1. Did you die?
Hey Joel,
What’s your opinion on leaving a girl on read (reading her message but not answering back) when clarity/confirmation is needed? I ask this because I have a friend who has a (now former) guy friend who had plans with her last weekend to chill but the plans fell through when she messaged him on Instagram. He read the first message, asking him if he remembered her address because it had been two months since they hung out but three hours later, he didn’t read nor respond to her second message asking if the plans fell through. It’s been really bothering her and she thinks the guy stopped talking to her because he got back with his girlfriend. She was left upset and scared that the former guy friend didn’t want to be her friend anymore and now i’m all she has, she feels abandoned and closed out because this isn’t the first time she was left on read and left an effect on her. Shouldn’t he have said something instead of nothing?
Not many people will tell you this, but texting is the greatest art form.
Let me be one of many to reiterate something that you probably already know to be true: You never need to do anything for a guy. But it can be useful to know what the right and, in this case, wrong things to say to a guy might be when you’re texting them. What you choose to do with this information is totally up to you–you can use it to make sure guys always respond to your texts, or, you can use it to make sure that guys never respond to your texts.
Recently, my ex-boyfriend texted me even though I already have a boyfriend. He says he’s doing it to help him with this girl he’s into, but why would he need my help instead of just asking a favor from his best friends? I’m starting to think that this girl doesn’t even exist, because in one text, he mentioned the girl’s backpack and said, “It’s a bright color.” Then the next day, he said, “It’s dark color.” I don’t know, sometimes the way he texts seems like it’s just to make me fall for him again, just to make me jealous and makes me forgot that I already have a boyfriend. Please help me.
I don’t want to alarm you here, but it is possible that you are the problem in the texting conversation. I mean, the person you’re texting is the problem too. We’re all the problem. But here’s what you can try to fix, texting-wise, on your end.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: there are few things in this word that are more embarrassing than having a crush.
Texting is something that is supposed to make our lives easier – so why is it that it so often ends up making our lives even more confusing?! This most often applies to those moments when you’re texting your crush and you have no idea what to say. Or you know exactly what you want to say, you’re just too scared to send it. Hey, it happens to the best of us! The guy you like sees the three dots appear on his phone, then disappear…appear, then disappear. You’re being totally indecisive about your text - you want to send him something but you’re not sure if you should! Ugh.
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When we type “LOL,” are any of us actually laughing?
Wait, let me backtrack for a minute. Tone is everything. With the help of body language, our ears pick up on the laughter in a friend’s voice or the obvious irritation in our dad’s voice. It determines the way somebody comes across and it determines our reaction. But when we depend on text instead of audio or visuals to communicate, that’s when things get tricky. It’s notoriously difficult to understand somebody’s tone via the internet, texting, etc, which leads to miscommunication or the fear of coming off the wrong way. In fact, the way we talk online is more than just lingo, it’s a new dialect in which the inclusion of an exclamation mark can turn a conversation from terse to playful. All of this has an impact on how we talk to each other, and how we use words.
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Texting with someone you like can be like walking through a landmine – there is potential for disaster at every turn. One wrong emoji and you could blow the whole relationship up (or at least that’s how it feels). So, should you write exactly what you’re thinking or follow a set of guidelines when texting with dudes? Probably a mixture of both. Don’t get too in your head about it, but also stay away from a few key sentences that will rub the guy the wrong way. Remember that text messages are easily screenshot and shared, so try to not to text things that would be better expressed in person (but not to freak you out or anything, nbd).
As an introvert who usually prefers not to initiate conversations with my crushes in person, I consider texting to be a life-saver. It’s such an easy way to communicate, and the guys that I text don’t have to see me get all shy and awkward around them. Whenever I text a crush, I feel like I can just be myself without the added pressure of thinking about whether or not I look like a total weirdo.
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It’s impossible to know for sure how many times, exactly, I threatened to throw my phone into an ocean or the nearest body of water this year. I just know that it happened enough times for me to make one of my 2016 New Year’s resolutions to “stop threatening to throw my phone into the nearest body of water.”
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What is there to say that hasn’t already been said about the emotional trauma that often comes from texting boys?
It’s hard. It’s hard with any boy, pretty much (like, they might as well be speaking a completely different language in a bunch of cases), and especially hard when you’re texting a boy that you actually really like. There are a number of questions that go along with it–what does he mean by that? Why that particular emoji, and why did he choose to place it there? Is putting no punctuation anywhere a good or bad sign?
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Text messages, as a general rule, are kind of the worst. This is because they are, without fail, nearly impossible to gauge meanings from (like, the multiple meanings of the word “okay” and “cool” alone could fill an entire sub-heading on Wikipedia). Because of this, texting friends can be hard. Texting a significant other, too, can be a challenge. So, when you start texting someone with whom you aren’t sure what your relationship is, exactly–you’re not quite dating, but you’re not just friends, either–you can pretty much expect to throw every ounce of comprehension out the window.
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