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local mourning dove goes viral for show-stopping performance in may 19th dawn chorus. when asked for comment, the rising star simply said “hhhrrroooOOOOO hooooo hoo. hooooo”

hey. they’re what??

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planetary

hi those are my tags yeah i saw some videos about it, theyre all like “remember this sound? the birds you would always hear in your childhood in the early 2000s? you dont hear it anymore bc these birds went extinct in 2020…. </3” and everyones always commenting like OMG NO THATS SO SAD THIS SOUND IS SO NOSTALGIC!!! like what do you mean i hear them all the time…

anyways heres 3 of them on my porch yesterday

edit: here’s a tiktok claiming they’re extinct, it has 400k views. here’s another with 232k views

so sad that mourning doves are extinct now. sometimes i can still hear them hoo hoo hooing

[Image 1: tag reading, "did you know tiktokers are trying to convince people that mourning doves went extinct in 2020?"

Image 2 and 3: photos of three brown doves perched on a white wooden fence or railing.

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tikkety-tok

[Video: tik tok by @kylelandrypiano where a pale bearded person with short hair and a yellow shirt plays the piano. Captions change as the piace being played is changed.

"What my dad wants me to play". Journey - Don't Stop Believin'

"What my teacher wants me to play". Mozart - Rondo Alla Turca

"What my friends want me to play". Vanessa Carlton - A Thousand Miles

"What I want to play". Chopin - Etude Op. 25 No. 11 "Winter Wind"

"What Tik Tok wants me to play". JoJo's Bizarre Adventure: Giorno's Theme "Il vento d'oro"

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i have a hot take about vine and tik tok if you allow me

vine’s entire concept was “show don’t tell” while tik tok’s entire concept is “tell don’t show”

might risk sounding like an Old Fart but i want to elaborate what i mean:

sometimes i will see Tiktoks that are just people talking to a camera about a thing that happened to them and then at the end… won’t even show the thing they’re talking about. they’re just talking to a camera. that or the few staged jokes take waaaaaay too much time to get to the punchline, and the punchline isn’t even funny (and the acting is bad)

meanwhile on vine, you only had 7 seconds, and in 7 seconds you could have anything happen, and a dude said “back at it at krispy kreme” and did backflips and kicked out a sign in his final flip and the video just cut with no explanation, and it was the greatest vine on earth

i think you’re right, but i want to expand on WHY i think you’re right, and hone in more specifically on time, and one other factor

if brevity is the soul of wit, then vine was the body in which that soul resided. without the imposed brevity of vine, very, very few people have the comedic discipline to impose brevity on ourselves, so you get tens of thousands of tiktoks that WOULD be hilarious… if they just ended a few seconds sooner

which is just kind of restating your point but where i think it gets interesting is that the SPECIFIC time constraints of tiktok seem to be like. the absolute worst of both worlds? they’re too long to comfortably fill with action/physical comedy without scripting, but they’re also too short for any substance. it’s not like long-form comedy can’t work, but you need more breathing room, which you can get on youtube

basically i think tiktoks are too long for a gag, but also, sinisterly, too short for a bit. that in-between length necessitates a VERY high skill level to use effectively

but what’s that one other factor i mentioned? well, it’s the factor that brings us back around to ‘narrating to the camera while nothing happens’ vs 'narrating behind the camera while something happens’: for a very long time, tiktok’s algorithm aggressively favored content depicting conventionally attractive young people.

so aggressively that 'talking into the camera’ (something which most people find pretty awkward and uncomfortable) became the standard for tiktok content, long after the algorithm (allegedly) stopped favoring young babes. it’s a really fascinating study in how tiny changes in environment can create WILDLY divergent cultures over very little time

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mycroftrh

It's really interesting to me that new social media platforms more and more actively prevent you from Using Your Words.

LiveJournal and Tumblr are technically "micro-blogging" sites first and social networking sites second. They're meant for Talking About Things, and the platform is mechanically set up to do so. "#long post" is what they're designed to do. Tumblr's image-heaviness was at one point seen as an oddity.

MySpace gave you your own blog, as well as forums.

Facebook is set up to allow indefinite amounts of text. They'll look ugly, admittedly. But you very much can, and that is the default format.

Twitter has built-in to its foundation that you cannot say more than a single sentence without circumventing the entire basis of the site. You are not meant to be able to say anything longer than that, and if you try to get around it they will do their darndest to make your content impossible to read. Also, Twitter physically does not let you edit a tweet.

Instagram is. Pictures. If you're using it at base functionality there are zero (0) words. You can do a caption if you want but the thing it's designed for does not include words at all. Also, you can edit that caption but the bulk of your post (the image) cannot be edited; and if you edit your caption the engagement algorithm resets so, effectively, no one will ever see that post again.

Snapchat doesn't even let you do captions. You can circumvent it trying to prevent you from Using Your Words by putting a tiny strip of text across your image and that's the best you've got. (If you're visually impaired, fuck you.) Also, no editing whatsoever.

TikTok is "new tumblr" because at least you can convey a significant number of words - you just aren't allowed to TYPE them. (If you're hearing-impaired or visually impaired fuck you.) A platform where typed text effectively does not exist is the closest modern social media gets to actually allowing you to say more than a single sentence. Also, no editing whatsoever.

Anyway, my point being, like... of course there's no nuance in Twitter discourse. There's nowhere to put it whether you want to or not. Of course people get increasingly angry and polarised - there's nowhere to put a clarification or elaboration, nowhere to put even a couple words indicating your intended tone. In discussions where people are already sensitive or defensive, everyone's left to take the most negative reading of what they see because they have no basis for taking it otherwise. No one can go back and edit what they've posted, or in most cases even edit while they're posting, so if you realize that your wording was confusing, or more information leads you to change your mind, or you just have a horrible typo, you're shit outta luck.

New social media actively, intentionally builds into the foundations of their platforms Physically Not Allowing You To Use Your Words, and they do it more and more as time goes on. And, like, not to sound like a "social media is evil and fire is scary" boomer, but that's kinda worrying.

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tumblr users: i hate tiktok it's the worst

every post of a tiktok video: 12,746 reblogs, 45,094 likes

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solitarelee

yes but the experience of occassionally seeing a curated-by-my-homies tiktok vid on my dash is so violently different from the endless stream of scrolling through algorithmic video content. i crave variety. what is my social media experience without walls of text interrupted randomly by videos of ducks and pictures of weird vegan brownies.

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Do not talk about your abusive family on tiktok. Do not talk about your closeted identity on tiktok. Do not talk about your traumas and mental illnesses on tiktok. Do not talk about your plans to move out from your abusive household on tiktok. Do not talk about the ways you disagree with your bigoted family on tiktok.

Do not attach your face or voice to anything on tiktok that you do not want your family members, neighbors, coworkers, or classmates to see. Be smart and stay safe.

Before posting ANYTHING on tiktok, ask yourself what could happen if your video is recommended to someone who recognizes you in real life.

If you're talking about your abusive mother, what will happen if one of her friends sees your video? If you're talking about being a closeted trans teen, what will happen if your friend's parents see your video? Will there be consequences? Will you be in danger? Are you in a safe enoigh position where that information getting out wouldn't put you at risk? What information do you want circulating about yourself?

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zoobus

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On Sept. 17, 2021, my long-distance girlfriend, Lauren, paid a surprise visit to me while a friend filmed my reaction. Three days later, she set the 19-second clip to a hokey Ellie Goulding song and posted it to roughly 200 TikTok followers. The first commenters—Lauren’s close friends—had positive things to say. But soon strangers—among whom the video was less well received—began commenting, criticizing my reaction time or my being seated on a couch next to friends who happened to be of the opposite sex. “Girl he ain’t loyal.” “Red flag! He didn’t get up off the couch and jump up and down in excitement.” “Bro if my man was on a couch full of girls IM WALKING BACK OUT THE DOOR.”
As comments accusing me of infidelity rolled in, the video quickly became the topic of fierce online debate, à la “The Dress.” I, an ordinary college sophomore, became TikTok’s latest meme: Couch Guy. TikTok users made parody videos, American Eagle advertised a no-effort Couch Guy Halloween costume, and Rolling Stone, E! Online, The Daily Show, and The View all covered the phenomenon. On TikTok, Lauren’s video and the hashtag #CouchGuy, respectively, have received more than 64 million and 1 billion views.
While the Couch Guy meme was lighthearted on its surface, it turned menacing as TikTok users obsessively invaded the lives of Lauren, our friends, and me—people with no previous desire for internet fame, let alone infamy. Would-be sleuths conducted what Trevor Noah jokingly called “the most intense forensic investigation since the Kennedy assassination.” During my tenure as Couch Guy, I was the subject of frame-by-frame body language analyses, armchair diagnoses of psychopathy, comparisons to convicted murderers, and general discussions about my “bad vibes.”
At times, the investigation even transcended the digital world—for instance, when a resident in my apartment building posted a TikTok video, which accumulated 2.3 million views, of himself slipping a note under my door to request an interview. (I did not respond.) One viewer gleefully commented, “Even if this guy turned off his phone, he can’t escape the couch guy notifications,” a fact that the 37,600 users who liked it presumably celebrated too. Under another video, in which hall mates of mine promised to confront Couch Guy once they reached 1 million likes (they didn’t), a comment suggested that they “secretly see who’s coming and going from his place”—and received 17,800 approving likes. The New York Post reported on, and perhaps encouraged, such invasions of my privacy. In an article about the “frenzy … frantically trying to determine the identity” of the “mystery man” behind the meme, the Post asked, “Will the real ‘couch guy’ please stand up?” Meanwhile, as internet sleuths took to public online forums to sniff out my name, birthdate, and place of residence, the threat of doxxing loomed over my head.
Exacerbating these invasions of my privacy was the tabloid-style media coverage that I received. Take, for example, one online magazine article that solicited insights from a “body language expert” who concluded that my accusers “might be onto something,” since the “angle of [my] knees signals disinterest” and my “hands hint that [I’m] defensive.” This tabloid body language analysis—something typically reserved for Kardashians, the British royal family, and other A-listers—made me, a private citizen who had previously enjoyed his minimal internet presence, an unwilling recipient of the celebrity treatment.
Mercifully, my memedom has died down—interest in the Google search term “Couch Guy” peaked on Oct. 5—and I have come to tolerate looks of vague recognition and occasional selfie requests from strangers in public. And my digital scarlet letter has not carried much weight offline, given that Lauren and the other co-stars of the now-infamous video know my true character. Therefore, my anxiety rests only in the prospect that the invasive TikTok sleuthing I experienced was not an isolated instance, but rather—as tech writer Ryan Broderick has suggested—the latest manifestation of a large-scale sleuthing culture.
The sleuthing trend sweeping TikTok ramped up following the disappearance of the late Gabby Petito. As armchair TikTok sleuths flexed their investigative muscles, the app’s algorithm boosted content theorizing about what happened to Petito. Madison Kircher of Slate’s ICYMI podcast noted how her “For You page just decided I simply needed to see” TikTok users’ Gabby Petito videos “over and over again.” It appears that a similar phenomenon occurred with my lower-stakes virality, as I found myself scrolling through countless tweets bemoaning the inescapability of “Couch Guy TikTok.” One user despairingly reported seeing “five tik toks back to back on my [For You page] about couch guy.” (I assure you, though, that nobody despised Couch Guy’s omnipresence more than myself.)
The most recent target of the app’s emerging investigative spirit was Sabrina Prater, a 34-year-old contractor and trans woman, who went viral in November after posting a video of herself dancing in a basement midrenovation. The video’s virality began with parody videos, but quickly veered into the realm of conspiracy theory due to (you guessed it) the video’s apparent “bad vibes”—at which point I got a dreadful sense of déjà vu. As Prater’s video climbed to 22 million views and internet sleuths came together to form a r/WhosSabrinaPrater community on Reddit, Prater faced baseless murder accusations, transphobic comparisons to Buffalo Bill from The Silence of the Lambs, and overzealous vigilantes who threatened to go to her neighborhood to investigate further. This incident reveals the harmful potential of TikTok sleuthing. One expert aptly summed up the Prater saga to Rolling Stone: “It was like watching true crime, internet sleuthing, conspiracy theories, and transphobia collide in a car crash.”
Given the apparent tendency of the TikTok algorithm to present viral spectacles to a user base increasingly hungry for content to analyze forensically, there will inevitably be more Couch Guys or Praters in the future. When they appear on your For You page, I implore you to remember that they are people, not mysteries for you to solve. As users focused their collective magnifying glass on Lauren, my friends, and me—comparing their sleuthing to “watching a soap opera and knowing who the bad guy is”—it felt like the entertainment value of the meme began to overshadow our humanity. Stirred to make a TikTok of my own to quell the increasing hate, I posted a video reminding the sleuths that “not everything is true crime”—which commenters resoundingly deemed “gaslighting.” Lauren’s videos requesting that the armchair investigation stop were similarly dismissed as more evidence of my success as a manipulator, and my friends’ entreaties to respect our privacy, too, fell on deaf ears.
Certainly, noncelebrities have long unwillingly become public figures, and digital pile-ons have existed in some form since the dawn of the digital age—just ask Monica Lewinsky. But on TikTok, algorithmic feedback loops and the nature of the For You page make it easier than ever for regular people to be thrust against their wishes into the limelight. And the extent of our collective power is less obvious online, where pile-ons are delivered, as journalist Jon Ronson put it, “like remotely administered drone strikes.” On the receiving end of the barrage, however, as one finds their reputation challenged, body language hyperanalyzed, and privacy invaded, the severity of our collective power is made much too clear.

fun fact: lauren, the girl mentioned in the piece, still gets harassing comments on every single video she posts, to this day. her most recent video is from a few days ago (september 2022) and there are literally dozens of comments still referencing the incident, calling her 'embarassing' and 'gullible' for not breaking up with her high school sweetheart over some amateur tiktok body language analysis of a ten second clip. this one is just her dancing, from a couple weeks ago, and the comments are full of people insulting her appearance, calling her annoying, gleefully telling her they're excited to hear about her breakup. it has been nearly a full year since the original video went viral.

it's very telling that this entire incident was ostensibly designed around helping her; stopping a girl from getting cheated on, and the instant she didn't play along, she became a victim of this harassment campaign as well. this had nothing to do with helping anyone, and was entirely about the glee of putting someone- a completely innocent person!- in the stocks. awful but very telling case study.

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tolovaj

Sick sick sick of possibility of being fucking recorded every waking second by tiktok obsessed quasi celebs. Video titled something like “Caught him thinking he’s the main character” but it was just a kid wearing headphones, looking out the bus window. Of course it was posted without his knowledge. Stop recording strangers and everything you see, nobody gives a shit and not everyone is happy to be on tiktok or youtube because of a moron with no braincells and an account. What could be a forgettable awkward moment is now permanently there for the victim of lackabrainis infested idiot to get anxious about forever.

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ro-zden

Okay, this seems like a relevant thing to share today: I’ve been in this position. Back in college while on that student lifestyle, I somehow ended up with a pretty bad iron deficiency. How bad? I was not only sleeping too much, I was falling asleep everywhere – in class, in the library, in cafes five minutes after drinking coffee. It was terrible. Anyway, during a class I enjoyed, I was sat at a table with a few classmates, and I started falling asleep while taking notes; nodding off, dropping my pen, startling awake and falling asleep again, until my head was on the table. No one seemed to mind, we were all going through it I guess, and my lecturer was nice enough not to make a big deal out of it.

Cut to the next day and I was in the Students Union, when a friend came up to me and told me how funny that video was of me falling asleep in class was. What? I asked her about it, what did she mean, who made the video, and she realised I literally had no clue about it. Kindly, she told me who to talk to and I thanked her. I was already upset, but I knew it wasn’t the messenger’s fault. So, I took to Facebook and messaged the girl who made the video – a girl on my table in the class from before. I asked her about it, and she admitted it right away – she took the video on her phone during class and posted it to her snapchat. That’s how the other girl saw it, not to mention countless others.

Sorting this out was an absolute toil. I felt betrayed and violated that someone would do that while I was obviously not in a position to have any say about it. I lost friendships with the people who took the girl’s side, as if it was no big deal or “funny”. I had to tell the lecturer about it, because let’s face it, that’s a shit thing to allow to happen during class itself, the department moved to be more alert and proactive about restricting phone use in class, and all that girl had to do was give a half-hearted apology. The next semester, she was still openly using her phone in another class we had.

For a long time, I couldn’t trust anyone who held their phone up around me, as if to take photos or video. It would make me so anxious and put me on edge. I never did speak to the people who cosigned her behaviour, who acted like it wasn’t their problem that their bff video-recorded a person in class over their health condition without their consent.

I did eventually grow out of my anxiety around phones, and I resisted the urge to break that girl’s phone, but, I will absolutely bring back that energy if I see someone record a stranger in public without their consent. Take it from someone who’s been that target – if you think it’s okay, you deserve to get your shit wrecked.

I just want to add, in case anyone reads this and isn’t sure – yes, it is absolutely fine to reblog this, and in fact I encourage you to. If testimony from a former target of this behaviour is the one thing that makes it click for anyone thinking of doing it, if it makes them reconsider before potentially ruining a stranger’s life, then my experience will be worth it for me.

Don’t record strangers and put that shit on the Internet or social media without their consent.

In the early 2000, long before phones were able to film and take pictures, before streaming websites like Youtube or social media as we know even existed, there was a normal 15-year old teenage boy who filmed himself with a plain old camera for a school assignment. And somehow, the tape fell into another student’s hands who uploaded it into a sharing files website named Kazaa. Showing the chubby teenager who seems like he was having a blast and was giving his all, clumsily moving around the shot. 

Strangers added vfx on the video, sharing the result and the video become VIRAL. No one knew about web virality and the consequences of it then. Strangers from all over the world saw this teenager who became a web celebrity. And left the comments you can still find nowadays. Rooting. Laughing, Mocking. Attacking. Not just on the web, but in real life too. 

Journalists from everywhere in the world even wanted to find who that kid was and interview him about his sudden wide world fame and tell his story. His name, his location, his school name – all of those who are supposed to be private informations especially about a minor – got shared and known. 

Except that teen didn’t want any of that attention. In fact, he never gave his authorization for the clip to be broadcasted and uploaded somewhere. And he lived through hell. 

The other students ridiculed him. He wasn’t trusting people anymore. His self-esteem? Demolished. His school asked him to not come back for the next year because his new celebrity was distracting the other students. That kid had to be homeschooled. His parents had to disconnect their phone line because of harrassement from news reporters of any country calling day and night. 

And for 10 years, the boy hide himself from the world. Both real and virtual.  

That boy would be later known as one of the very first victims of the worldwide web cyberbullying. That boy is the Star Wars Kid. 

There is now a documentary in French that just came out here a few weeks ago about him and what went behind the video that was put online. 20 years after the events. 

Professionals medias have responsiblities and codes to follow about privacy and consent. Problem is that today, thanks to our phones and social medias, every single person becomes a media themselves. 

So even though you have grown up with the technology, even though “Oh that person is acting funny, I have to capture it and share it to my friends”, keep in mind you are exposing a normal person and violating their privacy. Even if they are in public. 

Because a public place is still limited in time and space.

The web isn’t.

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every single post with that one guy on tiktok who makes fun of those goofy lifehack channels has notes filled with “this guy is ableist! he makes fun of disability tools!”

and like, ive seen people do that a ton to infomercial things, which need to be marketed on infomercials cuz its the only way to get a lot of disability products funding

but then this guy makes fun of lifehack channels like…. covering a glass in zipties and tons of other shit that just… is not helpful for the disabilties u guys are claiming these life hack videos are “meant” to help like

this is some really weird projection and its not a coincidence that its a black dude on tiktok thats getting all these stupid ass comments

disabled people keep saying this but they literally don’t listen to us when we point it out bc its not actually about defending the disabled, its about cancelling the black kid. like when i pointed out i have nerve damage in my hands and the “hack” people were defending would literally be harder to do than holding a glass it became “well what if *i* do it for my disabled friend??” bc its not about listening or being useful. its about not liking someone flatly pointing out these hacks are clickbait bullshit and deciding us disabled people are a good enough victim to justify the crusade they’re already on

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Ok I just came across a tik tok of a 16 yr old Latina girl showing her room—trashed. Like completely ransacked. And her parents did it cos she has a hard time getting up for school that morning. My heart hurts so much.

How can you bring life into this world and then fucking be so horrible to your own child? She was crying in the video and going through her stuff, she makes jewelry and they trashed her jewelry making supplies.

Oh my god I want to cry how fuckinf awful. She’s “okay” like she isn’t hurt she kept posting but????? Oh my god. I would put them in the most abusive neglectful nursing home possible once they’re old. Fuckers. I fucking HATE adults like this.

If you wanna help her, her Etsy is Pigeonincooporated !!! Her father apparently asked why she was getting a huge influx of orders on her jewelry SMFH ppl telling her to not tell them she’s earning money which is smart. But yeah support this baby’s business please.

Her cashapp!!!!!!!!

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immaplatypus

listen I’m just dreading the day when they’re gonna screw us over and close this site for lack of use. you already see people talking like “oh I miss Tumblr” all the time like we’re not still RIGHT FREAKING HERE enjoying our fandom shenanigans in real time…like half the memes on Twitter and Insta are just reposted from here??? uh?? what is that saying???

like I KNOW that Tumblr usage has plummeted and half the blogs that follow me are probably dormant by now. I know that. but if other social media outlets aren’t gonna learn a thing or two about hiding follower counts or allowing tag-based organization or ACTUALLY SHOWING POSTS IN CHRONOLOGICAL ORDER FOR ONCE, then I don’t want them touching this one

seriously what on EARTH are you talking about

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mctreeleth

Speaking of lack of use… Guys, please reblog stuff. That is how this website works - unlike something like instagram, which has all sorts of metrics that influence how a post disseminates based on likes, the only way for someone to see a post here on tumblr, other than from the tags, is if someone else reblogs it. Not just in an “it helps the artist” way (although that too), but in a, “this participation is how we keep this website alive” way. Likes make the poster feel good (do them too, if you want!), but the great thing about Tumblr is that is it not (is less?) beholden to those algorithmic metrics that ru(i)n all the other sites, and the only way we have that is because we reblog posts, so tumblr doesn’t have to do it.

[Image description: Screenshot of an article by Mashable. In the top right of the image, there is a logo of Mashable, which is a dark blue square with a small white capital M in the bottommost right corner. To the right of the logo, “Mashable” is seen in light grey text. Below that, in a bold dark grey sans-serif font, there is text which reads “Tumblr died a slow and painful death. Here’s how Tiktok can avoid…”. Underneath this, there is light grey sans-serif text which reads, “17 hours ago”. To the right of this, there is an image of an hourglass, with Tumblr’s lowercase t logo on the top half of the hourglass, with sand flowing down into the bottom half with Tiktok music note logo, with sand already at the bottom. End description.] Link to the article is here: https://mashable.com/article/tumblr-mistakes-tiktok-teen-creators/

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dabwax

It’s like, no matter how unbothered I am on the surface and how well I seem to handle people constantly telling me I’m a man, I’m not a real woman, I’ll never be a real woman, I’m a creature less than human, it’s always going to eat away at my subconscious I guess

I made a video last night asking why the #intersex tag is banned on tiktok and it blew up with 100k views a Lot of intersexist assholes found it :) I deleted about 100 really nasty comments before I gave up and just let them come.

And like, it didn’t feel as insulting as it felt deeply irritating, but I woke up today shaky and heavily anxious, despite feeling excellent for a couple of weeks. Because no matter what I do, I’ll never be seen as a Real Woman OR as a fucking HUMAN for that matter. There will always be people who hate me for existing and want me dead for it. :)

And if it’s not them, it’s the 500 super confident people answering all the WHAT IS INTERSEX???? comments with “it means they have a penis and a vagina :) hope that helps :)” like how the fuck am I supposed to keep up when there are so many ignorant fuckers willing to talk for me and over me lmfao

And whenever I talk about any sort of abuse like this I get at LEAST one perisex trans person like, well sweaty, ur not trans, so this isn’t ur battle and u shouldn’t be upset, u must only be upset cuz ppl think ur trans, which is transphobic :// And if I try to find the language, as an intersex person who is living in a world that actively and effectively erases us, to explain why this sort of denial of our experiences is incredibly hurtful and harmful, I get a callout post about me warning people that I’m showing signs of Becoming A T*RF, that I obviously want to be one and I will be one in six months time. You know, just days after a bunch of t*rfs dogpiled me and one talked about beheading me :)))

Weirdly enough, perisex trans people denying my abuse and the trauma it comes with doesn’t make me want to be transphobic, nor do I believe people are doing this because the trans community itself is Mean and Bad. I think y’all are traumatized and somewhat reasonably distrusting but completely unaware of the violent intersexism you’re participating in by denying our abuse.

The beheading comment, followed by trans perisex people denying my experiences TO ME and telling me I’m transphobic for even having these experiences, was the combo that led to my suicidal meltdown last month. I’m NOT saying this to be manipulative, because my only fucking goal here is to get y’all to understand how serious intersexism is. I shouldn’t fucking have to lay out my trauma for the entire world to understand me. I shouldn’t fucking have to talk about my genitals and personal medical shit with every single person in the world, but I HAVE to to get anyone to take me seriously.

I didn’t ask to be intersex. I didn’t ask for my body to look the way it does. I didn’t ask for it to start developing this way when I was 11, for me to understand at 11 that my body was too “male” to ever be a real woman’s body. I didn’t ask to spend the majority of my entire life obsessively altering my appearance, shaving my face up to twice a day to avoid being “clocked”, avoiding any physical touch from other humans so they wouldn’t feel my stubble, not having ANY semblance of what y’all think someone who identifies as their agab should have as a “normal” girlhood or womanhood. I OBSESSIVELY hated my entire body for being too “male” for most of my LIFE. For y’all to see me as a privileged cis woman taking a quirky little tour in gender nonconformity and NOT as an intersex woman who has managed to accept her body after a decade and a half of despising it is fucking intersexist. And to tell me that I’m fucking upset that ppl think I’m trans, NOT because I’ve had to fight very hard for my identity as a woman from THE SAME PEOPLE YALL HAVE TO FIGHT, is so fucking intersexist. I’m tired of trying to make perisex people happy. I’m fucking tired.

I know it’s heavy shit but y’all can reblog this. Nobody cares about what intersex people are going through and I’m going fucking crazy being one small voice in this sea of intersexism. Don’t contribute to our erasure.

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solitarelee

The wildest thing about those “straight guys dressing femme just to get chicks” posts are……….. okay. S….so? Like, if women are out here absolutely horny off their rockers for femme guys (which, I mean, probably), like, okay, then do that. Put on a skirt if that’s the new m/f mating call of the decade. Why not? Girls who’re into men deserve a guy who looks hot in a skirt. How is this any different then when guys in unison decided to start wearing skinny jeans or showing off their butts more? Literally what is the harm even if straight guys are just doing it to appeal to women??? They’re allowed to try to appeal to women, that’s who they want to date….

Ok I’ve seen chucklefucks on both this and the other post mentioned and as a Freshly Minted Man here’s something else to add:

To everyone who says “but men trying to attract women is predetory” FUCK OFF with that gender essentialist bullshit! Men wanting to be attractive and desirable (even if its *gasp* hetero) isn’t inherently predetory! Men aren’t inherently predetory.

You realize by saying “men being femenin trick women into thinking they’re safe” is saying women = good, safe, soft, perfect and men = bad scary evil

And thats guess what! Sexist! Straight UP! Because women can be dangerous, predetory, whatever, and Men can want to be attractive and desirable and whatever.

Men aren’t your enemy- toxic gender roles and gender essentialism IS

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Can we talk about how goofy it is to go “well I guess men can dress however they want, BUT ONLY if they’re not trying to be attractive or meet people, otherwise it’s SUPER PREDATORY.

The entire history of dude fashion which has def been about looking attractive and appealing to women, but that’s masc and expected so that’s all fine. But if you wear a skirt or dress it’s PREDATORY.”

Just like… Some people really need to examine their biases maybe.

Let’s just get to the root of the issue, people are saying this shit because their is a whole system of oppression based around the idea that “men dress like women to be predators!”

It ain’t suddenly woke because folks are saying it about straight men instead of trans women.

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I love tumblr. I love that tumblr is the best social media site of 2021.

Every other site has spent the last decade perfecting the art of targeted ads. I am a wallet of flesh and blood which must be stripped bare and profiled and picked apart for the maximally efficient way to squeeze profit from my presence. Every other site will fold and morph itself to a shape of my liking - like a fairy tale trickster stealing memories and taking their mold - to lull me into compliance and loosen my coin purse.

Facebook sees me searching fitness equipment and injects my timeline with athletic wear ads. Reddit profiles the subreddits I follow and eagerly promotes a new coding bootcamp or cloud service at every turn. Google overhears me lamenting over my moving to-do list on voice call and fills in my “how much to tip movers” query before I’ve gotten the third word typed out.

Tumblr never even tried.

They could have. The information is there. The basic infrastructure, presumably, exists. Tumblr can recommend me tags based on tags I follow, blogs based on blogs I follow, even posts that for one reason or another may strike my fancy. Tumblr could be - SHOULD be - funneling this framework into advertising, as the only means that free-to-use social media platforms can turn a profit in our capitalistic hellscape.

They just don’t.

Today I saw an ad for treating Hyperhidrosis - a condition, I think, in which a person sweats too much - and I saw it twice, four posts apart, and it is so incredibly benignly impersonally ineptly untargeted toward me compared to all other pinpoint-aimed advertising that I’m endeared to it. Tumblr knows NOTHING about me. 8 years, 51,000 likes, and tumblr has not learned a THING about me.

Advertisements for a mattress? Shitty mobile game ads that don’t make even the slightest pretense at being anything other than a candy crush rip-off? Choose-your-own adventure games either about Royal Espionage or Choosing The Wrong Dress For Your Date with ZERO in-between.

And then this. This here. The culmination, the crown-jewel of tumblr’s nihilistic non-compliance with the state of social media advertising. Any pretense of capitalistic exchange is abandoned at the gas station by the side of the road. This is not a company. This is not a product. This is not anything that fulfills the contract of consumer and seller. 

THIS. THIS IS WHAT TUMBLR HAS TO OFFER INSTEAD.

“Pour vinegar on your bread, fuck you.”

“Put it in the garbage, fuck you.”

Your wife says you’re a fucking dumbass, fuck you.”

That’s it. That’s the advertisement. You vinegar-breadless cuck. You virgin extraordinaire bereft of bread and garbage can. I am fucking your wife right now in our vinegar-soaked motel bed. She puffs a cigarette which I pulled from the trashcan and we both laugh heartily at her recounts of your immasculine ineptitude. I don’t want your money. I don’t want anything from you. Fuck you. 

Amazing. Amazing. What a state of things to ring in 2021. What a great platform we all collectively choose to be on.

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awnerd

App Store Privacy Reports

Apple recently started forcing apps to report what information they collect and how they use it.

It’s really detailed and really easy to read.

And the difference between [tumblr] and the other platforms is… extraordinary.

TikTok Privacy Report for iOS

Facebook Privacy Report for iOS

Tumblr Privacy Report for iOS

Some take-aways

  • Tumblr doesn’t even have a “Data Used to Track You” section
  • Facebook doesn’t even have a “Data Not Linked to You” section
  • Facebook’s “Data Used to Track You” section contains the unsettling “other” category
  • TikTok links more types of data to you than Tumblr collects in total (almost none of which is connected to you)

And this is just the summary from each app. Apple actually breaks this stuff down in detail. Go to the App Store and see for yourself.

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Apple’s surveys are typically self-interested (does anyone believe Apple cares about people’s privacy?) but this is certainly a valuable contrast to have. It’s indeed stark how unusual tumblr is in its continued resistance to identity data-mining, although it’s not surprising given tumblr’s history of resistance to advertising generally (tumblr didn’t even start advertising until 2012!). tumblr’s practices are all the more remarkable in 2121 given the extent to which datamining has become totally naturalized across platforms and internet services more generally. Alternative ways of generating income are rarely even acknowledged, as if they are somehow not possible. 

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