Resources about Issues in Adoption, History & Present; Adoptee & First-Mother Voices

For @confused-goy, who asked for books, websites, etc., about adoption issues. These are all resources that follow the spirit of Flipping the Script on our mainstream view of adoption, and center on justice, reform, and activism.

All are encouraged to use these resources and reblog this list.

Nonfiction Books

The Child Catchers: Rescue, Trafficking, and the New Gospel of Adoption by Kathryn Joyce - “Anyone who seeks to adopt—of whatever faith or no faith, and however well-meaning—is affected by the evangelical adoption movement, whether they know it or not. The movement has shaped the way we think about adoption, the language we use to discuss it, the places we seek to adopt from, and the policies and laws that govern the process.”
The Girls Who Went Away: The Hidden History of Women Who Surrendered Children for Adoption in the Decades Before Roe V. Wade by Ann Fessler - This period in U.S. history is known as the Baby Scoop Era
Black Anthology: Adult Adoptees Claim Their Space edited by Susan Harris O'Connor, Diane René Christian, and Mei-Mei Akwai Ellerman - A collection of short memoirs and pieces by black adoptees
The Language of Blood by Jane Jeong Trenka - A memoir written by a Korean adoptee
A Long Way Home by Saroo Brierley - The memoir on which Lion (2016) was based
I’ve read a few dozen books about adoption/being adopted; these are just some highlights.

Films & Documentaries

6 Word Adoption Memoir Project - If you don’t want to watch a long film, start here (17 min.)
Adopted - Ignore the comments (or perhaps: read them to get a sense of people’s typical reaction to an adoptee sharing her experience and pain)
The Adopted Life - Angela Tucker’s YouTube channel; her website is here and her documentary is called Closure
Off and Running
Resilience
Somewhere Between

Websites & Articles

Adoptee Rights Law
Bastard Nation - These first two links have information about the efforts to open sealed birth records and combat deportation; this page for starters might of be of interest
Dear Adoption - Letters written by adoptees from all walks of life
The Lost Daughters - A blog written and run by women adoptees
P.S. - Stories of Adoption Reunion - Written by those in reunion
…which is a part of Family Preservation 365
Article: “10 Things Adoptees Want You to Know”

Podcasts

Adoptees On - The most recent series focused on interviews with adult adoptees who are survivors of Canada’s Sixties Scoop (the abduction of First Nations children from their families, usually then adopted by white non-native Christians); host Haley Radke’s past series are worth a listen. She sometimes has therapists, who are adoptees themselves, on her show as well
Born in June, Raised in April
Out of the Fog [ended, as far as I know]
The Rambler [ended] - Interviews with transracial adoptees

#actuallydonorchild #adoption #adoption resources #non normative families resources #non normative families #resources #adoption history #history #us history #antiracism #transracial #transracial resources #abortion #adoptees rights #human rights #transethnic #birth records #activism #social justice #*Reblogging for the Resources #*DO NOT DERAIL #(I'm still making my way through these)#(A lot of this material may be TOUGH to read and ***YOU WILL LIKELY BE MADE UNCOMFORTABLE BY IT***)#(But again I am sick to DEATH of seeing constant vagueing and FANWARS about {x} so and so chara{s} involving *NON CANONICAL* Adoption wank-#historical revisionism #donor children rights #(Again also interconnect with A LOT OF THIS so YES *my* personal experience is relevant and this kind of info IS)#(RELEVANT TO ME PERSONALLY so YES I'm reblogging to MY BLOG for MY REFERENCE)#(+in my or donor childrens case the issues are *also* very very adjacent to being given legal access to our biological relatives)#MEDICAL RECORDS

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I found sources.

The word “man” was gender neutral and referred to both sexes until the 13th century

The female specific pronoun “she” was invented in the 12th century.

The word “girl” was gender neutral and referred to children of both sexes until the 15th century

High heels were invented for men and were worn predominantly by men until the 16th century

From the mid 16th century to the 19th century boys would typically wear dresses until the age of 7

Until the early 1930s pink was considered the appropriate colour for baby boys and blue was the colour for baby girls

In 2017, a Christian couple pull their 6yo son out of a primary school because his classmate is transgender - citing their “traditional beliefs” IMPORTANT NOTE: Last source is transphobic and from a pro-life website that attempts to defend the dumb ass couple. Feel free to ignore it if you prefer, but it was included for the sake of accuracy.

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Reblogging because verifiable sources make every information 70% better. Thanks for the addition!

#lgbtqiapn #lgbtqiapn informative #lgbtqiapn resources #resources #history #*Reblogging to Inform #*NOT UP FOR DEBATE #colors #pink #blue #fashion #fashion history #clothing #color has no gender #important #*Reblogging for the Resources #*DO NOT REBLOG TO ARGUE OR DEBATE OR I WILL BLOCK #current events #us current events #conservative rhetoric #republicans rhetoric #us republicans rhetoric #conservative xtain rhetoric #transphobia #queerphobia #gnc tag #not dgmn #(This is why I Hate It when my fandoms metafandoms begin to get on their Debates TM about Clothing TM and Fashion TM and Colors TM again)#(Bonus if they try to determine if charas are ~Allowed~ to be called GNC aka Gender Non conforming based on such Theories TM of theirs)#(Even bigger bonus when they try to Debate TM actually GNC & LGBTQIAPN+ fans endlessly on this for Years +Not Geting It.. AKA : Please Stop)

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Anonymous asked:

Hey this is probably a really dumb question but does the Jewish calendar have a leap year?

sorekbekarmi-deactivated2022051 answered:

Yes it sure does! Its called a shana meuberet, a pregnant year.

The Jewish calendar is Lunar-Solar. Its an approximate solar year with months that follow the lunar cycle. However, there are slightly less than 12 lunar cycles in a full solar year, so, a purely lunar calendar would gradually “slide” off of solar/seasonal time without a leap year, and thats not possible for the Jewish calendar, because we need our holidays to be tied to the seasons they represent, because they’re agricultural.

But, you can’t insert an extra day or week, because that would knock the months out of phase with the moon, which is also unacceptable for religious reasons - almost all Jewish holidays occur on (or very near) a full or new moon.

In the ancient world, sightings of the new moon in Jerusalem were used as the beginning of each month, announced via shofar and a system of messengers. (The reason some holidays have an “extra” day outside of Israel in many minhagim, like Shavuot, Pessach day 2, Rosh Hashana, etc, is so that people who lived farther than a days ride from Jerusalem would still be able to celebrate the holiday.

Also in the ancient world, they would adjust the calender based on the growth stage of barley around the time of Pesach. If the barley wasn’t ripe by the time the moon changed, they would wait for another month.

And that’s how the Jewish leap year works! We add a whole extra month. Specifically, the extra month before Pesach! Kind of. Because Purim is supposed to always fall four weeks before Pesach as a beacon of anxiety, the extra month is actually Adar א, Adar 1. And the normal month of Adar with the holidays and fasts which occurs in all other years becomes Adar ב, or Adar 2, the 13th month.

Now, just like the Gregorian calendar, we now rely on mathematical formulas derived from celestial observation, instead of directly using celestial observations as a clock. It works better. (But the Hebrew calender still has a tinnnnnyyyy gap, and is very very slowly creeping forwards, which is why Thanksgivikah will never happen EVER again, actually.)

The pattern for leap years by number is a 19 year cycle, with 7 leap years, with the 3rd, 6th, 8th, 11th, 14th, 17th, and 19th years being leap years.

12 12 (13) 12 12 (13) 12 (13) 12 12 (13) 12 12 (13) 12 12 (13) 12 (13)

My favorite fun fact of all time is that you can remember the pattern of Jewish leap years with the intervals of the major scale. (A whole tone is analogous to three years, and a half tone is analogous to two years.)

W W H W W W H

Its harder to write down because there are multiple ways you could visualize it, but, once you get it you won’t forget it.

#jewish tag #jewish #jewish resources #jewish informative #jewish calender #calenders #timelines #leap year #cultural differences #jewish culture #jewish holidays #not dgmn #not fandom #*Reblogging to Inform #*Reblogging for the Resources #(Filed Under Topics I Am Coming Back To LATER)#(HI ok PSA)#(Do Not Debate Me On Timelines Unless You Want Me To Break These Things Down To You Bye I Will Come Back To This)#(What They Said)#(Most of the time people try to debate timelines with me it's like)#(They don't... even understand..... Jewish culture things nor relevant history at all)#(And then I have to say 'hey um you remember I'm Jewish right')#('Yeah why???')#('You know I don't care about things like Zodiac mythology and such right???...')#*GOYIM DO NOT REBLOG TO ARGUE OR DEBATE OR I WILL BLOCK YOU #*Goyim can Boost in Support #(Like I KNOW I one time participated in headcanons discussions but)#(You Guys This Is Getting Completely ridiculous ok Please PLEASE remember other cultures exist too)#('Haha hey do you think x chara was born on a leap year???' 'well um what kind of leap year do you mean' 'you know---' Like Id DISCUSS But)#(*That is not to say I dont find such HEADCANONS fun but the ENDLESS real World based TM TIMELINE DEBATES i do NOT find fun ok bye)

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listen… i’m a lesbian and i know full well what oppression based on love is like… but i wish white gay folks wouldn’t act like sexuality is the only reason anyone’s ever felt that

there are people in my family who’ve been disowned because they married someone of a different colour to them… i’m mixed race and the very concept of my existence would’ve been illegal in the us when my parents were born. the supreme court only ruled against discrimination of mixed-race marriages in 1967! that’s barely 50 years ago. homophobia is an awful thing to experience and i know that from first hand experience but i’m begging you to remember that gay people aren’t the only ones being killed for who they love. please remember the struggles faced by Black and brown people when you talk about oppression. please have some solidarity with your nonwhite friends (especially your nonwhite gay friends!) when you talk about dismantling the systems that keep us alone and isolated. please remember the horrible history that is anti-miscegenation laws when you talk about equal marriage rights, because they aren’t just for white gay people.

this is okay for white people to reblog

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Mixed-race marriages were still being denied in 2009. This is not ancient history. Just because it’s law, doesn’t mean bigots give up their preferences. In communities that shelter and protect bigotry, it takes a long, long time for oppressed people to get the same rights everyone else has.

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A LGBTQ/Queer Jewish Reading List (in no particular order)

Nice Jewish Girls, a lesbian anthology edited by Evelyn Torton Beck
Twice Blessed, edited by Christie Balka and Andy Rose
Queer Jews, edited by David Shneer and Caryn Aviv
Mentsh: On Being Jewish and Queer, edited by Angela Brown
Found Tribe, edited by Lawrence Schimel
Balancing on the Mechitza: Transgender in the Jewish Community, edited by Noach Dzmura
Between Sodom and Eden, by Lee Walzer
God vs. Gay?: The Religious Case for Equality, by Jay Michaelson
Through the Door of Life: A Jewish Journey Between Genders, by Joy Ladin
Blood, Marriage, Wine, and Glitter, by S. Bear Bergman
Keep Your Wives Away from Them: Orthodox Women, Unorthodox Desires, edited by Miryam Kabakov
Torah Queeries: Weekly Commentaries on the Hebrew Bible, edited by Gregg Drinkwater, Joshua Lesser and David Shneer
Kulanu (All of Us): A Program & Resource Guide for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual & Transgender Inclusion, by Richard F. Address, Joel L. Kushner, and Geoffrey Mitelman
Judaism and Homosexuality: An Authentic Orthodox View, by Rabbi Chaim Rapoport
Queer Theory and the Jewish Question, edited by Daniel Boyarin, Daniel Itzkovitz, and Ann Pellegrini
Queering the Text: Biblical, Medieval, and Modern Jewish Stories, by Andrew Ramer
The Passing Game: Queering Jewish American Culture, by Warren Hoffman
Wrestling with God and Men: Homosexuality in the Jewish Tradition, by Rabbi Steven Greeberg
Like Bread on the Seder Plate: Jewish Lesbians and the Transformation of Tradition, by Rebecca Alpert

This list doesn’t include all the memoirs, all the fiction short story collections. They’re mostly books I’ve read— some of them, like “Like Bread on a Seder Plate” and “Queer Jews” I grew up with, others, like “Torah Queeries” and “Keep Your Wives Away From Them” I read on my own time. They range from Orthodox to Reconstructionist to Reform, and encompass a variety of ways of tangling with Jewish tradition.

If you are curious about LGBTQ people in the Jewish tradition, I urge you read at least one if not more of these.

Also A Rainbow Thread by Noam Sienna is another good one!