calling everyone who has missed my youtube channel

... and anyone who has no idea what I'm talking about but is passionate about queer sex education

I'm partnering with the fabulous Hidayah UK as part of their Love is Love series to have a chat about consent, the closet, and the cycle of trauma that stems from bad sex ed.

the event is free and will be hosted over zoom; click the link above to register! and keep up with Hidayah on twitter at @/hidayahlgbtqi and my co-host, journalist Deenah al-Aqsa, at @/DeenahAlAqsa :)

I think vampires would be funnier if they were immortal but had to keep any non-lethal stuff from when they were human. vampires with IBS for eternity babey.

okay but consider: basically every fictional vampire I can think of would benefit tremendously from some antidepressants

This made me Snort with laughter

Imagining Edward Cullen on antidepressants, wouldn’t even be in hs to begin with

Howie I'm actually reading Midnight Sun right now and let me tell you. nobody on earth has ever needed antidepressants more this boy is BROKEN.

Validation time! Put in the tags what made you follow the person you RB this from 💫

obviously Sokka would continue to mercilessly bully Zuko after they start dating. obviously. 

once he has a late growth spurt and shoots up to become Hakoda-sized his new favorite sport is hip checking Zuko with no warning at every opportunity. just completely slams into him. there’s never any guessing if Zuko will just let it happen or unflinchingly sweep Sokka’s legs out from under him. the uncertainty is what makes it fun. 

Zuko will be sitting around trying to relax and enjoy a cup of tea or read a nice book after a long day of reading Very Important Legal Documents, only for Sokka to flop on top of him and become immediate dead weight. Zuko doesn’t even complain, he just balances his tea on Sokka’s back and carries on. 

a LOT of guards who are used to punishing people for VERY MINOR infractions have to learn to politely look the other when the Fire Lord gets up to make a speech and gets lovingly catcalled by his boyfriend. 

aside from occasionally kicking Sokka’s ass a little bit as noted above, Zuko gets back at him by leaning into the fact that he was raised in a tense, highly political environment where minor infractions were harshly punished and even tiny displays of emotion could be exploited as weaknesses, by which I mean Zuko can put on a poker face so good that not a damn thing Sokka does can get so much as a blink from him. it drives Sokka absolutely up the wall. this is some of his best material and it’s sliding off his stupid stupid stoic boyfriend like water off a turtle duck. 

(Katara thinks Zuko is extremely stupid for dating her brother but she does respect him for this.) 

@ an awkward fire family brunch that happens some time after the finale when Azula is like halfway through bad guy rehab:

Zuko: so. I went on a date last night. with a man. it was nice.

Iroh: Zuko, that's wonderful! and how romantic. who hasn't dreamed of kissing a man in the moonlight?

Zuko: I was??? assuming??? that you hadn't, what are you telling me here?

Azula, cheerfully stabbing her food: I haven't!

Zuko: we know that, Azula.

Azula: I'd rather gag than kiss a man.

Zuko: we KNOW, Azula.

I wrote 3,328 words today and I liked almost all of them, I’m unstoppable

I don’t have one, friend. it definitely helps that I’m not currently working, on account of this nifty little pandemic, but all I’m doing is sitting in front of a laptop and making the choice to write. 

yes, but. how do i make my fingers listen to my brain omg

I’ve found it can be really helpful to set a specific amount of time in which you are going to focus on writing and nothing else. (within reason, I mean. I still pause to, like, adjust the music I’m listening to or gets snacks, etc.) I’ve had good luck with 30 minute bursts, because it’s long enough to make some good headway without feeling overwhelmed by the amount of time, but there’s no wrong way to do it! ten, fifteen, even five minute writing sprints will get your further than none!

also, let’s be real: sometimes you get stuck because you’ve gotten lost or bored with what you’re writing. that’s no good, because the first person who’s supposed to enjoy the story you’re telling is you. if you’re not feeling it, there’s no shame in opening up a little document, copy pasting away however much of your previous work you need to, and starting over with a shiny new take that makes your current scene fun again. 

maybe you need to wildly change some details about a particular character, maybe you’ve come up with a different course of action that makes the whole scene make sense, maybe you figured out there should have been an angry chihuahua or a ticking bomb in this scene. it doesn’t make the old writing a waste; on the contrary, it helped you figure out where you needed to go by showing you what didn’t work. it’s like how Marie Kondo recommends thanking discarded clothing for teaching you about what you don’t like!

it’s also helpful to remember that it doesn’t have to be perfect on your first go though, at all. if you’re stuck and you just need to write “and then shit got crazy and everyone left” to move on to the next scene, do it. whatever keeps you moving forward!

reblogging to save, thank you!!! also letting you know that i somehow managed to finish the chapter i was writing! :D

heck yeah!!

ampdgab (assigned manic pixie dream girl at birth)🌈☀️🎠🎶

I thought this looked like an album cover so...

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This is like the third time I’ve seen your great photo on my dash and I’ve only just now realized that you’re not using an inhaler in the second picture

Incredible, but true: @batmanisagatewaydrug deserves to have a good day today.

zariadriannatomaz and @batmanisagatewaydrug? a match made in heaven

update on the Sex Witch Stream

hey cool kids! here’s the rundown for what I’ll be streaming live (every Saturday at 8:30 PM, eastern time, etc) through the end of March! which is further ahead than I’ve ever planned almost anything! @ the universe please don’t make me regret this with some wacky unforeseen complications to my schedule!

February 23: my friend/guest expert (demiromantic) and I (aromantic) will explain what those identities mean to us, how it feels in our day to day lives, and answer questions that can still be submitted here.

March 2: we’re going to have a chat about orgasms, and why I hold the semi-blasphemous idea that they’re not actually a very good metric of whether or not the sex you’re having is good. (and what is “good” sex, anyway?)

March 9: based on the results of a poll, I’ll be talking about the topic that would have been the subject of my honors thesis if I’d written one: queering virginity! we’ll cover the history of virginity as a category, the different values assigned to different kinds of sex based on the people having it, and whether or not virginity is a concept that we should toss altogether.

March 16: no stream! probably! I’m sorry but I’m not; I have to support some of my darling gays in something they’ve worked very hard on that night.

March 23: the long-promised discussion about the ethics of sex robots, featuring another guest expert, analysis of sexy robots across media, and the real-world implications of fucking something that looks like a person but might not be able to say no*. 

March 31: a breakdown of what, exactly, is going wrong in American sex ed right now and how it hurts everybody (but especially LGBTQ folks). complete with the Sex Witch Origin Story. 

*note: Sex Robot Night may be in peril based on my guests’s work schedule; if she can’t do the 23rd, sex ed night is getting bumped up to the 23rd instead.

hey y’all! queering virginity is this Saturday, and if I had to pick an adjective to describe my level of excitement it would probably have to be… cosmic? I think cosmic would do it.

in case you missed it up top, here’s the link again to my youtube channel, where you can watch the backlog of streams that have already been recorded. great news there: transcripts are coming very soon!

if you can, please do your zesty local sex with a favor by recommending the streams to anybody who you think would enjoy them, or at least give this schedule a reblog so that somebody else might have the chance to see it. 

also, as always, folks are welcome to suggest episode topics, especially since I’ll be sitting down to outline the April schedule very soon. (is this month going freakishly fast for anyone else? I swear to god all of 2019 better not be like this.) help me be a better educator by talking about the things you want to talk about!

and if you have the means, hopping on the patreon train for as little as one dollar a month would mean the world to me.

hey if I haven’t scared you away with my crabbing about Captain Marvel, feel free to hop on the stream and chat live while I crab about virginity instead!

half an hour let’s get hype