your f/o doesn't mind if you aren't "strong". your f/o doesn't mind if your health isn't ideal. even if you can't withstand as much of something as the average, even if that'd end up "taking more work" for them.

it's not work for them. quite the contrary, honestly. they love you for you, and actively want to be there for you, no matter what.

wishing everyone a very good luck getting through january-march without killing yourself

once again wishing everyone a very pleasant please don’t kill yourself

Rb to give gender euphoria to the person you reblogged it from

With the new year officially being here, I think it's important that I say something.

To whoever is reading this - I'm proud of you. This could've been the best or worst year of your life. You could've moved on from something terrible or fallen deeper. You could have changed your entire mindset. The you exactly a year ago could be overjoyed or absolutely horrified at how your life has gone. No matter what, I'm proud.

You did what you had to in order to survive. Sometimes, we have to be alive before we can try to live.

Even if you wanted to give up, even if you were like me and you did give up. Maybe that attempt made it to the hospital, maybe you relapsed into a terrible coping mechanism. It doesn't matter, because that doesn't change the fact that you're still here and continuing another day. I know firsthand how hard that can be sometimes.

The new year brings so much positive energy into our lives. Whether you believe in that or not, try to remember that you have an entire lifetime to accomplish everything, not just a year. Figure out where you are, and go from there. Whether 2024 was amazing or not, whether the year started good for you or not, you have time. You're alive, and you made it; and if that's not something to be proud of, then I don't know what is.

Sending love to everyone who is just... tired. Life is a lot, and sometimes the answer to it all is to just be still and silent for a while. Give yourself space and grace. Whether it’s decision fatigue, anxiety fatigue, information fatigue, routine fatigue, getting life back together fatigue, career fatigue, social fatigue, financial fatigue, or physical fatigue—take a moment to breathe and recharge. You deserve it.

shout out to the people who’s f/os are typically cold , calculated , or can come off as mean or uncaring . Just know , their love for you knows no limits and they enjoy being able to unwind and feel comfortable around you , enough to show a side of them that people almost never see . You’re like a rock to them , someone who helps them feel safe . <33

You have to brave the ordeal of being perceived.

You have to allow yourself to communicate your desires.

You have to ask for what you want without assuming your wants are a burden before you even ask.

You have to stop compromising on your own desires before you even ask for them.

You have to stop perceiving your own desires as shameful, humiliating and burdensome.

You are everything to your F/O. Don't forget that.

This imagine goes out to the self-shippers who either choose not to associate with their family, or unfortunately are in a position where they may not have much of a family at all.

The latter half of the year— specifically, the holidays— can be a tough time for many for a myriad of reasons, but just know that throughout it all, your F/Os see you, are here for you, and will remain by your side no matter what.

Think of all of your F/Os not only as one big family, but your true family, whether or not the first paragraph of this post applies to you. If it all becomes too much and you are disillusioned by the notion that you're all alone— you're not.

Your F/Os couldn't be happier to have you in their lives and are so thankful for you. Romantic, platonic, familial or parental, just you being the person that you are makes them even happier than you could possibly fathom.

💞 Remember that. 💞

ANTIS DNI, THIS POST IS NOT FOR YOU

I love you disabled selfshippers, whether you use mobility aids, live with chronic pain, or have invisible disabilities. Your f/o(s) would help you any way they can. They’d make sure you never feel alone in your struggles and would celebrate every victory, big or small, right by your side.

I love you mentally ill selfshippers, your f/o(s) would learn your triggers, ground you with their presence when your mind starts to spiral, celebrate your progress, and remind you every day that you are never too much to love.

I love you neurodivergent selfshippers, your f/o(s) would help you stay focused when distractions hit, adapt their communication to your needs, and support you through sensory overload. They love your unique mind and would never make you feel bad for not understanding things right away.

I love you trans selfshippers, your f/o(s) will always refer to you by the correct name and pronouns and will do their best to help you with gender affirming things you need and your transition (and they'd also be totally understanding if you don't wish to transition).

I love you plus-size selfshippers, whether you wish to loose weight or not, your f/o(s) loves and worships your body exactly as it is and they'd never allow anyone to make you feel bad about yourself.

I love you POC selfshippers, your f/o(s) would celebrate your culture and heritage with you with pride. They'd never let anyone get away with discrimination or microagression against you.

I love you stigmatized selfshippers in general, you deserve to feel safe and at home in our community as much as everyone.

As the year is ending soon... this is your friendly reminder that you didn’t waste your year. any moments of happiness or comfort, any small accomplishments, they all matter. this has been a really hard year, and simply surviving is something to be proud of. 🤎

dear non-sharing yumes — you’re never selfish for being nonsharing. you’re not “too sensitive” for getting upset when someone else talks romantically about your f/o. your f/o loves you so, so much.

“i don’t think my f/o would actually love me” yes, they would!!! it doesn’t matter who you are!!! it doesn’t matter if it’s “out of character” for them!!! you will always be the exception and they will never stop loving you!!!

its time to cut off your relationship with your own self destruction. your nurturing of your own misery that was once meant to ease the cavernous isolation that came with the pain serves you no longer. you are not in love with your sadness, you are used to it. familiarity wears the mask of comfort for us all,however, it is a lie. & it is time for you to push that notion to the curb. starting right now, choose yourself.

there is enough suffering coming your way without you grabbing hold of every spiral your brain takes down. if you can’t feel hopeful, practice gentle curiosity. ask yourself, in what way is this thought pattern serving me? where did I learn to talk to myself this way? does this make me feel good?

Before we can change we have to realize that we even want to, & to peek through the fog at the possibility that we just may move in that direction, some day.

have patience with yourself

it’s small joys saturday y’all let’s get it

You're F/O's would choose you in every universe. I'm sorry you have to witness the one where they can't.