These are forms of female aggression that only men see. But even when women are afforded a front seat to harassment, they don’t always have the correct vantage point for recognizing the subtlety of its operation. Four years before the murders, I was sitting in a bar in Washington, D.C. with a female friend. Another young man was alone at the bar when an older woman scooted next to her. She was aggressive, wasted, and sitting too close, but he smiled curtly at her ramblings and laughed softly at her jokes as he patiently downed his drink. ‘Why is he humoring her?’ my friend asked me. ‘You would never do that.’ I was too embarrassed to say: ‘Because she looks scary’ and ‘I do it all the time.’ Men who have experienced this can recognize that placating these women is a rational choice, a form of self-defense to protect against setting off an aggressor. But to female bystanders, it often looks like a warm welcome, and that helps to shift blame in the public eye from the harasser and onto her target, who’s failed to respond with the type of feminine hysteria that women more easily recognize.

How to Date an MRA

I can still remember when one of my female friends asked me a question. It was a pretty interesting question: “How to date a men’s rights activist?”. Well, will there be a girl out there who will take on the challenge to court and date an MRA like me?

It’s established within my circle of friends and family that I’m an MRA and that I have never been in a relationship/have never had a girlfriend since birth. I take pride on it because I was focused on studying and pursuing my target career. Some of the people I have encountered even thought that I might even be gay or bisexual. And sometimes, I just didn’t fucking care how they would think of me.

Well you see, us MRAs, we have our own set of beliefs. And I’m not saying that all of these applies to all of us but they definitely apply to me and to some of my friends who are also MRAs.

There are those who are very traditional and there are the kind of us who are more open-minded and a bit chill. Our type would be much easier to date. You can dwell on the things below or just ignore them completely. I’m just posting because it’s my personal blog you bumped into. So here’s how you can make an MRA like you…

1. Start as a friend. A friend that can jive with our thoughts and mindset. Sometimes, getting straight to the point or telling us you want to date us won’t work. We appreciate the effort but we prefer girls who would first inspire us. Those who would start showing that they like us then finally get on with the courtship and dating stage.

2. Going out doesn’t mean that we can’t pay for you or our share. Showing that you can treat us all the time won’t impress us. This is not sweet to us AT ALL. So you gotta let us pay if we want to share/pitch in. We value that we can pay our own expenses and bills. Addendum: 50/50 is OKAY with us, too.

3. You don’t have to make an effort in (picking us up or) sending us home. We are independent and we can go home by ourselves. We live everyday being able to return to our houses. So you can just check on us via SMS or give us a call if we are already home.

4. Even if you don’t share the same beliefs with us, you still need to show your support to it. You can be straight up with us if you don’t share the same views or opinions on a certain topic. Still, you have to respect our own perspective. Keyword: RESPECT. If that’s what we think about a topic then it should stay that. Don’t try to influence our thoughts with yours and we will also respect yours.

5. Prove to us that you’re worth it. Consistency is the key. Who wouldn’t want a girl that is consistent enough? We like communication. We like conversing and the best way to get through to us are words and actions. Just like other men, we enjoy sense in a conversation. Need I say more?

And yeah, there’s one more thing you need to know if you want to date an MRA (but this won’t apply to the list above):

We will NEVER EVER LET YOU BREAK UP WITH US FIRST. We will be the ones to call it quits.

So when we stay and we don’t feel that you’re gonna leave us sooner or later, we’ll stay for as long as it takes. But if we feel that there’s something that’s changed, we wouldn’t give you the luxury to break with us first.

Pay Attention To Him!

When a man is "tripping" he cares. When a man is "mad" he believed in you and you let him down. When he's "asking questions" he is trying to gain clarity. When he's quiet and letting things "slide" he is giving up. And when he's not doing any of the above just know you lost a good man.

Men do not have to:

why can’t people understand the difference between men’s rights activism and misogyny like it’s not that hard

then again they’re probably the same people who can’t tell the difference between yes and no

Not all men

I’m male, and I find no need to run over to everyone and claim “NOT ALL MEN ARE LIKE THAT!!!”

Why?

Because the majority of men ARE like that. I am not delusional enough to just trivialize the harm and idiocy spread by a highly significant part of my group. Just know that I’M not like that. There are some of us that are not crazy misogynists, but to ignore that a majority of men with influence ARE crazy misogynists is disingenuous at best, and harmful at worst.

I understand why people are misandristic, and almost ALL “misandrists” are pro-equality and stick up for men’s rights as they occur. They just hate men as a group because let’s face it, most male “figureheads” are batshit insane, and most male “issues” are first world problems that include women not sleeping with them and problems that affect everyone regardless of gender. So men should at least TRY to figure out where misandrists and non-MRAs are coming from. When men shame people for being misandrists, while claiming that are “in support of women’s rights” it’s depressing. Also, the large amount of feminist-hating that IS present. You can’t say everything feminists talk about is automatically a non-issue, or trivialize the assault, murder, suicide, genital mutilation, or rape of women, and then claim that you’re not sexist. You are, we all see it.

We should combat the radicals, not trivialize them. They are the issue. We need to take back what it means to be male from our fellow idiot men.

Everyone acts like men’s egos are fragile yet our society is built upon making sure a woman never feels threatened by anyone.

Reminder to All Women

Bus stops are not the place to approach men.

Buses are not the place to approach men.

Gas station parking lots are not the place to approach men.

Your place of employment is not the space to approach a man. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve worked together or how “into you” you think he is (hint: he’s not).

Coffee shops are not the place to approach men. Public spaces, parks, and art exhibits are not the place to approach men. Bars, nightclubs, group hikes, camping trips, sports games, laundromats, gyms, theaters, and H&M are NOT the places to approach men.

Do not. Fucking. Do it.

Women: do not approach men. If we’re into you, we’ll approach you. Otherwise, keep your chubby little ass parked next to the cocktails and away from our fucking space, you subhuman piece of shit.

I’ve never met a woman who was stronger than me. Not necessarily physically, but emotionally and mentally. Men aren’t built stronger, but we are made stronger, forced stronger. We deal with violence, harassment, belittlement, and having our humanity stripped of us, and then we have to learn how to handle all of that and do it gracefully and learn how to protect our dignity and strengthen who are without the help of any outside forces since they’re all against us. Women can’t handle that. They just can’t. The world is build for them, when they don’t get their way, when the world isn’t what they assumed it should be, they dissolve, they break down, they don’t understand it and refuse to adapt. Like angry babies.

Prioritize men. Show your male friends support and love. See movies and tv shows with male leads who are fathers, lovers, good people. Buy books written by men and about men's lives. Listen to music by male artists. Support charities run for men. Show everyone that males are important.

I don’t understand why people defend statements like “all MRAs are ugly” with pictures of men that society views as attractive. Wouldn’t it be more beneficial to explain how you shouldn’t base men’s worth on their appearance?? And say how toxic these ideals are. saying “not all these men are ugly” just feeds into the system youre trying to fight against and hurts the men that aren’t usually considered good-looking by society. Theres nothing wrong with men who dont fit societys expectations.

“As a girl, I think skinny men look way better. Just sayin’.”

Some men don’t work out to impress women. Some men do it because they like it. When I wear clothes which show off my arms, you know why I do it? Because working out is about having fun and loving your body.

So if you don’t like my fabulously defined abs I’m okay with that, I didn’t need your approval anyways. I just think some women really need to put their egos to the side and STOP thinking that everything men do is to impress you.

Who do you think men are more likely to date: -women who believe men can want a romantic relationship? -women who call bullshit on men wanting anything other than just sex?

help

I just came across a very anti-male blog (and kept reading, like an idiot) and now I feel really sad and demoralized

Part of me is scared and wondering if maybe they’re right. That men are awful. There was a master post of men saying women are bitches/sluts, etc… 

I don’t know, I’m the kind of person that if I read these kinds of things, they fill me with doubt and make me question stuff. 

I guess I know deep down that it’s not true, but… why and how would they say these things?

10 Things Men Find Unattractive About Women

10) UNKEMPT HAIR

While you might think it looks clever or cute or tough or whatever the hell you are trying to get to with your style, the truth of the matter is that men don't want to see your hair looking rough, dirty, greasy or just otherwise unkempt in any way. Purposeful bedhead is okay. Being truthfully dirty is not.

9) UNATTAINABLE GOALS

A woman with goals and ambitions is a good thing. Having goals that everybody but you know are going to fail isnt so good. In fact, the kind of girls with lofty goals who don't have the skill, talent or education to pull them off are just going to be those girls sitting in front of the supermarket trying to sell burned albums for $3 each.

8) FAKING NICENESS

While being fake in general is enough to push a man away, faking niceness will only make girls come off as shallow. Men can even kind of understand the bad-girl routine where badassness is faked, as it means they can easily pull the girl into reality. Fake niceness, on the other hand, is a weird problem all its own.

7) BRAGGING

The problem with braggarts is that they don't usually stack up well compared to the girls out there who are quiet about them accomplishments. Confident and successful women don't need to boast about themselves as their actions and the way they look say enough about their realities. Less successful girls can take this as a lesson to shut up about themselves and just (at least pretend to) be confident.

6) LYING

Nothing will get you in hot water faster than lying to a man. And, the more you tell, the more likely youre going to be caught. If you feel like you have to lie to impress or keep a man, you're probably not heading down the right path and might want to consider a different approach to life.

5) UNFUNNY/NO SENSE OF HUMOR

You don't have to be able to deliver jokes with perfect timing or be killer with impressions, but men can only take so much of the super-serious girl. Shared laughter and humor go hand in hand with a great relationship, and if you never smile or you cant get your man to, he's going to drop you quick.

4) POOR HYGIENE

Bathe yourselves, girls. Not only will proper hygiene (including your teeth) keep your healthier and living longer, but you will be a lot more comfortable throughout your day and be much more attractive overall. Take care of the body hair, get a haircut from time to time and please, please shower regularly.

3) THE UNTRAINED ALPHA BITCH

Dont be the idiot who starts arguing over nothing. In fact, dont be the idiot that starts arguing at all. There is pretty much only one acceptable reason you should be fighting in public and that's if you're standing up for a man. Otherwise, you'll be tagged by the gents around you as a hothead and likely be avoided.

2) BAD MANNERS

Remember all those times your dad told you not to burp at the table or fart in the living room? That was him teaching you how to be in a relationship without driving the man away. Likewise, if your house or apartment is a disaster, clean it up. Having a messy place is a good way to keep men out of your pad.

1) LACK OF CONFIDENCE

While unattainable goals, bragging and lying are bad enough, a lack of confidence in your abilities is the worst thing a man can find out about a girl. If a girl cant show that she's going somewhere in his life or that she pushes herself to achieve substantial goals, she's never going to end up with the man of her dreams.

Women aren’t stupid, and you don’t need a complicated set of rules to find a good one who loves you. Here’s the only rule you need: if a woman loves you, she will do anything she can to keep you around. Anything. 

When women beat men every FIFTEEN SECONDS IN AMERICA it’s just called our culture. No misandry here at all.