what a great day to remember that calling asian characters rat is something you shouldn’t do

thank you

PSA from the actual coiner of “neurodivergent”

Yo. Many of you need to take an entire stadium of seats. Like a football arena in Texas number.

I coined neurodivergent before tumblr was even a thing, like a decade or more ago, because people were using ‘neurodiverse’ and ‘neurodiversity’ to just mean autistic, & possibly LDs. But there’s more, like way more, ways a person can have a different yet fucking perfect dammit brain.

Neurodivergent refers to neurologically divergent from typical. That’s ALL.

I am multiply neurodivergent: I’m Autistic, epileptic, have PTSD, have  cluster headaches, have a chiari malformation.

Neurodivergent just means a brain that diverges.

Autistic people. ADHD people. People with learning disabilities. Epileptic people. People with mental illnesses. People with MS or Parkinsons or apraxia or cerebral palsy or dyspraxia or no specific diagnosis but wonky lateralization or something. 

That is all it means. It is not another damn tool of exclusion. It is specifically a tool of inclusion. If you don’t want to be associated with Those People, then YOU are the one who needs another word. Neurodivergent is for all of us.

Annoyedly yours,

Neurodivergent K of Radical Neurodivergence Speaking

[image description: tweet by Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg (@TheRaDR) from 12/2/18, 9:44 AM saying ‘We need diverse representation not only so every kid can see themselves as the hero of the story, but so every kid can understand that *other* kinds of kids are *also* the heroes of the story.’ id end] 

PSA from the actual coiner of “neurodivergent”

Yo. Many of you need to take an entire stadium of seats. Like a football arena in Texas number.

I coined neurodivergent before tumblr was even a thing, like a decade or more ago, because people were using ‘neurodiverse’ and ‘neurodiversity’ to just mean autistic, & possibly LDs. But there’s more, like way more, ways a person can have a different yet fucking perfect dammit brain.

Neurodivergent refers to neurologically divergent from typical. That’s ALL.

I am multiply neurodivergent: I’m Autistic, epileptic, have PTSD, have  cluster headaches, have a chiari malformation.

Neurodivergent just means a brain that diverges.

Autistic people. ADHD people. People with learning disabilities. Epileptic people. People with mental illnesses. People with MS or Parkinsons or apraxia or cerebral palsy or dyspraxia or no specific diagnosis but wonky lateralization or something. 

That is all it means. It is not another damn tool of exclusion. It is specifically a tool of inclusion. If you don’t want to be associated with Those People, then YOU are the one who needs another word. Neurodivergent is for all of us.

Annoyedly yours,

Neurodivergent K of Radical Neurodivergence Speaking

I kind of wish that the idea that you can just be was a little more mainstream.

Like, having drive and ambition is great. But it gets drilled in kids’ heads that there is some pressure to constantly be looking for the next move up, to be bigger than life. It wears you down to never be satisfied.

Not everyone is destined for greatness. It just doesn’t suit some people.

There’s nothing wrong with having a quiet life, making enough to get by, having a small apartment where you’re comfortable, and just living. You don’t have to constantly be looking to go onward and upwards. Sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is to just be.

Neopronouns are not a “tumblr fad”. Gender neutral pronouns other than they/them have existed in the English language for actual centuries. They are not harmful to the trans community.

To those who are against neopronouns, you’re acting against the evolution of a language and acting against something that’s been around for far longer than you’ve been alive.

To those who use neopronouns, your pronouns are not harmful. You do not deserve to be made to feel ashamed for your pronouns.

Op you can’t just drop this and expect us to not ask what the old school gender neutral pronouns were!!! How on earth are all my nb friends gonna pick the dapper pronouns????

I found these doing VERY minimal research:

•Ey/Em/Eir (1975, created by Christine M. Elverson)

•E/Em/Es (1890, created by James Rogers)

•Per/Pers/Perself (1976, Used in a novel by Marge Piercy)

•Thon/Thos/Thonself (1858, Created by Charles Crozat Converse)

•Ve dates back to 1980

•Xe dates back to 1973

•In 1789, William Marshall confirmed the use of both“a” and “ou” as a replacement for he/she/they and even i.

•Co/Coself (1970, created by Mary Orovan)

•Ne (1850, appeared in print in 1884)

•En (1868, mentioned by Richard Grant White)

•Han/Hans/Hanself (1868)

•Un/Uns/One (1868)

•Se/Sis/Sim (1884)

•Hesh/Hiser/Himer (1879)

•Hi/Hes/Hem (1884)

•Le/Lis/Lim (1884)

•Hersh/Herm (1884)

•Ip/Ips (1884)

•Hae/Haes(Hais)/Haim (1884)

•Tha/Thare/Them(Thon) (1885)

•Zyhe/Zyhe’s/Zyhem (1885)

•Ir/Iro/Im (1888)

•De/Der/Dem (1888)

•Hor/Hors/Horself (1890)

•Ith/Iths (1890)

Sources for these as well as many others that I didn’t add due to the list getting too long can be found here.

An interesting note is that in the modern language a lot more people use neopronouns then you would expect!

•Yo is a majorly African American pronoun coined in 2004 and used by Middle School students In Baltimore, Maryland.

•Fae/Faer, coined in 2014, is used by 4.3% of participants in the 2019 Gender Census.

Plus a vast variety of newly coined pronouns that you will have seen commonly floating around!

Neopronouns have existed and been recorded for a long time, they are not a new concept, nor are they mogai or a tumblr concept. They are not modern, there have just been many modern adaptions to already existing pronouns.

YOOOOO

You do not need to ask someone else’s permission to exist

You do not need to ask someone else’s permission to exist in your own space

You do not need to ask someone else’s permission to exist in your own way

You do not need to ask someone else’s permission to exist in your own skin

You do not need to ask someone else’s permission to exist

If you throw ableist insults at people to try to prove a point or to hurt them

And you consider yourself to be a social-justice type

Then go back to square one.

You’ve fucked up and you’re doing this all wrong.

reminder @ queer folks that you don’t have to disclose why you identify as queer to anyone if you don’t want to, especially when it’s clear the person asking you is doing so in bad faith. you are not obligated to give out every detail of your gender identity or orientation to some stranger so that they can decide whether you have the ‘right’ to call yourself queer or not. 🌈🦄

Just a reminder my blog is trans inclusive. It’s bi inclusive. It is pan inclusive. It is intersex inclusive. It is ace/asexual inclusive. It is aro/aromantic inclusive. It is queer inclusive.

I don’t support terfs or exclusionists.

If you came here looking for an ally in your bigotry you came to the wrong blog. Go away. You are not welcome here.

I found sources. 

The word “man” was gender neutral and referred to both sexes until the 13th century

The female specific pronoun “she” was invented in the 12th century. 

The word “girl” was gender neutral and referred to children of both sexes until the 15th century

High heels were invented for men and were worn predominantly by men until the 16th century

From the mid 16th century to the 19th century boys would typically wear dresses until the age of 7

Until the early 1930s pink was considered the appropriate colour for baby boys and blue was the colour for baby girls

In 2017, a Christian couple pull their 6yo son out of a primary school because his classmate is transgender - citing their “traditional beliefs”  IMPORTANT NOTE: Last source is transphobic and from a pro-life website that attempts to defend the dumb ass couple. Feel free to ignore it if you prefer, but it was included for the sake of accuracy. 

Reblogging because verifiable sources make every information 70% better. Thanks for the addition!

you dont identify as queer and don’t wanna be called that? thats totally fine, I’ll respect that (as the majority of queer people do, but thats another conversation).

But I dont wanna be fucking called “q***r” or “q slur” or “qr” or any other censored version of the word. I am queer. I am not some filthy word for you to treat like it’s gonna burn a hole in your tongue.

You’d be rightfully furious if i started going around tagging posts with “gay” as “g slur” or “g*y” or post with “lesbian” as “l slur” or “l*****n.” that’d be homophobic as fuck. Both those words started as slurs, and were reclaimed and made into terms to describe an identity, just like queer has been. I recognize some people have trauma with the word queer, but the truth is some people are triggered by terms like “gay” after growing up in the modern age where every bad and undesirable thing was labeled “gay” by their peers, silently suffering with the knowledge that their peers would likely consider them bad and undesirable too, maybe even predatory or creepy. That wouldn’t give them the right to be homophobic or go telling people to tag it as a slur or even that they’re not allowed to identify with it. Its all the fucking same.

Don’t call me q***r. I am not a slur. I am not a homophobic, transphobic weapon. I am a human, and I am queer.

(REGs and TERFs/radfems don’t touch, this post isnt for you. everyone else can reblog.)

Thank you.

I had a friend tell me once that they envy me having a terminal condition because I don’t have to figure out my future.

And like. I get depression and fear, and adulting is fucking hard, and sometimes when I’m really sad I think this too.

But please don’t tell your spoonie friends you envy them being sick, and not going to school, and “sitting at home watching Netflix whole days everyday”. We’re ILL. We’re in a lot of pain. This sitting in bed whole days is fun when it’s a cool activity to do, but it stops being fun when it’s a necessity everyday and you want to do things but you CANT.

And the thing is, we’re having to figure out our future too. It’s just for you figure is college and job and happy relationships. For us it’s our condition getting worse, our parents aging and so us having to find caretakers for us when they’re gone, and ultimately a lot of sadness and then dying.

We’re both scared and I’m not playing pain Olympics here. I’m just here to tell you that sometimes it’s good to shut up.

As a question was asked: a nonbinary person can use ‘traditionally binary’ pronouns and still be nonbinary. On that note, a character being referred to as ‘he’ or ‘she’ doesn’t necessarily negate all nonbinary headcanons.

Anika Noni Rose in Vanity Fair, via this excellent Buzzfeed article on diversity in publishing. (via leeandlow)

In case anybody needs to hear this

Use your accommodations.

You are NOT taking advantage of people by using accommodations. You are NOT placing yourself ahead and giving yourself an unfair advantage. You are NOT taking the “easy way out”.

You are getting accommodations because you are at a DISADVANTAGE. Your accommodations make you equal.

You deserve them.

You are not lazy for using them.

Online school note: you’re going to need different accomodations online than you do offline. Fight for it!