Okay guys ive missed the last THREE AAWs and i refuse to miss this one! Ive got one day left so were going with a quick and easy meme. Help me fill it out! start listing off characters!
The age old frustration of not being able to tag your QPRs in fanfic. Do you use "&"? "/"? "X"? All of them?
Well today i vote we change that! From here on out, what symbol would you like to be used for QPR ships?
My nomination is "+" or "~"
hi, sorry, i saw your post abt yelena being aroace, and for some reason i had no idea! when i watched the black widow movie i sorta headcanoned her as lesbian, but that’s really cool that she’s aroace! i was wondering where that came from? (sorry again that this is really random)
Its fine! I had personally no idea until after Black Widow came out. And lesbian!yelena is a very popular headcanon for mcu!yelena on ao3 and tumblr. And another fun sexuality fact you may not have known about: according to her wiki comic!Kate Bishop is explicitly and repeatedly said and shown to be bisexual in the comics
But back to Yelena
I dont actually know where it came from other than it came from the comics. Back when Black Widow came out a few people posted about how she's canonically ace/aroace with some comic panels of her talking (i think the panels said something like "i dont like men. And no, i dont like women either, so dont ask."). When people say "its canon in the comics" it usually means its actually very vague and more of a popular fandom headcanon (i once looked into the "comic!steve is canonically bisexual" claim and it all boiled down to one panel where the villain was like "the ladies. Or men, if thats what youre into" which to me was just saying the villain didnt want to assume anything but to a lot of people it was more oh the villain knows something we dont), but the way it was worded sounded a lot like the "this is what i am, im not going to use labels because that will confuse you more" coming out technique. So i have chosen to see it as a somewhat-explicit Yelena is Aro-Ace scene
Ive also heard from a couple of posts i saw last night on the subject saying someone (it was either the creator or one of the writers) has stated in a interview before that Yelena is Asexual
#hinacu ask#hinacu mcu#yelena belova#aroace#aromantic#asexual#aspec#i didnt do hardcore reseach on Steve so there may be other stuff out there#and i chose not to do reseach on Yelena because i dont want my hope to be shattered#but the amount of people ive seen make a post on how she's aroace in the last 2 days is a lot so i think it must be pretty solid#sadly the majority of those posts are made specifically to bash kate/y shippers#which isnt cool#ace#aro
Ive been meaning to make a post on aroace Carmen for awhile and i cant sleep right now so here we go
- The first time anyone asked her who she was into was Sheena when Black Sheep was 16. The answer is clearly no (right?): she'd grown up in isolation, this was her first year actively hanging out with people around her age, all these people were 2 or more years older than her so why would they take interest in her, and most importantly she'd never had a crush before. Sheena is one of those people who thinks if you havent had boyfriends since at least 5th grade youre not normal AND Black Sheep doesnt wanna go around telling people she's VILE raised (and she wants to fit in) so all she says is "no have you seen the boys here?" and points to the boys who are making a racket in the cafeteria.
- The second time is by Brunt. Black Sheep quickly shuts it down and reassures Coach Brunt she does not need to beat up her new guy friends 
- Cleo is next. She notices how all but one of Black Sheep's new friends are boys. 1) it was embarrassing enough Cleo held her after class to confront her 2) Countess Cleo somehow makes it both innocent questioning and hostile questioning. But thats not enough. Black Sheep is given 3) the birds and the bees talk AND 4) boys are horrible talk. She leaves the classroom two hours later traumatized.
- Sheena HAS to be the center of attention and uses flirting to get this attention. Its why her "friend group" is all guys and why she's always taking digs at Black Sheep. Black Sheep knows Sheena knows that she doesnt like Gray like that but whenever Gray wont pay her attention she'll bring up how he likes Black Sheep more and insinuate things and it makes Black Sheep's blood boil and occastionally her skin crawl
- ((Gray thinks she's cute, and was into her in the begining. But then they became friends and age gap (aka missing social skills) made her feel like a kid sister to him. He puts up with Sheena's remarks because 1) its not true 2) he knows where he stands with Black Sheep, so why should it bother him?))
- Black Sheep never went to high school but she thinks this is how it would be. Its close enough to the movies: blonde mean girl, boy best friend, goofing off in class, sneaking off to break the rules. She could do without the talking about boys. She always prefered nature doctumentarys anyways.
- After Gray becomes Crackle, Sheena becomes Tigeress, etc and Black Sheep begins her redo year of crime school no one bothers her about boys and dating.
- After her escape and integration into the real world she begins interacting with many strangers everyday. The first few times people flirt with her it goes over her head. The first time someone asks her out she tells them she's leaving town later that day. She finds all the senarios where she imagined herself being the girl in movies who's pretty and is always drawing eyes to be actually be a hindrence since she's suppossed to blend into the background. Its the first time and everytime that someone makes some flirty comment about her body her blood goes cold. She doesn't tell Player this. Figures its because she was always the youngest and the baby of VILE she wasnt used to being seen in a "adult" way. Carmen never really minded her appearance, and likes how her hair extentions make her look: older, pretty, taller. Her new makeup look makes her look different while still looking good. She looks the part she's occasionally imagined being: that pretty girl in the movies. But she doesnt feel like she expected to feel. She's not getting excited about having this type of attention. So she has a brief moment of wanting to change everything, to make herself look as unattractive as possible. She decides not too, listens to the logic that is Player went through all this trouble to make her IDs that if she changed her look now it would make things worse... Besides disguises are about not looking like yourself
- Getting it though Zack and Ivy's heads that no, she doesnt want to talk about how hot a actor is or talk about dream dates took several tries. At first they backed off because they were balancing the line of friend and boss and then completely when Carmen would attempt to contribute to those conversations very awkwardly. They notice she's fine with romcoms and listening to those types of conversations, its just participating that bothers her.
- They still make fun of her "date" with Graham though. Carmen is fine but finds it easy to try to remain calm instead of letting her blood boil like it did when Tigeress insinuated things. She figures its because Zack and Ivy are real friends who respect her boundries. They eventually stop talking about it because it makes Player of all people upset.
- ((Player now has to dodge accusations they throw at him about having a "little crush". Truth is he's still hurt over the fact Gray was Carmen's best friend back when Black Sheep was Player's))
- Having someone refer to Devineaux as her boyfriend would have thrown her off anyday (he's in his late 30s and she just turned 20, WHY would she be dating him?), but to hear it come from Brunt was so out of place it made her realize that Brunt truely didnt know who she was. That hurt.
All right thats all of season one, ive been typing for one hour, ive been constructing this on the spot so it makes 0% sense to my sleep deprived brain, and i'll fix it in the morning
Whenever ever a new ship gets popular
A) is the fact im oblivious, aro, or ace the reason i dont see it?
B) have the straights decided to jump on the "hes a boy, shes a girl" bandwagon once again?
C) are the gays desperate?
D) is this another projection/self-insert shipped with "i think this character is hot" situation?
E) the rare occurance the ship is actually canon AND popular
Made this when i was superrrr bored at work (actually ended up learning a lot about excel like coloring lol) and the fact asexual is trending! At number one! reminded me i never posted these headcanons
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rb this and tag ur sexuality and a term of endeerment that makes ur heart melt
im bi/pan and i like “my love”
So i had this dream where i was on The Bachelor but still aro-ace and i actually made it pretty far. I like refused to kiss Mr. Bachelor on the mouth (even tho we were pretty tactile with each other) but no makeout sessions actually meant we got to know each other better so I kept advancing plus he didnt really like the other girls all that much. He eventually ask why i wouldnt let him kiss me so I told him but we still had a fun day together and i didnt get cut till like 2 episodes later where he was finally down to all the girls he was pretty into and Mr. Bachelor really didnt want me to go so he was trying to get the crew to let me stay with him so i could help him out along the way because by now we were pretty good friends (tbh i was his best friend at that point but he wasnt mine...). So of course the other girls didnt like that because they saw me, a aro, as a threat (???? Ok...). Either way i didnt want to stay with him because i was tired of being filmed 24/7 so i went home but we still texted a lot and facetimed when our timezones allowed. Idk who he ended up with but he didnt propose because he wanted to date long term before a engagement so twitter kept joking that i was the real winner because the show had showed that we still talked and that boded better for a long time relationship compared to whatever he had with the winner. Then as a joke we posted a video where he was giving me a promise ring down all serious down on one knee but it was ringpop. We then posted a literal professional photoshoot with my red ringpop and his green one. We grew kinda distant tho because he lived on the other side of the US
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if you’re lgbt reblog this and tag your identity, height, and whether you walk slow or fast
I forgot to do this oops. I tried to keep this years more upbeat than last year's even thought its similar prompts
For some background im 20 yrs old, female, and aro-ace
Week 1: Pride in Your Identity
- ????? I dont really understand the prompt
- Get excited when i actually see a character that could be aro (without stumbling across a post convincing me of it)
but get SUPER BUMMED when all the stuff in the character's tag is about them being usually gay/a lesbian and the few aro posts have nasty comments "bc theyre obviously gay you dont understand the importance that theyre GAY" like bro calm down were all here to support each other
Week 2: Coming to Terms & Coming Out of the Closet
- I made a powerpoint with a rainbow and black theme and many typos that i corrected didn't save so thats actually what my dad focused on
- Wasn't that worried but my mom had mentioned strongly she didn't think asexuality existed so i was worried she'd argue with me before she'd give up
- I dont hide it but I've stoped telling a lot of new ppl bc they dont get it and forget it pretty fast
- (Tbh only my brother really remembers)
- Always knew but no word for it. Used asexual for a while bc thats what ppl kept telling me i was but i had trouble accepting that because i thought you got sexual attraction after you developed romantic attraction and i needed a label that was "no romantic attraction" not sexual attraction
Week 3: Relationships & Community
- Atamanormativity —> confusing for what i want
- Do i want some sort of life partner? only see myself with a dude and i ONLY hang out with other girls i dont know how to hang out with guys. I can have more than one but that thought makes me uncomfortable just because its not normal for more than 2 adults the same age to live in a suburban house
- Dont want kids (or pets) but feel like im going to end up adopting one or more bc i'll be lonely/bored with my life (the fact i have persistent depression/PDD doesn't help)
- Scared i'll lose all my friends once they start having babies
- Scared to tell therapist because the last thing i want is to have that kind of person refuse to believe me
- Scared to go to LGBT events bc even there ppl dont know what aro or ace is
and i dont want to get hit on
Week 4: AAW
I love this event it always makes me see characters as aro i didn't think of before. I did a big art piece last year but i didn't have time this year so i sent in a few sketches and mostly collages
Pride Month featuring my nails which didnt even make it through my 12 hour shift before they decided to look 4 days old
So i dont watch the Riverdale show but sometimes gifs pop up and basically they can have a mlm couple, a wlw, couple, interracial couples, INCEST, but refused to have a aroace character and instead put him in a realtionship with A LOT of explict sexual scenes????
Which emojis should i use to represnt aro ace for my instagram bio? Right now im using #1
Here are my options: 💚🖤💜♠️🏹⚪️🔘⚫️🏳️🏴
- 💚💜
- 💜💚
- 💚♠️
- 🏹♠️
- 🏹💜
- 💚💚⚪️🔘⚫️
- ⚫️🔘⚪️💜
- ♠️
Or any other suggestions
February 23 | Free day!
Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week 2019
(female, 19, aroace)
Stuff you didn’t include in previous prompts and want to talk about, aro-related content, personal stories, experimental creations, anything goes!
If you are looking for aro representation (day 2) I totally recommend trying fanfiction. You can read your own experiences in the layout of a story and personally it was a big experience for me to feel represented nearly perfectly. If you are new to fanfiction you can just google “ao3” and this website call “Archive of Our Own” will pop up. U can either type “aromantic” in the search bar or if you have a specific character in mind click on the SEARCH button next to the bar at the top of the page, scroll to CHARACTERS and input their name and click on it when it pops up under the bar, then scroll down to ADDITIONAL TAGS and type in “aromantic” and click on it when it pops up undeath. Click SEARCH at the bottom of the page and start reading!
Prompt 3 | February 21-22 | Community
Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week 2019
(female, 19, aroace)
Do you feel the aro community has supported you?I guess so??? Not really sure how they wouldn’t
Has it helped or hindered you along your journey? More of a hindering to be honest. Seeing the tag or my dash being filled with "its ok to be aro! You arent unloveable!" actually made me sad and insecure. Seeing a lot of stuff about being broken started to hurt a little too because i never felt broken, but i was starting to think maybe i should be thinking that way
Do you interact with other aros often, or seek out spaces with them? I have never met another aro. I tried to go to my LGBT+ at my college but i was told they dont have a lot of stuff for either ace or aro and im scared to go to one of their coffee days because i dont want it to turn out to be a match making deal or like a coming out therapy (plus I hate coffee)
What do you like or dislike about the community? Just that we are so small and unknown
Do you like or dislike the greater queer community, and has it helped or hindered you overall? I like the queer community just not as much when I say a character is aro and they send me a bunch of messages going “ummm she’s clearly a lesbian”
Do you like how small and connected the aro community is, or is that stifling? I would like us to be bigger but I don’t actually talk one on one with anyone (some variety in the tag on tumblr would be nice though)
Do you create your own community spaces? no
February 19-20 | Visibility
Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week 2019
(female, 19, aroace)
How has representation (coded or explicit) in media helped you? I have never seen aro rep in anything. And whenever I am like “maybe this character is aro…” the internet screams “LESBIAN” or “GAY”. Sometimes when Big Bang Theory reruns come on im like “oh I can see Sheldon as aro-spec” and then he’s displayed as the weirdo or a haha moment. Every other character that’s been a maybe are either children (12-16 years) or in two cases (Katniss Everdeen and Isaac from Orville) pushed into a relationship by other characters.
How has a lack of it harmed you? I guess contributed to amatonormativity that I constantly think I am going to get until I remember im aro (and that I hate children). Its given expectations like some guy is gonna see me from across the room and be blown away by my beauty and he’ll ask me to dance or whatever and it would be so fun to be twirled around by a stranger. When I think of my 40s I still picture myself happily married and in love and that is not how it is gonna be.
What would your ideal aro/arospec representation be? MY ideal would be a aromantic asexual, not a workaholic or a social weirdo or robot or alien, probably female, either young and still learning about it along with the challenges of growing up or middle age who is probably but not necessarily established in their identity
What do you think the aro community could do to make ourselves visible to others? I have no clue. Maybe write a email to a LGBT+ organization close to you (i know my college has one) and ask them to either do something for us or like post reminders on their social media like "next week aromantic awarness week starts! Aromantic means..."
What would you like more people to know about aros? Mostly just that we exist
If aromanticism and its spectrum were widely known, would you be more open about your arospec identity? Oh definitely, i have never hidden it but i would actually use the vocabulary and probably feel more comfortable when the people im talking to are like "whatttt thats possible?"