Oh, you are the feminist type? Hell yeah, I am!

I actually remember reblogging several posts about female body positivity from terf blogs years ago as a libfem, but I would reblog them to a sideblog and then to my main so no one would think I was following terves, and then just to be safe I spaced them out with photo shoots of Laverne Cox. I was that afraid of backlash for posting about curves and vulvas lmao. The life of a crypto is exhausting.

that post that says “being female is a performance art” definitely applies to personal views tbh bc women are held to the standard of eternal mommies so it’s constant emotional labor to prove you’re not deferring from being nice and accommodating in every single facet of your being that you’re not allowed to have a single thought or opinion to even yourself.

EXTREMELY rare w from the uk media

Defamation lawsuits in UK are heavily weighted in *favor* of the plaintiff. You have to have a pretty weak case to lose over there. If there wasn't a rabbid, inescapable social media campaign against Amber Heard, he would have lost in America too.

trends keep women in a continuous humiliated state and not exactly in the way you might think. do current extreme beauty rituals look humiliating and degrading from an outside point of view? yes, but for the people that wear them at the moment, they don’t. however, what i’m noticing is a pattern of women making self-deprecating comments about their past choices in fashion and makeup techniques. they look at old photos of themselves and instead of feeling love and nostalgia for their younger self, they feel embarrassment. “oh wow i looked like a clown with the 2016 brows and contour, i looked like an idiot dressing like an egirl at the start of the pandemic, i looked weird with my 2000s overplucked brows”. men don’t have that, they might look back at a time when they had a questionable haircut or a time they gained some weight but that’s about it. women, though, are always in a humiliated and embarrassed state. we are conditioned to not only hate our present selves but to constantly hate our past selves as well.

World renowned actress vs. her male co-star.

Also I literally am a fashion girl lmao. I know who Mugler is and I always thought his work, while it was incredibly structural and artistic, when featured on a real live woman at places that are professional in nature ,would always come across as unsettling, sexist, and uncomfortable. If not for everyone else, then for her.

She is bound and cannot walk, existing for the gaze of others only, he is free cloaked, and loose. Men dressed both. The symbolism and intent is quite clear.

Exhibit 2755

She only wore it for a few minutes, but she suffered damage to her health for several days because of it.

It burned inside, she had excruciating pain in her neck and head from carrying it, it hindered her ability to breathe while she wore it and after.

In an interview she describes all this. That she regretted having worn it, that it was a mistake. But a ''cool'' mistake because you know ✨fashion✨.

This is so crooked like it's usual for girls and women since we are treated like this since new born. But boys have the luxury to comfort, to practical and with it, a better health in long term. Because it does affect our health.

the old lie of “men aren’t allowed to express their feelings” doesn’t make people as angry as it should. women perform emotional labor and deal with men’s sadness and anger and frustrations on a daily basis, and many times it literally gets us killed because they don’t know how to deal with own their feelings in a healthy way. men don’t suffer in silence. women are forced to hear about how men feel up to the point it has to become their suffering too. how many cases of femicide have happened because a man couldn’t handle feeling jealous, feeling rejected, feeling sad, feeling angry? they express their emotions alright. and women are caught in the middle of their outbursts in the worst ways possible.

I've had a conversation with an old college friend a couple months ago and she told me where she lives now, it's not permitted to have your children share a bedroom, which surprised me. And she also thought it was abusive to do so. So, yeah, poll time.

studies have found that one of the largest contributors to family sexual abuse is lack of physical boundaries. Families in poorer nations would all share one room, or the rooms would not have doors. Researchers found that just the presence if a door between girls and their male relatives draatically decreased the rate of sexual abuse.

The average age males are exposed to hard-core porn is 12. And that stat is from a while ago now, and doesn't include stuff like softcover photos and videos. With all this in mind, I think that we do not live in a world where, unless there's no other option due to poverty, it can be justified to room boys and girls together. The risk is just too high.

women's sports is one of the loudest and most successful anti-patriarchy campaigns in human history. what women's sports did and does is prove, over and over again, the excellence, the raw power and strength of human woman. it completely disrupts ideas on gender.

you have big, powerful women in rugby. fast, endurable women runners. impeccably strong gymnasts. women with strong, large bodies that take up space. that are HEALTHY. they are not RESTRICTED or ladylike. they are free of the stillness/deadness that femininity demands. no corsets. no (aesthetic) thinness. no hourglass bodies for gawking. women's sports screams to society "we are fully human, not objects, not small men. we are not domestic dolls. we are hunters and foragers. fighters."

why do you think men are so vitriolic about it? why don't they want women in football? why don't they want it televized? why do they keep harassing female basketball players? why do they insist on dressing women in sexualized uniforms? why do they now make it taboo to exculde men from women's sports?

i firmly believe it's because women's sports tears patriarchal gender ideology apart so effortlessly. it completely spits in the face of patriarchal political propaganda and shows how null it is. it forces all of us to view women as full, as the beginning of human excellence, as central to human history. not as decorative sexual objects, no matter how men want us to be.

that's why there's so much aggression and derision when it comes to women's sports from men. because women's sports destroys the idea of femininity and depicts women as non-derivative. women must be monsters and cannot afford to play into the childlikeness that femininity demands. the arena of sports forces us to focus on women's physical performance rather than appearance. their strength rather than how attractive they are. their skill and strategy. their humanity.

women's sports events are also hotbeds for female and lgb solidarity like you have no idea!

y'all need to start watching women's sports. not only because is it exciting, but it deprograms the patriarchal bullshit out of you so fast. you realize how much is possible. how much we can all achieve right now.

As a woman that has done sports her whole life. It really does boost your confidence and i honestly think that it's so important for little girls to do sports not only for the physical and mental benefits sports and exercise offer you but because they teach you important skills like teamwork, how to be competitive at a healthy level and be kind in both victory and defeat. You form really strong long lasting friendships, my oldest friend's are the girls i grew up playing sports with or dancing.

Physical activity and proper nutrition is SO important for young girls it really sucks that women and girls have been forced to be WEAK for centuries. It about time we change that.

actual criticisms of academia:

criticisms of academia that get made:

Instead of complaining about women choosing the 🐻, men should understand that the reason they do is that thanks to the internet and social media, women can read first hand and for the first time men’s conversations about them. They don’t rely only on their own experiences anymore, they can’t be kept in the dark and lulled with love stories until they get into their first abusive relationship. They can just… read.

What men post everywhere on social media, what men say in newspapers comments, the enormous demand of more and more violent porn, men creating communities around having sexual fantasies about cartoon characters, the internet being a danger zone because of men. Not being able to share a cute video of your child because men will steal it and use it for god knows what.

I mean when I read social media comments, most of the time women are nice and supportive to people who post about their struggles. Men routinely post abuse, weirdly sexual comments, insults…

And of course men will always go back to their number 1 defense which is « I don’t do that I’m a good guy ». Yeah. Sure.

I'm starting to hate the term "radfem". There should be nothing radical about wanting to live in a world that doesn't want to kill you.

I’m old enough to remember when it was just called “feminism”. Poor Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, when she said “we should all be feminists”, she meant that we should all be involved in getting rid of the patriarchy. Instead, everyone has the same stance as before but now everyone calls themselves a feminist but says that everyone who has an actual feminist stance is a radical feminist.

I've been thinking this. we really need to reclaim the title "feminist". I've been using it to describe my ideals without mentioning anything about radical feminism just to really drive home the point of what feminism REALLY is about

I’ve also been doing the same, I don’t see people who don’t believe female oppression exists as feminists.

Oh my gOSHHHHHH

We are seeing the effects of the Heard Depp case, insisting that perhaps it's Anna Kendricks fault her partner was a fuckin abusive shit ball to her

I'd say it was starting but this has always happened and it seems it will continue.

I’m scared for our girls and women

I’m responsible for helping with the students removed from class for poor behavior. We have probably a 10 to 1 boys to girls ratio on having to be removed. The girls it’s always something like ‘can’t stop talking’ or ‘won’t participate’ or ‘sleeping’ and the boys is pushing and fighting and arguing with the teacher or writing slurs on the board, and bullying. Sure we have a few girls for bullying. But not nearly as many. The boys in school now have serious problems and their parents are ignoring or excusing it. In the few cases parents actually try to address it, they aren’t having much success.

Personally, parental accountability, enforceable consequences, admin support, restricted social media and single sex classrooms would go a long way.

My all female team gets support from some of the male coaches and male admin when the boys act up. That helps in the moment too. Gets the boys behaving for a bit, but the lack of respect for female authority figures and female teachers is ridiculous.

the commodification of friendship is the most annoying thing to come out of the internet in ages. like actually i love to break this to you but you're supposed to help your friends move even if it's hard work. or stay up with them when they're sad even if you're gonna lose sleep. you're supposed to listen to their fears and sorrows even if it means your own mind takes on a little bit of that weight. that's how you know that you care. they will drive you to the airport and then you will make them soup when they're sick. you're supposed to make small sacrifices for them and they are supposed to do that for you. and there's actually gonna be rough patches for both of you where the balance will be uneven and you will still be friends and it will not be unhealthy and they will not be abusive. life is not meant to be an endless prioritization of our own comfort if it was we would literally never get anywhere ever. jesus.