habibialkaysani reblogged
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you can love joen*cky and still recognize and address the misogynistic sidelining, indifference, and mischaracterization towards tog women in fandom (and in yourself) i promise
habibialkaysani reblogged
everything about the killing eve situation is so fucked up like they really got publicly dragged by the entire internet for their all-white writers room and shitty treatment of eve & sandra and NOTHING came of it, the show is just gonna end with the season that that writers room produced rather than putting any effort into fixing anything. not that they deserved any more time i mean they had over three years and four different showrunners and the fact that they’d never hired a writer of color wasn’t even on their radar as a problem until last summer, it shouldn’t have taken this for them to Do Better or whatever, but like.. this is how it’s always going to go. shows are going to start out overwhelmingly white behind the scenes, they get called out for it, they get cancelled, no one learns anything or has any incentive to change when putting together the next new show because white showrunners are never going to willingly and proactively center this as something that matters to them the way that, for example, having mostly (white) women behind the scenes is important to white women in positions of power.
plus the whole “potential spin-offs” thing just reeks, like they’re really thinking about trying to “explore the world” further which probably means exploring the white supporting characters or conspiracies or whatever while removing eve from the equation so they don’t have to worry about how to deal with writing a woman of color anymore lol
habibialkaysani reblogged
being closeted to your parents in your 20s but still living with them is really like being a gay character in a sitcom who’s identity is only shown through subtext because the network won’t allow it
habibialkaysani reblogged
being 25 is like: im dying. im living my best life. im a failure. my life hasnt started. everything interesting has already happened to me. im achieving my dreams. im cutting my hair with kitchen scissors. im starting a skincare routine. im a corporate professional. im a sellout. im out of groceries. i have too many groceries. i am never going to be successful. i am going to win a hugo award before im 30. im crazy. im boring. i need to finish this essay. i need to finish this story. i need to start a newsletter. i need to start tweeting more. i need to stop tweeting. i need to ghost all my friends. i need to tell my friends i love them. i need to find a new apartment. i need to take out the trash. i am the trash that needs to be taken out.
Anonymous asked:
so not sure I get it but if you are doing ramadan / if/when you see your family do you pretend to not be a lesbian or pretend to not fast? i dont really get how someone can be muslim and queer/lgbt - not to b rude but just genuinly interested.. and like how do u do deal with the whole marriage talk of when will you get married? as im guessing you wont be allowed to have an open/out lgbt relationship? even typing this is exhausting props to u man
hey there anon. it’s very simple - I am a muslim lesbian. both parts of that are possible - queer people of faith have always existed, and we aren’t going anywhere. I’m in the closet. that’s all I’m willing to say on that.
thank you for saying props to me but also? having to deal with this question so often is exhausting, tbh. even in this holy month I have to be honest and tell you that my patience is in short supply when it comes to this. I’m gonna do you a favour and put some links to past asks I’ve had about this: 1 2 3 4
for future reference, anon, maybe think twice before basically asking for a stranger to justify their existence out of nowhere.
tbh waiting to hear back from people re interviews is the WORST feeling ever. just. put me out of my misery PLS. I can’t handle this.
tbh I'm not sure what I was expecting with season 2 of batwoman but of all the dc shows that have returned, batwoman is the one that has disappointed me least.
then again I'm only in ep 4 so like. I'm sure give it time and I'll probably wanna eat my words
welp. it just occurred to me that maybe the lump in my throat is just. grief. I can't believe it took me this long to connect the dots, but my mum was talking about that family member who died recently and I realised her absence is probs what I'm feeling in the hollowness of my heart. I feel so sad.
my immortal husbands gifset not appearing in the tags is homophobic
maybe this is a given so soon after a funeral but I just feel realllllllllllllllllly fucking sad. it’s like I’ve got this permanent lump in my throat and every time I think I’m done worrying about something, another thing comes up.
sigh.
@doctorprofessorsong said: I am so sorry for your loss. Funerals are tough. Funerals around the holidays are brutal.
thank you. I appreciate that - I’ve been to funerals before but never to a graveyard, so that was especially tough for me. solidarity to you if you’ve been through something similar.
@flickertheory said: I’m sorry you’re going through such a tough time right now. I hope the pain eases soon.
I appreciate you saying that. I hope the pain eases too. it’s mostly not really sunk in yet, for me, even after the funeral, and I’m just worried about when it *does* hit me if that makes sense??
but thank you. thank you lots.
well. the funeral is over. I surprisingly managed to stop myself from griping at a bitchy aunt who was shading me during the drive back. there was zero social distancing and I basically managed to rebuff most but not all attempts to hug me, tho I was wearing a mask and I was glad that it was a requirement in parts of the process because I know none of my family would wear them otherwise.
but anyway. my nan was buried yesterday, and maybe this makes me cold and heartless but I feel just really numb and like I can’t feel a thing, which is. not a nice feeling. mostly I’ve been trying to take care of everyone as best I can. since that’s the only thing I seem to be any good at.
thankfully, I have therapy starting from jan, so here’s hoping I can work through a lot of this shit because god knows I spent ages waiting for said therapy.
#i was planning on doing so much#like i wanted to do another xmas gifset for mari as a present#and a follow forever for the new year#not sure I will do that second one now#the first one i couldn't even start bc of what happened#it's just unbearable seeing my immediate family in pain#sigh#me.txt#personal#negativity for ts#coronapocalypse#2020 wasn't done being a shit year even on christmas fucking eve#ugh
habibialkaysani reblogged
i did watch the first couple seasons of supernatural when i was younger and i thought belas character was so fun and different and of course they killed her bc she had woman on supernatural disease it was disappointing but whatever </3 BUT then i found out they actually didn’t plan on killing her she was just gonna leave the show but spn fans HATED her so much they like campaigned for her to die brutally on the show bc she was cunning and confident so they literally bought her back on the show to kill her and also kind of humiliate her and that’s why i think supernatural fans deserve every part of this finale. and the last ten years of garbage. god bless <3
habibialkaysani reblogged
Name a more iconic duo than my fear of abandonment and instinct to self isolate, I’ll wait.