Just Be You

talking to a guy who works in tech about phones and mentioned how i didn’t like the new iphones or androids bc of the size and he was like “yeah i’ve noticed quite a few women feel like that idk why bc it’s so good having such a big screen” and i was like “it’s literally bc our hands are too small, i can’t reach across the screen” and he was shocked and had never thought about it and i had to explain to him how many things aren’t designed for women and he was truly astonished 🙄🙄

This speaks to me on a spiritual level.

I’d also like to add: THEY DONT FIT IN OUR POCKETS.

How many times have I almost flipped my damn phone out of my hand trying to reach the far left corner?  Too many. 

I started using my fiance’s old phone which has a fingerprint reader on the back which is high enough that I either hold it with my other hand or have to be really careful to use it to unlock the damn thing.  He couldn’t understand why I missed my old phone which had it at the bottom on the front where I could use my thumb instead of reaching for it. 

It makes you wonder just how many “clumsy women” stereotypes come from the world not being made to suit women.  Ever gotten into a car and struggling to sit up high enough?  Ever had a guy razz you for not being able to hold a basketball or football in one hand?  Handles for powertools you can barely wrap your fingers around and which require an extreme grip strength to handle properly?  

Male domination comes in a million forms, large and small. 

I recommend reading (if you haven't already) Invisible Women: Exposing Data Bias in a World Designed for Men by Caroline Criado-Perez

Not to be dramatic but this post made me have a legit ‘holy shit’ moment

Please keep trans men and cis men with small hands in mind when rebogging this post.

not to be like…..okay this will sound extremely Stupid to anyone who didn’t spend their Youth TM in mosh pits/concerts etc. but there IS mosh pit etiquette that you learn basically the FIRST time you go into one and it basically involves looking out for each other the whole show & last night at a concert I went to there were three dudes just absolutely ignoring the Rules TM and had the attitude of “if you don’t want to get hit/shoved/pushed around, don’t be in the crowd,” and I just wanna make sure everyone knows how uncool that is and if ur like that no one likes you.

One of them tried to crowdsurf on stage and the guitarist himself shook his head at him and made him get down. If you don’t follow pit etiquette even the Band doesn’t like you.

The basics are:

if someone falls, the Most and Only important thing in the following ten seconds it to get them on their feet again. Nothing else in your entire world matters in those moments but making sure that person doesn’t get trampled.

if someone tells you they want out, it’s up to you to help them now. Remember in a pit, people (especially short or small people) get so packed in they may not be able to move more than half a foot in any direction (or at all if everyone’s really squeezing). If someone tells you they need out, you may be the only person they get a chance to tell. So you help them. Sometimes the only way is to crowd surf to the back. Ask them if they want to/can be lifted up, and tell the people around you to send them BACKWARD, not toward the stage. Even in venues with no surfing rules, if they’re going to the back to escape, not to the stage, security generally gets what’s going on and may even be waiting to help them at the end of the crowd.

If you see someone obviously struggling, check in on them. I can’t tell you how many times some big dude asked little 16 year old me if I needed help. I remember fondly the time I saw ADTR when I was 16, and the crowd separated for a Wall Of Death TM (lmao), where the crowd split in half and each side charged the other. I by CHANCE ended up at the front of one side, and I was going to get Obliterated, and a guy next to me basically sort of lifted me above the crowd as we all collided so I landed on top of the pile instead of on bottom.

If you’re at a show where moshing isn’t a given, be Courteous of the mixed crowd. Last night I saw a cute electronica band, and there was a group of girls dressed in full on Lolita fashion. Heels, wigs, petticoats, etc. They were in the VERY front against the stage, where people often go to avoid the pit. I was surprised that people started shoving at all at this show, and I watched grown men try to ELBOW them into the pit. Who does that?

Moshing involves a lot of pushing and leaning and squeezing against people, but not grabbing. NEVER grabbing. If you’re grabbing people/their clothes, trying to move them/force them out of their spot, you’re not moshing, you’re attacking someone.

BASICALLY the point is to have fun, and that involves accountability. You may think “I’m in a huge, aggressive crowd.” But every single person there including you, is PART of that crowd, and you are responsible for your little microcosm of that.

My mom used to hate the concerts I went to as a teenager, but it remains true that pretty much everyone I ever Quite Literally ran into at those shows always made a point to look out for their fellow concert-goers, and that’s why I had fun.

Just be good to the people around you, so everyone can go home with good memories.

This post has great timing as I joined my first mosh just last night. I would’ve done more were I not worried about my pants falling off (Ive lost a little weight and need to get a tighter belt lol), but the one time I fell on my ass, IMMEDIATELY I got helped back up. Everybody was nice as hell too. I was at the edge of a pit for awhile too and helped a guy up, and it was a genuinely positive experience.

Don’t ruin it by being an asshole, and remember, no karate in the pit

It is every human being’s right to go absolutely feral in large crowds at concerts and develop an immediate and passionate sense of familial camaraderie that will last for two hours.

@ everyone in the notes saying they want to see the calculations...I mean google is literally free but hey I’ve got nothing better to do rn

So you’d have around $962,390,000

And yeah, while $962,390,000 is a lot, it isn’t a billion and it is also still much, much less than 1.5 billion, for those of you who are just that bad at math 🙃

So the op of the tweet is correct, you wouldn’t be a billionaire and you wouldn’t make what Jeff Bezos does in a week. I feel like this really wasn’t that hard but it’s w/e ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Eat. The. Rich.

that was beautiful

“Prayer should be a loving act, not a bizarre political weapon.”

This is one of those things that I already knew was true, but seeing it so blatantly displayed makes me feel like like I am finding out about it for the first time.

CIA is getting lazy

O.o

“It’s just a script whats the problem lol” the problem is that Fox, CNN, CBS, and all the other channels repped here, despite claiming to be different companies with different viewpoints, all had the exact same script, word for word, to push the exact same viewpoint that smaller, independent news outlets are Fake News and “A Threat To Our Democracy.” The fact that they have scripts isn’t the problem. The problem is they all, each and every one, have the exact same script down to the letter and in some cases the fucking inflection, which basically reads “small news stations are untrustworthy and a Threat to your Way Of Life, only trust Us, We Are Verified.”

These channels are all local channels owned by Sinclair broadcasting, a right wing media conglomerate that recently gained control of almost all American local news channels after Ajit Pai’s FCC heavily deregulated telecom companies. This is not some broad spectrum media conspiracy, it is specifically an attempt at a right wing takeover of all American local broadcasting for the purposes of propaganda.

Trump ruins bacon.

Every Trump policy makes things worse.

context for the joke: upton sinclair’s the jungle is a book from 1906 about the meatpacking industry both about the working conditions and how unsanitary it was. it led to numerous laws about federal oversight on the meatpacking industry (specifically inspection) during what was known as the progressive era.

Time to stop buying any and all pork products until this is fixed. Spread it around. PORK BOYCOTT. Bacon isn’t worth debilitating sicknesses that you’re likely to catch now that standards are going to be lowered in the industry in order to save money.

I experience my emotions pretty strongly, and sadness can be suffocating when it feels like you’re trapped in it. It helps me a lot to rise above my emotions and view them like clouds that pass through my sky. ☁ I hope this little ghost can help you find a new perspective on your emotions.

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This is more relevant than ever. Anti-immigration fearmongering is only and only a racism problem.

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fall in love with someone who wants you, who waits for you. who understands you even in the madness, someone who helps you, and guides you, someone who is your support, and your hope. fall in love with someone who talks with you after a fight. fall in love with someone who misses you and wants to be with you. do not fall in love only with a body or a face or with the idea of being in love

truth

BE this person, too

Arrested for what! WTF! Are you kidding me? He’s not doing anything wrong! Sickening!

All US public schools should receive the same funding based on the amount of enrolled students

All property taxes that would initially go to the local school district should be nationally divided between all US public schools.

If previously wealthy school districts funding needs aren’t being met, the education budget should be nationally increased, to provide the same public school education for all children in attendance.

Low test scores should never decrease funding. 

Schools should not receive funding based on the success of their students.

Schools with high rates of failure should receive special attention to bring them back up to par with the rest of the public education system.

All students should have safe and reliable transportation to their public school if they cannot make the walk to school due to disability or distance.

All students should receive a free lunch and breakfast if they want it while at school. These meals should meet the nutritional needs of the students.

A public school should never rent out equipment, musical instruments, supplies, etc.

Students should never pay for things the school already owns.

If a public school demands its students wear uniforms then the school should buy the uniforms for their students.

If a public school demands certain supplies the public school should provide said supplies to all students.

All public school students should have healthcare; if they don’t already have it then the moment they are enrolled in school they should be given it for free by the state. Poor attendance from students should never put them in juvi, or other detention centers for youths. 

Poor attendance from students should never decrease funding of a school.

All students with poor attendance should have special academic and medical attention paid to them to solve the problem of why they cannot or will not show up to school.

All public schools should have on staff at least one professional nurse practitioner and one professional therapist, both specializing in the ages of students at the school.

All public schools should have several caseworkers to help parents navigate the bureaucratic paperwork hell.

All schools should have their staff as diverse as their student body; schools with mostly black students should never have 100% white teachers.

contrary to popular belief not everyone has an innate sense of internal gender or care to have one or seek a name for it, some people go their whole lives without questioning their occupation in one of two gender roles, but for some people, if pressed, they don't feel that internal sense of 'i am a woman' or 'i am a man', and in that case i feel the switch over to transgender vs cisgender relies on active identification of a gender other than the one they were assigned. if someone's like 'idk dude I just work here' then that's valid

#i would describe my gender as not exactly 'idk dude i just work here' #more like.....when someone assumes you work somewhere that you don't #but you know how to help them so you do it anyway #my gender is wearing a red shirt at a target

These are the best tags

My gender is working at Target but helping people when I’m off work because I’m still wearing the red shirt

I went on a rant because I’m sick of straight people asking me why it’s so hard for me to date

I agree with this entirely, but it isn't THE reason. You also have to include the over sexualization of the gay community - both by the heterosexual community (Hollywood, social media, the news) saying all we are is sexual and not emotional, and by our own community through the constant reiteration of "monogamy is a lie" and ignoring/refusing to work through past sexual and emotional trauma. I fully support and believe in the "you do you" mentality, but our both communities are toxic to us when it comes to talking about actual dating.

You’re absolutely right. This is only one of the many reasons gay dating is difficult. And each of us finds certain obstacles harder than others, but all in all there are lots of reasons dating as a gay person is more difficult than dating as a straight person

no they don’t they show the effects of the normalization of pedophilia in our society

and the way that capitalism has forced women to view their appearance as a commodity from puberty

“what happened to you made you stronger” 

i was a child. i didn’t need to be strong i needed to be safe

LOUDER

LOUDER

if anyone’s still out here claiming butches aren’t the most gentle and considerate lovers then they have surely never met a butch lmao

Just yesterday my mom, who is generally not *super* accepting of the LGBT community, mentioned unannounced how sweet my next door neighbor is and how much joy she brings others. We’ve been working a lot with her lately because we’re doing property line work. We call them The Moms cause their names are kinda hard to say together and the butch mom is so incredibly sweet, genuinely one of the sweetest, soften-spoken people I know, incredibly caring and she does all the remodel work at their house because it makes her wife happy and she’s been one of the most understanding and relational neighbors I’ve ever had. like this post is so wonderfully true and I love it, and I just wanted to pop in and throw in some extra positivity if that’s okay 🙃❤️💁🏼‍♀️🏳️‍🌈

cashier: I’m sorry it’s going to be a 5 minute wait for your food

old people: let me speak to your manager. This never would have happened in my day. And yet you all want the minimum wage raised. I’m going to kill you.

cashier: I’m sorry it’s going to be a 5 minute wait for your food

millennials: okay, my apologies. I apologize for the inconvenience. I’m sorry I’m here.

me, walking into a store: are you guys busy? i can come back later. please don’t push yourselves on my account. things happen

Holy fuck this is accurate