i've basically hit a point where if i see "proship DNI" in someone's bio i just won't follow or interact with them.
it's not even because i'm a "proshipper." (this is a word that basically means nothing anymore.) it's because i'm a grown ass adult who has more important problems to worry about than how someone is dealing with their paraphilias or trauma via fiction. seeing "proship DNI" doesn't so much indicate anything beyond 'i refuse to curate my own spaces' and 'i am a child who cannot do nuance and just smacks generalizations onto anyone whose opinions and lived experience do not 100% match my own.' i don't meant to disrespect anyone, but this is genuinely how this looks to anyone outside of fandom discourse. it's impossible to take seriously, and it's impossible to talk about because people immediate jump to such wild bad faith conclusions that it makes it even more impossible to talk about things that actually matter. like real child abuse. real domestic abuse. that happens to actual, real living breathing people.
live your life, but i am 30 or 40 years old and I do not need this. i learned a long time ago that it's far better to take the initiative and curate my own spaces the best i can than expect other people to do it for me.
i hate to bring this topic up again but so long as people like, 15 years younger than me keep trying to drag my shit into it I guess I have to. i am an adult. i am trans. i am a sexual assault survivor, a childhood abuse survivor, i have trauma, i go to therapy, i can't pay my bills. i don't need this. i've been on tumblr since some of you were like 6 years old.