part of the reason why the whole "men/boys are taught not to cry!!!! its so sad for them!!!!" thing bothers me is because so many women i know went through childhood and young adult life staring into the middle distance in order to be taken seriously as people. its devastating to learn as a child that crying is associated with "femininity" weakness and hysteria and to witness all around you how these farcical patriarchal claims are used to dismiss women's distress. different human emotions being assigned specific genders and "feminine emotions" specifically being belittled and degraded can actually make women recoil from them in order to be treated like a person, isn't that funny
like the notion that men/boys grow up learning to be repulsed by their own emotional vulnerability (i.e. "femininity") actually also extends to women and girls and everyone else too. the rest of us don't just go through life happily and comfortably emoting and have those emotions received with open arms