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@ineffectualdemon / ineffectualdemon.tumblr.com

Disabled, Genderqueer, pronouns: It/Its or any pronouns, AO3: preciousbunnynoiz, current PFP by magentasnail
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I am Bee

I'm an adult who has a husband and a queer teenager. I'm disabled, autistic and I'm genderqueer, bisexual, and aromantic

I'm ineffectualdemon on blue sky, pillowfort and cohost

I have a side blog where I am recording my retro watching reviews/project and you can find it here: @retro-watching

This blog is 90% Blorbo from my shows, 5% mental health/disability talk, 4% advocacy and 1% trying to cause people psychic damage

I curate my experience and am free with the block

Other notes: I am not your "Good Insane Person" I am uncomfortable and difficult and while I am open about my mental health struggles I am not better then other people who are mentally ill

My tag #not safe for esmes is because my kid has a Tumblr and follows me and they don't need to see me be randomly horny or sharing dick jokes or unpacking my trauma. So most nsfw content or talk about my childhood trauma gets that tag so it automatically filtered out for them

And no my kids name isn't Esme. That's our cat. It's just a convenient word

Lastly my current PFP is from this post:

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Ian McKellen  says that all gay people should be trans allies

Sir Ian McKellen urges gay people to be better allies to the transgender community.

The legendary actor and Stonewall co-founder joined It’s a Sin star Olly Alexander for a special LGBT+ History Month talk on TikTok on February 25, Pink News reports. 

Sir Ian said: 

“I do hear people – gay people – talk about transgender people in very much the same terms as people used to talk about your common or garden gay.
“The connection between us all is we come under the queer umbrella – we are queer. I quite like being queer actually.
“The problems that transgender people have with the law are not dissimilar from what used to be the case for us, so I think we should all be allies really.“

This is not the first time the actor has stood up to transphobes. 

Speaking to lifestyle magazine Attitude, the veteran star talked about how happy he was about Elliot Page coming out as transgender. 

He felt “so disappointed” with himself for not recognizing the struggles that the then-teenage actor could have been facing when they worked together.

The actor talked about why it is important to be honest with oneself.

Top photo from The Talks.

1. KING SHIT

2. yes

3.”common or garden gay”

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cloveerat

is this trend dead?

the way i can put all my favorite ships to this audio is insane

anyways yapper sqh x listener mbj

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unpretty
Anonymous asked:

kitty how do you play fallen london? I tried once and just got confused doing random things unsure how to find story, what am I doing wrong? is this the game?

if you want something with more direction and a more cohesive story, rather than a lot of different snippets, you might be better off playing one of the games they've released in the same world (sunless sea, sunless skies, mask of the rose)

the best way to play imho is to make an oc and play in character (mine is a professional snoop and secret romantic named genevieve) working to construct a cohesive personal narrative out of the various storylines you collect while playing. but i've also been playing on and off since it was still called Echo Bazaar and browser games of this type were more common, so i don't have the frame of reference to know which aspects of the gameplay are confusing.

if someone wanted to make a beginner's guide to getting into fallen london, i'd be happy to boost it!

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There is the wiki beginner's guide.

have to say that having one extremely into FL friend who is willing to answer all your questions and tell you which things are good is proving to be invaluable though.

One of the things that I did was start trying to pursue some of the bigger quest lines: the Ambitions and Person of Some Importance, etc.

Then just following those until I got to a spot where I needed something I didn't have and going to the wiki to figure out what I needed and going to do what it took to get that. If you do this, I recommend keeping notes about what you were doing because I am pretty sure I was working on my Ambition and then I got side tracked getting to the Cave of the Nadir and now I've got a lab and I haven't gotten back to my Ambition and I'm not actually sure I have the items I need to do it because I didn't take notes about where I diverged from the path.

That One Friend is also great for giving you a heads up about events like "hey, you need at least X amount of event stuff so you can get Y thing which is the best thing and also try to make sure you have these other things because you can upgrade them at the end of the event."

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darthbob88
I haven't gotten back to my Ambition and I'm not actually sure I have the items I need to do it because I didn't take notes about where I diverged from the path.

I can't speak for all story arcs, but your Ambition and the big ones like Evolution and Firmament are pretty good about indicating what you need to do next. Look at the "Myself" tab on the UI and scroll down to "Ambition", and it'll say something like "Ambition: Bag a Nemesis's Light Desire 69: Go to the Palace and do a thing". You'll still need to go to the Palace or the wiki and discover what else you need, but at least the path forward is pretty clear.

Also, there are two Discords, one official for FBG and one for the community, a subreddit, and the FBG forums, if you can't find That One Friend to tell you what to do.

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closet-keys

it disturbs me that a significant number of people think that the issue with sexual violence, gendered violence, and misogyny is sexual desire rather than dehumanization, so they are relentlessly suspicious of others' (and their own) desires while simultaneously never at all interrogating others' (and their own) dehumanizing beliefs about other people, both within and outside of sexual contexts

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So I had a hysterectomy today (hooray!) and I brought along my stuffed orca, Shamu, as a comfort object. And everyone i interacted with during my pre-op was like "Oh! Who's this?" so I was telling them all about him, how he's been with me since I was 9 and gone on every single vacation and road trip, and they were telling me about their own stuffed buddies (one lady said she still has hers after 40 years!) and all of this while I was signing consent forms and providing a list of the things I'd brought with me, you know, small talk.

So then a nurse comes over and goes "Okay, I've got some stickers I'll put on your things so we know they're yours" and I'm like "OK cool" so she puts a sticker on my coat and stickers on my bags of clothes and then she turns to Shamu and I'm like "oh I guess he gets a sticker too"

But no. She pulls out a hospital bracelet that's an exact copy of mine and slaps it on his tail, like so:

And i was delighted by this, so I took a picture to send to my friends, who were equally delighted, and were cracking me up with their reactions (like so:)

Anyway, they take me back and put me under, and when I awake groggily a few hours later it takes me a minute to get my bearings, so I don't notice Shamu at first. But then I realize he's tucked up next to me in the gurney, so I grab him, and my hand touches gauze.

And I'm like "huh?" so I look at him and I realize

They gave my fucking orca a hysterectomy

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Somethin' I'm Good At - Alec Hardison

Oh my gosh it's finally done!! I've been obsessing over this video for a few days now and ahhh I'm so excited that it's finished and I can share it with people!!

And of course I know Hardison is insanely competent at anything and everything, but this song just fit his personality so perfectly, I had to make the video! No insult towards him, just a fun and silly video that I can't stop dancing along with. I hope you enjoy it as much as I do!

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i was so fucking sceptical of TENs machines. The research was "it seems to work for some people but not others and fuck if we know why"

So I was sceptical that an electric current under my skin would affect my pain in any meaningful way but I was also fucking desperate for relief of any kind

So I was surprised when it seemed to help a bit for my shoulder. Then today I wanted to go out but my pain is really bad. Particularly my hip pain on my left side was making it difficult

So I thought I would try it despite the guide indicating a placement for my back pain which seemed counter intuitive

But fuck me if it isn't working

I can't feel any pain in my hip. I can walk (with aids) a little bit when previously it was

This is witchcraft

I will stress however that this is a very much mileage may vary situation. I took a 30quid gamble that I could afford and am lucky it paid off

For me the benefits are:

  • It's discreet
  • compact
  • effective (for me)
  • Simple to use

But please be aware there are also limitations:

  • Most people who experience relief only do so while it's running. Once you turn it off the pain returns
  • People can have allergies to the pads
  • The pads an ongoing cost
  • There is very little understanding of the long term effects
  • Depending on where you pain is you may need help applying it
  • Depending on your health issues or where your pain is it might be dangerous for you to use

So while I'm really happy about this please remember to do your own research and talk to your own health professionals before buying something like this

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musashi

i want more nuance to be entered into the discussion of the green girl sorority and how differently cynthia plays elphaba in comparison to those who came before her because while a lot of people are rightfully like "why was elphaba not black from the beginning" and celebrating that she is now being played by a black woman, i think we need to be careful in just writing off all the elphabas of the past as Random White Girls when the role was championed (and often followed/succeeded) by a jewish woman

the pop culture archetype of the Wicked Witch has deep roots in antisemitism stretching faaaar far back. there is a level of reclamation happening in casting idina menzel, a jewish woman, to play the Misunderstood and Maligned young girl who is branded as exactly that. and stage!Elphaba is also written and acted with jewish stereotypes in mind--she is loud, aggressive, no-nonsense, blunt. she is quick to advocate for herself and shut down the discrimination she faces. all of this is very intentional! her personality is abrasive from years of abuse, and that makes propagandizing her easy. this is literally the thesis statement of the musical--it's not about aptitude, it's the way you're viewed.

cynthia's performance of elphaba is fucking INSPIRED despite going in a completely different direction. she's much more reserved, analytical, one of her key character traits is how well she can read people (see her calling out Galinda as insecure/putting on airs in their first scene together, clocking that Fiyero is using his party guy persona as a shield for his own depression) elphaba's attempts to blend in and make herself smaller all fail simply because of her existence, if not that then because she feels empathy so strongly she often struggles to hold back from acting, protecting.

personality wise, though, cynthia's elphaba is very quiet and closed-off, not at all the bullet-to-the-face that she is in the stage show, and... she still gets propagandized and maligned. though this seems to contradict the other interpretation, it tells of the other end of the spectrum of propaganda, one that black women watching (and many, MANY other marginalized folks) are sure to identify with--it does not matter how "nice," how reserved, how small a black woman makes herself. a racist society will still scrutinize her every action for a way to parse ill intent from it, brand her as an angry black woman who is dangerous and wicked, and write off any humanity she has in the process.

these two very different interpretations tell of the lie of assimilation. the fact of the matter is, when you are marginalized, there is no way to sand down your edges enough to make the people oppressing you "accept" you. that is why wicked is a tragedy at its core. whether loud and aggressive or quiet and unimposing, there is nothing elphaba could have done to make the people of Oz see her as anything other than a scapegoat to blame all their problems on.

so while i definitely appreciate that people are excited for black girl era elphaba, i would encourage us all to still show appreciation for what came before--that was not white girl era elphaba. that was jewish girl era elphaba. two houses, both alike in dignity, two stories both worth being told.

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thememedaddy

Tell me more about NASA's scientific accuracy ratings for movies.

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songue85

For those who are curious...

The Worst:

1) 2012 (2009): Neutrinos from a solar flare heat up the Earth's core, setting off the end of life as we know it. The plot conveniently ignores the fact that neutrinos pass straight through matter—even us—without doing much of anything.

2) The Core (2003): The Earth's core has stopped rotating and scientists have to drill into it to start it back up. The moviemakers go nuts with basic geology, ending up with something the New York Times called “monumentally dumb.”

3) Armageddon (1998): A team of drillers is sent to an asteroid on its way to strike Earth to split it into two parts they say will fly safely past the planet, completely ignoring Newton's First Law of Motion ("an object will remain at rest or in uniform motion in a straight line unless acted upon by an external force"), which says that all they did was make two asteroids that would hit the Earth.

4) Volcano (1997): Los Angeles is destroyed by a volcano that springs up in the city. Bad science mingling with cheesy dialogue and effects.

5) Chain Reaction (1996): Keanu Reeves. Bubble fusion. A government plot to prevent the spread of the technology. The perfect recipe for bad.

6) The 6th Day (2000): Arnold Schwarzenegger is cloned. Because one of him just wasn't enough?

7) What the #$*Do We Know? (2004): Read the synopsis on Wikipedia. It'll make your head hurt.

And the Best:

1) Gattaca (1997)

2) Contact (1997)

3) Metropolis (1927)

5) Woman in the Moon (1929)

7) Jurassic Park (1993)

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savastasia

How are disabled and interracial illegal???

Interracial marriage was outlawed for the longest time, and disabled people lose government benefits when they get married so they cannot have reassurance that they will continue to LIVE if they get married.

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rxbiteme

Story time: my mom is white, dad is black. They’ve been together twenty four years, married for twenty three. When my parents were dating they did it on the low TO KEEP MY DAD SAFE.

My mom’s parents said “We don’t care who you love.” At that point she’d only ever brought home white guys. She brought my dad home-her mother called her a nigger lover and damned the relationship as much as possible. Her father grew around his prejudices after I was born but never apologized, just wasn’t a blatant fuck.

The day she introduced my father to her family was the last time she spoke to her mother for over twenty years. When I was getting sick and she called and asked her mother and grandmother if anyone in the family had anything strange happen similar what I was going through they told her “it’s because you married a black man. You made your bed, you lie in it.”

Cops pulled them over all the time and asked my mom IF SHE WAS OKAY AND IF SHE NEEDED HELP BECAUSE MY FATHER-A BLACK MAN-WAS DRIVING A 100 POUND WHITE WOMAN AROUND. HE WAS HARRASSED AND THREATED WITH ARREST.

My father ended up getting into a fight in self defence because some entitled hick decided he didn’t like seeing a black man and white woman in the bar together. Thankfully other patrons helped my father but he still couldn’t go to the er for his injuries. My mom patched him up and they were terrified the cops would take him away.

THEIR BEST FRIEND GOT LICENSED TO MARRY THEM SO THEY COULD ACTUALLY TIE THE KNOT BECAUSE NO ONE ELSE WOULD AND CITED JIM CROW ERA LAW AS TO WHY.

When shopping with just me my father wouldn’t hold my hand if there was a group around. Why? I’m far lighter than him and people had stopped and asked him “whose child is that?” Or “little girl where’s your parents?” and were stunned when I grinned and pointed at my dad and proudly proclaimed “my daddy’s right here.” You know where else mixed kids couldn’t hold their parents hands? Apartheid South Africa. We live in fucking FLORIDA.

So yeah. Some history for you.

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This post was made in October 2018. The above poster’s parents met in 1994. We were a generation removed from the Civil Rights movement and this was happening.

I’m Disabled.

Before applying for the federal program SSDI, we married. This was to prevent losing the life-saving insurance I needed. At that point, I was still on my parents’ insurance, but would soon age out of being able to use it.

After we married, I applied for SSDI, which takes about two years. Everyone is denied by default, so I was prepared with an SSDI lawyer (they only take the case if they know they can win, and their payment is a very small portion of your backpay; my lawyer was paid just 15% of my backpay)backpack. When the rejection letter arrived, I immediately went to her for help.

I inquired about the state program SSI. She told me I didn’t qualify because I’m married. I applied anyway, because I ad nothing to lose. Here’s what the person at the SSI office told me I would have to do before I could apply:

  • I need to divorce my husband.
  • I need to live alone. We could not be living together because this would be seen as us basically being married.
  • I need to have less than $2k to my name at all times.
  • I cannot work.
  • I cannot live with my parents because their income would count against me.
  • I cannot own expensive things that could be sold for money.

If I was approved, I would have to continue following these rules with a few additions.

  • I cannot receive gifts of money.
  • I must have a bank account, and they would monitor it to make sure I never went even a single cent over $2000.
  • I cannot have a savings account.
  • I cannot have a safety deposit box.
  • I would have to continue living alone.
  • They can stop by my home at anytime to inspect how I’m living. They could talk to my neighbors to see if I had anyone who visited and helped me as more than just a friend. This means I could not have my former husband turned boyfriend stay overnight, and he cannot be perceived as taking care of me.
  • I cannot have anyone help me financially. This means no one else can pay my bills. If I cannot afford those bills on my own, I would have to apply for programs that would. Most of those have long waiting lists, like section 8 housing (we had applied for section 8 housing in 2008, and three years ago I received an email telling me we qualified. They had only the information we gave them in 2008, and have since moved across the country).
  • My SSDI, if approved, would count against me financially.
  • The most money I would receive from SSI, if I did everything they demanded and was approved, was $618/month.

This is enforced poverty. It’s also the onky way may of those Disabled would be able to receive the medical care that keeps them alive, like Medicaid. My seizure medication used to cost nearly $2k/month. My neurologist gave me free samples of it every month and helped me apply for free medication through the manufacturer’s financial aid program (you should too if you can’t afford your medication). I was receiving medical care through the hospital’s financial aid program when I married and lost my parents’ insurance coverage.

I refused to do as SSI demanded. My SSDI lawyer was, in fact, relieved when I told her I’m married. Why? Because marrying afterwards would have caused serious and life-threatening complications. She encourages everyone who applies for SSDI to marry if it’s possible a ble for them to do so. Because of her, I was approved for other programs, things I didn’t even know existed, but for two years, it was Hell-on-Earth. I couldn’t work because it would count against me. At that time, rent was $650, but my husband was making federal minimum wage, worked full time, and his employer kept changing his schedule, which made it impossible to apply for a second job.

I know many who are on SSI and need it in order to remain alive. One of my friends nearly fell out if the program because a nosy neighbor saw her and her boyfriend cuddling in her couch watching a movie. They assumed he was secretly living with her. Said neighbor was frequently seen just outside my friend’s windows, watching her. When she met my lawyer after getting the automatic SSDI rejection, she married, got into the programs I had been in, and filed a restraining order against her neighbor because my lawyer absolutely insisted on it. The bitch violated the terms three times and was put in prison for six months. She’s now on SSDI, married, and much happier.

Marriage equality does not exist until the Disabled can marry without losing everything.

[id/ four hands holding a piece of paper with text saying: “Rolling your eyes when someone says ‘imagine if love was illegal 🤔’ ”, the hands are labeled “Queer ppl”, “Interreligious relationships”, “POC + interracial relationships” and “Disabled people” /end id.]

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gwydionmisha

All of the above.

As a disabled person, I hate the whole dance we have to do to stay alive because enforced poverty

I just wanted to add, in 1992 or thereabouts, my friend group of college age people took a high school kid under our wing. (He was a sweet kid and studied at our dojo and liked table top gaming.) He had had a hard time of it for a variety of reasons, so we befriended him.

His Mom was white and his dad was black.

He was a latch key kid and had been since upper elementary. He’d get home from school and several times a week one or more grown men would phone him up knowing he was alone and threaten to kill him because he was mixed.

It was still happening 1992-94, until he graduated and could move out of his parents home.

We lived in the North.

It’s living memory in a large town and it’s not just the South.

I think the more we lampshade northern racism, the easier it is for despicable shit to flourish.

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(ʘ‿ʘ✿) “what you say ‘bout me”

(ʘ‿ʘ)ノ✿ “hold my flower”

✿\(。-_-。) “Kick his ass, baby.  I got yo flower.”

i found it

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i found it

this should have the opportunity to be on everyone’s blog. 

*tour guide voice*

and here on the left ladies and gentlemen, you see one of the posts before everyone went batshit crazy

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mayakern

A Note From Our Founder (and some other things)/ The World's Longest Newsletter

Hey, y’all. The past week has brought us a lot of extremes: first the fear, horror, shame and despair as we realized just how dire the business’ financial situation was… and then relief, gratitude, hope, joy—so many overwhelming feelings I don’t even have the words for them all. Y’all showed up for us in a big way and I cannot even begin to express how thankful I am for that. Many of you have followed the store for years. You’ve watched as it’s grown—bloomed—and seen me do the same, as for better or worse, my identity and the business’ are so closely intertwined. So much of my life is invested in this little indie clothing brand that the prospect of it hurtling towards failure made me feel like I, too, was hurtling towards failure. But you all showed up and helped us avoid a huge crisis and for that I cannot even begin to say how thankful I am. How thankful we all are. Not only did sales rise to meet our crisis, but you showed us such an overwhelming amount of kindness—sharing our store on social media and with friends, offering us words of encouragement, telling us just how much you love our clothing and how much it has meant to you—that will touch me forever. We’re not quite out of the woods yet—our immediate payroll concerns have been addressed, but we’ll still have to get a bit scrappy and roll with the punches for the next few months, if not longer. But thanks to all of you, now our problems look solvable and not like unavoidable catastrophes. Thank you. Maya Founder/Co-Owner Maya Kern LLC

In case you haven’t heard, we’re still running our sale—almost everything in our store, including garments that were already put on clearance, are 20-50% off. Many items are being sold at or below the amount we paid to make them to help us recoup some of our production costs. Some of our buttery soft viscose shirts are as cheap as $9 right now! This sale will be ending Sunday night at midnight US central time, so don’t miss it!

Also, we heard from y’all that our store’s auto region detection was buggy as heck, so for your convenience we’ve added a “Store Location” drop down to the top of our store page. Many of our items are already sold out in the US, but some of those sold out garments are still in stock in Canada.

We’ve heard y’all loud and clear—many of y’all have asked us when our petticoats will return and have also suggested that we run some preorders to help us secure funds for production. So from January 16th at 12pm Central to January 30th at 12pm central, we’ll be running preorders for our much loved petticoats! For those of you unfamiliar with our petticoats, they are a lightweight, sensory friendly under layer that adds the perfect amount of volume under our midi skirts. While many petticoats cut corners by either offering only a limited size range or by stacking layer upon layer of scratchy, flimsy tulle to create the desired volume while growing heavier with every added layer, our petticoats use fewer layers of a stiffer, higher quality tulle that maintains its volume under the weight of a skirt. Because all tulle regardless of quality can be quite scratchy, we also added a satin slip as the base layer of our petticoats to make sure that they are sensory friendly and non-irritating.

This time they’ll be available in classic black and lovely blush. We’ll also be offering a small discount to anyone who buys a petticoat during preorders. (Please keep in mind that the blush petticoat photos are mockups and so the final color may be slightly different)

And lastly, if you’ve made it this far, we have some production news! I could not be happier about how much y’all have loved the cozy matcha set—they’re already sold out in the US (tho our Canada store still has a few left!). Creating this loungewear set has been on my bucket list for so long and I am ecstatic that y’all share my love for them. Thanks to how good the sales have been, we’ve been able to plan more cozy sets for later this year, even though they are quite expensive to make. First up will be a spring/summer version with short sleeves and shorts. These will have a different, less warm interior but will still be made of 100% cotton.

I have some ideas rolling around for a new cozy set or two for the end of 2025, but I’ll just let y’all stay curious about that. In truth I am so excited about the next winter concept that I can hardly bear to keep the secret, but I shouldn’t get ahead of myself.

Thanks so much for reading and have a great rest of your day!

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Me, just trying to read my book in bed:

@mothman-etd walking into the room: hey, so do you know who the Onceler is?

Me:

And then he left.

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mothman-etd

To be fair you lost the ability to talk so I figured I'd give you some time to collect your thoughts.

You looked so serious. I thought you were going to tell me someone died.

And then you hit me with a fucking loony toons mallet.

It's been 12 minutes and I’m still cry-laughing so hard Holly Mop is concerned. She thinks I’m in pain.

I am being shown Onceler gifs. The fuck was wrong with you all.

You brought this on yourself. Suffer.

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dragon-saint

Live footage from Joy's House right now...

One year to the day and @mothman-etd turned to me in bed and said, “hey, what was the name of that dr. Seus character tumblr was obsessed with? The Rizzler?”

“…are you asking me about the Onceler again?”

“Yes! god, thank you, now I can stop calling him the Rizzler.”

The Rizzler.

I’m fucking screaming

I knew it was wrong, that's why it was stuck there. Now that I know what is right I can forget about him again for another year.

Please, I just want peace.

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