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Anyway, some people off this hellsite suggested that the platform might be in recovery, so I thought I would swing by and check it out.

Alas, it is exactly as much a vile cesspool of bigots using the shroud of “no sex on tumblr” to hide their violent sexual exploitation of queer youth, and then calling anyone who actually seeks to give queer youth a safe place to grow into queer adults “the real problem”

It’s all just DARVO and Swerf-n-Terf. It’s rape cults and bigots given infinite platforms, and somehow.

Some fucking how, it has become so normalized and acceptable, that people are now reporting it as “over” on other sites, because much like you cannot taste your own tongue, when your entire mouth ahs been filled with shit putrid bullshit for a decade, you stop noticing the stink.

So, my ass is ollying right tf back out. This was a fucking mistake.

Live and learn, I guess.

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So I saw someone discussing this on my dash, but it looked like possibly a private conversation or just an offshoot of another conversation, and I didn’t feel right butting in.

But I feel fine with making my own post about the subject, and that subject is:

The Origin of Pan(sexual)

At least, the origin in so far as I lived it. Obviously the term spread for a variety of reasons in a variety of places. This post is a personal testimony of one experience with this political movement, but I think it’s one people need to hear.

Imagine, if you will, The End of the Nineties. I know many of you weren’t there for that (hell, I barely was, I was like apparently eleven at the time of most of this stuff, but I was also being dubiously raised by a rotating assortment of Very Queer People so there’s that at least). 

So any, imagine the era roughly from 1999-2003.

We’ll give you riots until you give us rights was still a rallying call of our people, but the desperate fervour of the AIDS epidemic was beginning to dial down to a more manageable level. New treatments existed, the government wasn’t as out for our blood as before, and the fact of the matter was so many of us were dead and scarred by all that death, burnt out from all that anger. To a certain degree, there was a deep exhaustion in our communities.

Decades of attempted genocide will do that to you.

As well, the systems we had relied on for introducing new queer youth to queer culture has begun to fall apart because there’s just not enough queer elders who are both alive and able to take that task on. Not everywhere, not like there had once been.

Pamphlets and manifestos had always been critical outreach, but now they became some of the only things available, especially in rural and suburban areas where there weren’t large enough populations of queer people to self sustain, or where organizing in a large way was effectively a death sentence in itself. 

Queer groups had always been localized and closed, but now populations were patchy enough that state and national networking through mailing lists were rising to prominence out of necessity.

And with this, there was increased exposure to each other’s different definitions of queer. 

One of the terms that, it turned out, was the least uniformly established was bisexual. There were basically two ways “bi” was used in those days. In some circles, it meant “neither gay nor straight.” If it was analyzed at all, it was generally decided to be a catchall term for anyone else who showed up, a very broad umbrella. For the most part, it just meant “whoever I like.”

And in many other places “bi” meant two. 

It meant men and women. It meant “real” men and women, that is to say, cis ones. 

But the 90s had also given prominence to this previously undefined group of gender nonconforming people who had previously just sort of shrugged when asked their gender. There was a new word on the block, and that word was genderqueer.

The 90s had also given prominence to transsexual/transgender people and began to impress upon the populace that trans women weren’t Super Ultra Gays, but were in fact their own group of people with unique experiences. (Trans men, I am sure you have heard by now, were basically invisible at this point in time: either they were classed as hard butch, or they were stealth and had no association with queerness).

It’s worth noting that the 90s also gave prominence to the inclusion of intersex people, but that’s a subject I’m less well versed in (unfortunately). I never met another intersex person- to my knowledge- during that formative period of my life, and if I did I wouldn’t have known or understood what it meant anyway.

So, as the nineties drew to a close and all these previously indeterminate groups started becoming more well known and more recognized and more seen at all, there was inevitable conflict. 

There were bi people who had never even heard of transness and who were revolted by it in the way cis people always are. There were bi people who had never heard of genderqueerness and insisted that genderqueers were really men/women based on their sex organs. 

There were also bi people who learned, to their alarm, that according to these complete strangers halfway across the country their own identity literally excluded themselves. Or their partners. Or just people they had never even met but still recognized the inherent humanity of.

And worse, that definition of Real Men and Real Women was getting more and more well known as networking continued to expand. 

It was easy for cis gay and lesbian people to understand and include in queer literature that was even then dominated by gay voices, but more importantly, it was easy for Straight people to understand and pass around in their own dangerous and damning ways. 

Especially in places where queer community was patchy and inconsistent, often with gaps where people were dead or had fled, the national scale information was the best thing many of us had.

That meant “bi means 2″ became the dominant interpretation pretty quickly.

So, there were basically two responses to that.

The first was to reclaim and redefine bisexual.

That movement is the one, I think, that has been the most consistent. 

It has also had varying levels of success, given that every year or so we have another rousing round of “well actually, bi means 2 or more.” But by 2016, most people seem to either naturally understand that bi includes trans people, or are open to learning that fact quite quickly.

The second response to the corruption of bi was to break ties with a word that was rapidly being used as a way to seriously hurt people, and make something new. Something that would be self defined rather than reclaimed from medical studies, and that would be clearer and more transparent even in its basic design.

That was basically how pansexual rose to prominence. (Some people say pansexual as a term existed even into the 80s, but I have seen no evidence or firsthand accounts of it before the 90s. Certainly if it did exist in the 80s, then this political context is why it became a Big Deal rather than staying a niche concept).

And, that’s part of why, today, pansexual remains its own unique identity.

Even though at this point bisexual has mostly been cleansed of the horrible debacle that was binarism-and-transphobia-in-the-90s, pansexuality literally is a separate political group from bisexuality. The identity fractured off and became its own unique culture and label.

The old claim that “bi is transphobic” is nonsense today, but that claim came from a very real historical problem. 

The pansexual identity spread as a way to try to combat that problem- and there are people on this very website who will attest to the fact that in the 90s and 00s knowing someone was pan rather than bi was fairly similar to seeing someone wearing a “trans ally” pin today: it marked the potential for a safer relationship.

Whether pansexuality is still “necessary” today, when bisexual is more often accepted as meaning 2+, is irrelevant.

The fact is, pansexuality is here and it’s not going to go anywhere any time soon.

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agentukelele

“Pan is biphobic cause it was made to say Bi people excluded trans people” Heres a first hand account of Why.

If that was your takeaway of the life I’ve lived, then please understand that you are the problem here, not me.

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I find it suspicious that you never see posts along the lines of "cishet people should stop using the word 'queer', that's a word that only queer people get to use." Not because I think that it's necessarily true, but because that's the normal way social conversations around reclaimed slurs & pejoratives evolve. You rarely hear people on tumblr saying "black people/hispanic people/asian people aren't allowed to say [slur that has been used specifically against them]." Because most of us recognize that that's nonsense, and that you don't get to tell minorities which words they can and can't reclaim.

But tumblr didn't do that with the word 'queer'. It didn't go the usual route of discussion around who can and can't say what. Tumblr just jumped straight into trying to erase the word completely. And that is because the discourse around 'queer' isn't a conversation that evolved naturally within our community. It was purposefully (and successfully) created out of thin air from a sudden, relentless onset of terf propaganda. Terfs who hated having a trans-inclusive umbrella term for our community, who wanted nothing more than to disrupt unity. Well congratu-fucking-lations, it's been disrupted.

2 years is all it took. 2 years of relentless comments and inbox messages from people pretending to be concerned strangers, friendly anons who wanted you to know 'you should maybe not use that word 🙂.' 'a lot of people have trauma around it so maybe use a different word 🙂 a less inclusive word 🙂.' 'queer isn't an identity it's a slur 🙂.' and suddenly our most powerful trans-inclusive umbrella term is blacklisted.

2 years of this and suddenly you had half a generation of lgbtqa+ teens who had been told this over and over again, by friendly trustworthy strangers, to the point it passed the evidence threshold and just became a Belief. because young teens heard it so often from so many 'random’ people, and weren't aware of where it was actually coming from. hint: the discourse around queer has ALWAYS been about disrupting unity

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So the thing is, right. The base foundation of TERF thought, from which everything else stems, is:

  • Men are always, inherently, the oppressors and aggressors, continually trying to speak over and dismiss the needs of women.
  • Women are always, unilaterally, the oppressed, hurt, and spoken-over.
  • The patriarchy (defined as "men oppressing women") is THE primary source of oppression, and while other forms may exist, none can ever be as powerful. Patriarchal oppression always trumps.

In the most visible form of TERF-ness, we combine this with "trans women are men, and trans men are women," to get

  • Trans women are the oppressors and aggressors, continually trying to prioritize themselves over cis women.
  • Trans men are victims of the patriarchy and should be forced to detransition to save them from themselves.
  • Being trans is far less of a factor in oppression than being a "man" (because, again, patriarchy trumps all) therefore cis women are, unilaterally, more oppressed than trans women.

But the thing is, you get fun stuff when you take the exact same base TERF principles above, but instead combine them with "trans women are women, and trans men are men".

Because then you get:

  • Trans men are, inherently, the oppressors and aggressors, continually trying to speak over trans women and prioritize their own whims over the needs of trans women. (And those of cis women.)
  • Trans women are automatically, inherently, always more oppressed than trans men, because the oppression of being a woman (who is trans) is far more weighty than the oppression of being trans in general. (Or disabled, or indigenous, or in an intensely bigoted region...)
  • Not only that, since men-over-women is the most powerful factor in oppression, we could possibly further conclude that a trans man is automatically the oppressor in any interaction with a cis woman. (Because, again, while within genders a trans woman may be more oppressed than a cis woman, and a trans man may be more oppressed than a cis man, the trans-ness is not as important as the Patriarchy, so trans men are still 'over' cis women.) For this reason, we should probably exclude trans men from safe spaces.
  • But regardless, trans men definitely must, in any interaction with a trans woman, be the oppressor, aggressor, and speaker-over-er, because men are, always, the oppressors, etc.

If you agree with the last group of bullet points you might wanna think about whether you actually intended to accept the base principles of TERF ideology?

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renthony

I'm weary of gatekeeping wank that tries to do the whole, "oh, well, gatekeepers are big meanies, but they're still LGBT, so we have to respect them, uwu!"

No. I'm putting my foot down. If you're going to be the Gay Police and try to define other folks' identities for them, well, then, the queer community has a protocol on what to do with cops.

Fuck off or get the brick.

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So, about that flag...

Not to start a Discourse Riot or anything, but the entire lesbian flag debacle? Like, literally the whole entire thing?

It’s all a terf thing.

All of it. Not just the labrys flag. Not just the lipstick flag. Not just the butch flag. The entire fact that we’ve been trapped discussing a fucking flag design for multiple years and it’s literally tearing our community apart at the seams benefits one group and one group only:

TERFs.

Note how bi men and bi women use the same flag. Note how ace men and ace women use the same flag.

Note how trans men and trans women, the literal people for whom gender is the defining issue of queerness, the people for whom a gendered division of flag politics could actually, arguably be considered a real issue, use. The same. Flag.

Note how the first lesbian flag is now a TERF symbol.

Note how every subsequent lesbian flag has all the same flaws, which cause it to realistically only be possible for the design to be re-created by large companies rather than independent queer creators on any kind of significant scale, forcibly excising actually poverty-level queers from participating in anti-capitalist revolutionary praxis.

Note how the profusion of lesbian flag designs has been used as a tool to fracture queer solidarity and further feed into the increasing and almost entirely TERF-motivated and TERF-empowering belief that lesbians are somehow Separate and Especially Hated by the rest of the queer coalition.

Now, this doesn’t mean that every person who participates in lesbian flag discourse is a terf or everyone who designs lesbian flags is a terf or whatever. Don’t get your heads that far up your asses.

But really take a step back here.

Really think about this entire shitshow from a greater perspective.

Who benefits from this?

Not even straight people are particularly empowered by this, or at least, no moreso than they are by any kind of queer fracturing.

But TERFs? Oh yeah, TERFs get a HUGE power boost by isolating lesbians from the rest of the queer community and turning them into an easily targeted and abused population.

Literally step one in indoctrinating someone into a cult is to fucking isolate them from their greater support systems, for fucks sakes.

And this whole, “look how much all the other queers hate you! They’re just as bad as the everyone else! They won’t even give you a flag!” shit?

It 100% isolates lesbians from the queer community and makes them accessible to TERF indoctrination.

So, how do we solve this problem?

Well, in my personal opinion, the obvious solution is to fucking eliminate all TERFs on sight by silencing them until they actually fucking learn to be decent human beings, and re-claim the Actual Historical Lesbian Flag from their disgusting, bigoted, abusive hands.

It’s a good flag, Brett.

  • An image of a puppy, holding a labrys flag. The dog is also wearing a first place ribbon that is rainbow colored.

I mean, really, look at that flag. What did TERFs ever do to deserve a flag that features such a beautifully designed melding of yonic and phallic feminine symbolism? That is so unrepentantly destructive towards societal norms? They’re such fetishistic, conservative shitheads.

But, like, listen. This is just an idea.

The real fucking thesis statement here is that this entire fucking flag debate is a fucking TERF propaganda piece.

I am losing my mind over the fact that no one ever seems willing to acknowledge this, we all just keep barreling forward in making it even harder and harder for independent queer creators to actually integrate lesbians into our work, and making it easier and easier for TERFs to isolate lesbians from the queer community and turn them into more fucking TERF shitheads.

OP explaining how the lesbian flag is a terf conspiracy designed to *checks notes* indoctrinate women into our cult, prevent anti-capitalist revolution, and force small business owners and artists into poverty 🤡

Me: Actually, a lot of the controversy surrounding the multiple lesbian flag designs is oddly beneficial to TERFs at the expense of every other lesbian on earth. Should we not seek to uplift all lesbians, not just the bigoted ones?

This clown: Wow can’t believe you think all lesbians are evil.

Me: Where tho

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Anonymous asked:

Lmao Terfies are big maaad 😂🤡

In fairness, TERFs are always mad.

It's a critical part of how their cult works.

Indeed, it's a critical part of how most modern cults work, because it's so disgustingly effective and, now, easier than ever.

That ease ties to a lot of things around capitalism and modern communications technology where you're not allowed to exist in a small, community space wher eyou can engage with others as people, you are required to have everything you do be in global broadcast at all times. Because if you exist in a controlled space, you might not go completely bonkers from it, which might lead you to not produce a endless barrage of content that platform holders can monetize.

But the effectiveness is, unfortunately, just an inborn aspect of the human brain. If you can trigger a threat response in the audience, you can get them to do things that would normally never be acceptable to them.

If you can keep that threat response going for an extended period, you can give them time to justify it to themselves, though due to the threat response itself, those justifications will necessarily be absolute nonsense. It won't matter, though, because the justifications will allow the audience a sense of control, which eases the threat response.

This causes the brain to naturally conclude "well, wild justifications of my actions made the threat stop before, I will just do it again." And now, all you have to do is repeat that process a handful of times, and they'll begin self-policing.

Or, in the words of more formal cult researchers, "In order to maintain cult members in a state which is supposedly pure and free from contamination by the evil world, they are taught to cultivate an antagonistic and resistant attitude towards any doctrine or person contradicting the cult’s views."

And then you end up with Marjorie T. Green.

Or you end up with an entire movement of people who call themselves "anti-child sexual abuse" go around sexually assaulting children as a punishment for writing the wrong kind of short story.

People who are engaging in such openly abhorrent behaviour that it's beyond reason.

Because their reasoning was, quite literally, turned off by the cult manipulators who sought to induce and profit from panic.

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Anonymous asked:

Miss your insights and still appreciate the times you answered my questions or vents. I hope you’re staying safe and well.

I lost my job and home.

Homelessness is not better in 2021 than it was in 1996.

Safe is relative though. I didn’t catch the plague, for example, which is great because I am very much in the highest risk category haha

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Anonymous asked:

Is there a reason you didn't include age (adult/minor) or pronouns in you bio? Obviously it's your choice to disclose, I'm just a little surprised.

Because the only times people will reference those pieces of information is when they want to use them as weapons to harm me.

Very few people who are actively seeking aspects of my identity are doing so with the desire to respect those aspects.

I see no need to give them more options to hurt me.

Obviously it’s always the attackers fault and not the victims, but there’s no need for me to walk into an active warzone with all my most vulnerable points marked in bright red ink.

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Anonymous asked:

Kys homophobe

Wild that you really can just convince yourself that homophobia is when a lesbian says, "hey, maybe we should stop this violent cult that preys on, abuses, sexual violates, even kills young lesbians."

Ooof.

You really are in it deep, huh kid?

Well, best of luck to you. Hopefully you get that confusion sorted out before you accidentally end up tits deep in real homophobes seeking to kill you the second you step out of line.

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Anonymous asked:

that lesbian flag post was so fucking retarded it's unreal

Damn dude, u right, u right.

I'm a retard!

I am a literal, actual retard. A cognitively disabled human being.

I am, in fact, a lesbian retard!

So maybe, lesbo to dyke, you could take some time out of your day to explain what, exactly, revealed to you the depths of my disability in that post.

Was it the part where I said, "lesbians deserve to have whatever things they want" or the part where I said, "lesbians should not be reduced to the first cult sacrifice we feed to bigots such as yourself"?

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Anonymous asked:

Lesbians are not defined by femininity and associating female homosexuality with phallic symbolism is just plain homophobia. Stop calling lesbians terfs for being gay. Stop forcing heteronormativity on a group of gay people. Just go away.

I'm sorry that you don't know what the word "feminine" or "phallic" means in the context of symbolism and design. It's always really embarrassing when you reveal your ignorance so blatantly, while trying to present yourself as an authoritative speaker.

Just really undercuts your whole deal.

Anyway, the only person here trying to enforce heteronormative ideals is, rather ironically, you, with your belief that lesbians owe you their obedience and conformity.

Perhaps spend a little time asking why you think lesbians are incapable of thinking for ourselves, and then, while you're at it, google "basics of symbolic design"

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Anonymous asked:

I wish you didn't hate lesbians.

Damn dude, I too wish that I weren't filled with a constant parade of self loathing over how I have been forced to give up or deny a key aspect of my identity as a lesbian because somehow your greyfaced putrescence "over rides" my entire life and personhood, which further exacerbates my underlying PTSD, leading to more frequent and severe episodes of depression and anxiety.

I mean damn, my stated, evidenced, clearly asserted goal of "keeping young lesbians safe from predators who would abuse them" is apparently hateful. What a bizarre opposite-world I've entered, where cult indoctrination and psychosexual abuse are good, and protecting people from that violence is hateful.

In fact, not only do I deserve to be abused for being a lesbian, but so do countless lesbians around the world, because we aren't able to live up to the patriarchal ideal of sexual availability to abusive men, but simultaneously cannot live up to your cult's idea of sexual availability to abusive women.

I sincerely wish I weren't filled with the cocktail of trauma and mental illness that fills me with self-loathing for doing objectively good and correct things like fighting against lesbophobic actors such as yourself. It would be so MUCH easier if I didn't actually hate myself for standing up to bigoted cowards.

Or, oh, wait, so sorry.

Did you mean you wish I hated lesbians more?

Did you mean you wish that I wanted all lesbians indoctrinated into the rape-apologetic murder cult you have incorrectly named "lesbianism" in an attempt to rebrand from the far more accurate "worthless shits that think only they are real human beings and that other lesbians, let alone other queers, are actually NPCs that it's morally justified to sexually, psychologically, and physically abuse?

See, it's just really weird to me that you claim to be "pro-lesbian" but mostly just want lesbians to be obedient servants or loyal attack hounds.

I'm sorry, but somehow, I just don't believe that "wanting lesbians to have all the rights and recognitions of their humanity," is less hateful that your desperate attempts to reduce all lesbians to talking vaginas always ready to soothe your ego verbally or sexually.

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In light of current events, especially those regarding Iran, it’s become increasingly obvious that this blog is not a good place for my continued mental health.

I won’t be deleting it or anything so dramatic. I’m just going to stop logging in for a while. I don’t know how long, but probably not permanently.

This message will re-post at the end of my existing queue.

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teapotsahoy

what if

what if there aren’t evil people who its okay to abuse and good people who have never sinned, but instead just people who are all varying degrees of fuckups, and we have to treat them all ethically and demand ethical treatment for them, despite their varying fuckups?

WHAT IF

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no offence but i think a lot of us me included don’t actually want romantic love as badly as we think and really are just lonely and crave a closeness and intimacy that feels out of reach in friendships because of society’s emphasis on marriage and the nuclear family so we project that into the never ending search for a perfect love and a soulmate when really we all just want to mean something to someone

like i’m not dissing romantic love i would to be in love rn but i get so frustrated because humans are such social creatures and we need community to survive but we are taught that we need to pair off and so a lot of us spend a great majority of our lives lonely in between romantic encounters or we settle for less and give ourselves away to people because we are in constant fear of ending up completely isolated and alone and it’s so sad

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slinkyinky

This is called amatonormativity

100% amatonormativity, and this sense of loss or something missing in the definition of relationships is not limited to arospecs. Amatonormativity is baked into society as a whole (it's way more expensive to live alone, for example) and its casualties have effects on everyone. It's just that arospecs come into their identity and sense of self by way of examining these assumptions and trying to figure out what fits. You don't have to be aro to ask those questions and challenge those assumptions!

But this is a legitimate phenomenon, and nobody's listening to aros because we're "cringe." The more people we have across the spectrum of sexuality questioning "the way things are," the better it's going to be for all of us.

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