the bar...is too low.
It’s 2017, and the idea of dating is become a little more, well, rare. It’s not the end of the world or anything. After all, the very concept of dating has changed a lot over the past century; in the ’50s, you’d be hard pressed to go on a date with anyone without your parents meeting your bae first.
I’m not saying that you shouldn’t look for a partner who has the same taste in music, or someone who can make you laugh; those are appealing qualities! But here’s a roundup of seven qualities in a bae that are way overrated, because they just aren’t everything.
Every relationship is different. You might have a best friend and bae, or you might have multiple best friends and a bae. Or bae could be your best buddy, too. It’s up to you to decide what situation works best for you and your SO.
Romantic relationships are a different experience for everyone – what works for one couple might not work for you and bae, and there’s nothing wrong with that. That said, there are some basic “rules” that every couple should keep in mind. This includes things that shouldn’t be happening in a relationship – unless, that is, your relationship is unhealthy and potentially toxic. Some of these things are really obvious, like you should never be trying to control someone or abuse of any kind. Others are less clear, and we can put some of the blame for that on Hollywood. The way relationships are often portrayed in movies and TV shows can make us look for things that seem good, but that actually ultimately harm us.
When it comes to people, I have found that, generally, there are usually two kinds: those who are moved by the concept of #RelationshipGoals–those Twitter and Instagram accounts that post photos of hot young couples and say that they are the Platonic ideal of what everyone should be working towards–and those who are not.