Satan, Satan, Come And Find Me

you don't have to blame yourself for not living the life you thought you would be living at this point in your life. you can be proud of yourself for making it this far even if your life looks vastly different from the one you imagined.

lol, lmao.

rofl

god gave me a humiliation kink and being unable to spell embarrassing. i think he has a sense of humor

Today I was helping run the booth for the local queer non-profit at the farmer's market and a woman told me that she would like a flag, pointing to our little bucket of flags. So I picked up the bucket and I brought it over and asked her which one she'd like.

"Well, tell me about them!"

"Oh! Okay! This one is the inclusion flag- its for everyone, including allies."

"What's this one?"

"That's the bisexual flag: it represents people who are attracted to two or more genders."

"Hmm... what about this one?"

"That's the nonbinary flag: it represents people whose gender isn't strictly 'male or female.'"

"Hmm... what's this purple one?"

"That's the asexual flag: it represents people who may not feel sexual attraction the way that others do."

She put her hand to her chest and got this really curious look on her face. "Tell me more about that!"

"Oh, happy to! So like if you're out with your bestie and someone real fine walks by and she's like 'omg look at him' and you're like 'girl get a grip?' Or like you just don't get what the 'big deal' is about sex or why everyone is so weird about it? But there's also room for like- you don't fall in love with the way someone looks, you're attracted to the person- their sense of humor and their kindness, or there's something about their personality that just makes it click for you? That's asexuality, too!"

And she got real quiet and seemed to think about it for a minute. So I grabbed our little informational sheet about different queer identities and handed her a copy. "If you want to do some research, this is probably a great place to start."

She thanked me and took an ace flag, stuck it in her hair.

Sometimes when you're online all the time, its easy to think that 'everyone knows about (topic), there's no reason to keep talking about it so much.' But while the people on the internet are real people, the internet ISN'T real life. And there are lots of people who do need to know that they do have community!

One of the jokes is that I'm a lot of people's 'patient zero' for discovering that they're queer. This is why.

over-psychoanalyzing blorbos is healthy and needed enrichment for the girlies in order to avoid over-psychoanalyzing themselves. like giving a dog a chew toy in order to redirect chewing on its hind legs

Would you people please stay the fuck home when you're sick I swear to God. Or at least wear a damn mask when you're clearly sick.

you fuckers dont know about my knife knife

sword

blocked

Parried

just a handy little info chart on the spectrums of sexuality.

[ID: a poster that reads "These spectra are all different." Below are four arrows, up to down, each labeled with a different sexuality spectrum.

Sexual attraction

Libido

Sex favourability

Sex positivity

Any combination is possible. Now you know these things exist. If you want to learn more about something, look it up.

End ID]

Certified Sex Ed Post!

Context: this is a very common viewpoint on the ao3 subreddit which I very recently stumbled upon, but most people i’m friends with in danmei fandom (twt, discord etc) don’t agree and think negative bookmarks are rude.

Here's the thing: objectively, bookmarks are designed for readers' personal notes AND they are designed to be seen. That's why there are separate tickboxes for "Private Bookmark" and "Rec" when you create one.

The FAQ describes their purpose as:

and says that:

So like. Yes. Bookmarks are for readers' notes, and they need not be exclusively recommendations. Authors should be aware that bookmark notes may contain unfiltered thoughts or negative commentary that readers did not intend for you to read.

(Unfortunately for everyone, as I found out on twitter one time, a shocking percentage of ao3 users do not realize their bookmarks are visible by default, much less easily accessible to the author.)

Now, does this mean I think readers should use the bookmark function to flame works they didn't like for all and sundry to see? No, this isn't fucking Yelp. I've never stumbled across someone with a bunch of negative bookmarks and thought, "whew, glad they warned me about all these fics!" but I've frequently thought, "wow this person sure spends a lot of energy on stuff they dislike."

It is one click to make a bookmark private, and that function ALSO exists for a reason.

@/gaypiratebrainrot has a great post on here that describes ao3 interactions as:

I think that's a good way to think about it from all sides — bookmark comments aren't for the author, no, but there's a good chance they'll be overheard. And if you're out front of the store trashing the writing, whoever does hear you might think you're kind of a jerk.