girls will go from “im gonna marry him” to psychiatrist appointment every wednesday at 4:30

When you understand that God is never late, you wait differently.

Men are supposed to fall in love with you falling in love with yourself

For years I never quite understood the whole you have to love yourself first in order for others to love you.

But now I do and I’ll explain it as best as I can:

When you walk into a room, the only thing you have going for you is your appearance and attitude (aka confidence)

You could be a loving, creative highly intelligent woman beneath the layers of insecurity, but if you act insecure, don’t take up space and speak negatively of yourself, people will just accept that conclusion about you because again they can only know what you show them, they’ll assume that you must have something to be insecure about.

Similarly, you could have previously been the ugly duckling, could have been bullied at school, picked last, a victim of trauma, but if you act confident and speak highly about yourself, that’s the only conclusion people will take with them, they’ll assume you have a good life going for you because you’re confident.

You are a walking advertisement for yourself, everywhere you go, through your confidence(or lack of)you’re telling people how you feel about yourself and how they should expect to treat you.

We are wired to want the best for ourselves, so given the choice between a confident and insecure person we’ll choose the confident one, because they carry the promise of a good time!

Think about weddings, there’s always that one bridesmaid who’s a bundle of light, she’s talking to the DJ, and helping the staff serve food and chatting up the elder family members, everyone loves her and remembers her. Think about the cool girl you meet in the bathroom of a club, she lets you borrow her lipstick and gives you an uplifting compliment and makes you feel good about yourself, and you think wow I’d love to get to know her.

THAT’s the impact of self confidence, it’s this luminosity that’s so addictive and that draws everybody in.

In dating too, you will have the best outcome if you carry yourself with utmost confidence knowing that you’re adding more and contributing to anyone who walks into your life.

Alain Delon and Romy Schneider kissing in their dressing room, 1961. at the Théâtre de Paris. They were performing the play Tis Pity She's a Whore dir. by Luchino Visconti

Monica Belluci in La Riffa (1991)

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Showing up for myself

Respecting me

Validating me

Creating space

Healing

Self forgiveness

Self consistency

Authenticity

Celebrating myself

Being honest with myself

Choosing peace

Prioritizing myself

Understanding my emotions

Listening to my body

Taking care of my body

Working out, skin care, beauty

Creating

Accomplishing goals

Journaling

Reading

Creating a schedule and sticking to it

Cooking

Dancing around

Buying myself things that make me feel good and happy

Making time to do things I enjoy

Taking care of myself emotionally and mentally

Practicing and learning new things

Rewarding myself for the little things

Rewarding myself for the big things

Resting

Taking time to do things I love

Complimenting myself

Being honest with myself

Setting boundaries

— Aldous Huxley, from “Brave New World.”

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