Then, the exclusionists died down.

I want to make this very clear. You don’t see less exclusionist debate now because the exclusionists died off. You see it because the ace and aro people did - or at least pretended to. We stopped being proud, and laughing, and using our words. They’re not attacking us anymore because we’re in hiding. I can’t remember the last time I heard someone happily talking about their squish or their zucchini. (And I bet you’re thinking, right now, how silly those words are, aren’t you? That’s what they’ve done. They’ve taken our playfulness and used it to belittle and demean us.)

Exclusionists have moved on to the “queer is a slur” battle because they already won this one. They already beat ace and aro people into submission and now they’re moving on to queer people.

I’ve seen the rise and fall of ace and aro people on Tumblr. This is not our rise. It is our fall.

But we don’t have to accept that. Be proud again. Start laughing again. Start your blogs back up. I’ll start mine. Remember that you can use words like squish, and zucchini, and quoiromantic, and they don’t need to make you cringe. If it’s been so long since we were open that you don’t know those words, find one of the blogs that remains and learn about your community. Stand again with the other marginalized people who defended us during the main force of the battle, the trans people, the bi people, the queer people. To those people, please, help us. We’re scared. But pride is a wonderful, wonderful thing. And we deserve to find it again.

I want to take this moment to officially announce on my blog that I am in fact aromantic and extremely proud of it.

I’m in a queerplatonic relationship with an aroace person and a demiaro ace person and I love them both so much.

I will not tolerate any sort of aspec hate on my blog, I’ve never felt more at home than with the aspec community, for this community is so full of wonderful people.

And a soft reminder to any aspec person reading; you will always be safe on my blog and I will protect and defend you to my goddamn grave.

grey-ace and grey-aro very queer bat, here

Big old queer ace here. Always here, always queer.

I’m not ace, I am queer, and ace exclusionists should fuck off my blog. All exclusionists but let me single out the ace ones here.

Not ace, extremely queer, will never stop identifying as queer. Ace and aro folx are explicitly invited to be awesome around me, and I think my stance on exclusionary bullshit is p clear by now. (It sucks.)