Women of the Iron Islands
Trying and failing to sleep, thinking about ASOIAF characters and their lives and it strikes me - and will not leave me alone - where the hell are the women of the Iron Islands?
Yes, yes, we have Asha. We hear of their mother Alannys and a maternal aunt, but other than that I am not sure I can even think of any others. Possibly an old woman who works at Pyke who Theon asks to ready his room? I’m reaching.
Basically the entire Greyjoy family is male. There’s no discussion of potential ironborn brides for Theon or Victarion (if you don’t count Asha >.<’), everything is about the sons of this house and that house. Asha never mentions having any female friends. I don’t think there are any women at the Kingsmoot (except Asha) and I don’t think that’s ever even explained, though I would assume it’s because the women aren’t allowed to vote as they’re almost never Captains, but if that’s the case and it doesn’t even have to be mentioned…!
All that I can recall that we know of the Iron Islands and its opinions of women:
- Iron Island women ‘rock wives’ > all other women ‘salt wives’/thralls
- Women don’t have to have paid the iron price for jewellery, unlike men
- Insinuations that some things are more womanly and some things more manly; the men go off reaving, the women stay home with children (I guess?)
This is all so typical that I guess that’s why I didn’t question it sooner. Macho culture does not value women, except in rare cases where women (have to) slide into the male role and excel at it, as per Asha. Except that women do exist by necessity and I cannot believe that they are all just effectively chained inside their houses/castles.
Do the drowned men not have avid female followers (real life religious figures sure did)?
Even if they couldn’t vote, were women not trying to overhear/see what was happening at the Kingsmoot that could massively affect their lives?
Do Victarion and Theon not have other families trying to marry their daughters off to prominent Greyjoys?
Do the noble women not communicate between castles for some goddamn female company if they are for some reason incapable of leaving their homes?
Or has Cthulu’s influence somehow affected ironborn sperm so that only like one in ten babies is female?!
I don’t really understand how this is just happening. I basically cannot imagine the life of a (noble) ironborn girl, except transplanting any other Westerosi girl onto the Iron Islands, but surely their norms are not identical, are Ironborn girls allowed to have martial training? If they are, how is it basically just Asha out on reavings? I guess there’d still be needlework and maybe music, etc, but the (current) Ironborn seem so disdainful of such things that I just don’t know.
And this leads to the big question, and my one main hope of how this could end well: what happens when what seems to be so large a proportion of the male Ironborn population sails off with Euron? Like, my brain was first picturing the Iron Islands being almost empty.
Except the women are still there. They can finally emerge from wherever the hell they’ve been hiding. Realise how absolutely terrible it has been under the men and decide ‘fuck that shit, we can rule this place better’. Whoever remains to straggle home after the clusterfuck that is Euron’s plans for the Ironborn finds that the women are in charge now. Perhaps they’ve even released the thralls and agreed peace and trade agreements with the mainland. If they decide they want/need a Queen or Lady Paramount, it is Asha. The men can be stuck in their homes never to be heard from again now.
This is the only answer and subversion I am now willing to accept as to why I don’t even need the whole of one hand to list off every Ironborn woman I can think of, despite having four Ironborn PoVs, one of whom is a woman.