Actually horrified when under posts made by people with autism or other neurodivergent people who are proud of it and trying to spread awareness about its symptoms, people comment shit like “you’re obviously faking it because I have autism and I’m embarrassed about it, no one would actually expose themselves like this” like bro not everyone beats themselves over the head with self hatred??? And it’s not your business to spread that hatred to others???

Those kinds of people get blocked. I’m autistic, I’ll feel however the hell I want about it. They don’t have to surf my blog if they can’t stand seeing people being happy.

the number of friends you have doesn’t determine your value

Reblog this if you think it’s okay to support multiple different ships for the same character in a fandom.

this entire website could be deleted right this second and i still wouldn’t move to twitter sorry

I know social media is full of death threats and suicide baiting and violence all over the place, and I know people often use this form of language in a sarcastic way, but please know that if I see that bullshit in my notes at all, you’re blocked. No second chances. No excuses.

It’s harassment, and it’s unacceptable, and I have a zero tolerance policy for that kind of bullshit. Don’t let the screendoor hit you in the ass on the way out.

When will people learn that disabled people don't have to prove anything to you and that I especially don't care about your opinions on whether someone is "disabled enough" to meet your arbitrary standards?

Most disabled people I know have had the experience of people not fully believing their symptoms. It takes people years to get diagnosed. And then people still don't believe them.

Believe people when they say they are in pain. Believe people when they say they are struggling with something. I'd rather believe the vast majority of people who are dealing with very real struggles than worry about the others. I don't care if some people are faking. I really don't.

for the record, ‘not feeling anything’ is a valid and not unusual response to trauma or grief

so if you feel empty and devoid of feeling, it’s not because you’re a cold and uncaring person.

Sometimes, not feeling anything is the only way you can cope.

Be prepared for a delayed reaction, too. It’s very common to be totally calm during a crisis, and then days or weeks (or years) later suddenly get hit with a tidal wave of “HOLY SHIT THAT HAPPENED.”

Sometimes your mind waits until it feels safe to start processing things emotionally. It’s a powerful survival strategy, but it can really blindside you, because just as you start to feel like things are okay, you’re overwhelmed by the realization of how not-okay things were before.

This may not happen, and that’s okay too. But it’s something to watch out for when your initial reaction is numbness.

recently i had traumatic memories from when i was like 13 that i didn’t even know i had pop back up out of the blue. i’m almost 22. these things really can show up anytime.

and that’s okay.

People bring up 9/11 to derail or shut down so many conversations, that whenever I’m talking to someone about modern history and politics that actually do relate to 9/11, I have to cringe and preface it with, “okay, not to make it all about 9/11, but it is definitely related to 9/11. I’m so sorry. I also do not want to talk about 9/11.”

This post brought to you by a recent conversation I had with someone about reactionary trends in American media and a backslide in many different kinds of representation post-2001.

you dont identify as queer and don’t wanna be called that? thats totally fine, I’ll respect that (as the majority of queer people do, but thats another conversation).

But I dont wanna be fucking called “q***r” or “q slur” or “qr” or any other censored version of the word. I am queer. I am not some filthy word for you to treat like it’s gonna burn a hole in your tongue.

You’d be rightfully furious if i started going around tagging posts with “gay” as “g slur” or “g*y” or post with “lesbian” as “l slur” or “l*****n.” that’d be homophobic as fuck. Both those words started as slurs, and were reclaimed and made into terms to describe an identity, just like queer has been. I recognize some people have trauma with the word queer, but the truth is some people are triggered by terms like “gay” after growing up in the modern age where every bad and undesirable thing was labeled “gay” by their peers, silently suffering with the knowledge that their peers would likely consider them bad and undesirable too, maybe even predatory or creepy. That wouldn’t give them the right to be homophobic or go telling people to tag it as a slur or even that they’re not allowed to identify with it. Its all the fucking same.

Don’t call me q***r. I am not a slur. I am not a homophobic, transphobic weapon. I am a human, and I am queer.

(REGs and TERFs/radfems don’t touch, this post isnt for you. everyone else can reblog.)

Thank you.

You decide if your relationship is defined as romantic, platonic or something that falls outside that binary or undefined.

You decide if your actions are romantic, platonic, something that falls outside or undefined.

What makes these things what they are is your intent and how you perceive them for yourself and your partner(s).

You’re allowed to define yourself in vague or unspecified terms if you want to. You’re allowed to use broad labels or no labels at all.

Aspec labels are good. Microlabels are good. Any label that's useful, that helps people make sense of their identity or orientation, or helps someone feel more comfortable in their own skin is a good label.

“Why do you always have to make it gay” buddy, I’m not making it gay. The gay is an incidental side effect of a completely different nefarious authorial agenda.

Fact #620: Binary people’s opinions on the validity of nonbinary genders are unwanted and irrelevant. All nonbianry genders are equally valid, no matter what people, binary people especially, may try to say.

‘Uwu wlnb/mlnb is fetishising bc I PERSONALLY id more as a man/woman and i wanna be treated that way instead’

Okay: have you considered these terms are aimed at non-binaries who don’t use binary alignment terminology (male aligned/female aligned) and see no positivity of themselves, no posts getting cute women and men supporting them, supporting relationships with them, talking about their attraction & crushes on someone who is nb, or their partners, who deserve to feel gushed over, and have positivity too?

Have you considered never seeing any content aimed at us makes us feel unattractive and unlovable? Have you considered few want to misgender themselves into a binary category just to receive this? Have you considered binary trans men and women can also be attracted to us when you go on about fetishizing trans people?

Have you considered calling yourself attracted to a nb person doesn’t mean you’re saying you’d be interested in Literally Every NB Person or that nb is one gender? Have you considered most if not all wlnb/mlnb posts i’ve seen so far were made by nbs themselves, OR their partners directed at their nb partner.

Have you considered if it doesn’t apply to you don’t use it? Have you considered, maybe, this wasn’t really intended for you? Have you considered letting nonbinary people who don’t align to the binary have this One Thing for once?