it might not make sense, but we all do it.
It’s not a race. You have time.
Breakups are not fun. This, of course, is a painfully, mind-numblingly obviously common thought–a cliche one, even–but it doesn’t make the actual act of breaking up with someone any easier no matter how deserved and inevitable the breakup was, or whichever side of the breakup you happen to be on. But no matter how objectively not fun they are, breakups definitely have a way of sticking with you. You remember what you said. You remember what they said. You remember exactly what they were wearing and what you were wearing and, honestly, you probably wouldn’t have been wearing a shirt that says, “It’s the THOT that counts” as a funny joke had you known that you were about to be unceremoniously dumped.
At this point, I think we can all agree that, for most of us, the line between being online and offline has basically become more or less impossible to distinguish. Where once there was a clear divide between ”URL” and “IRL,” there is now nothing, really, that creates a barrier between the two–for most people, everything that happens in real life is basically just curation. You know, trying to figure out how to make what’s happening in your actuallife a means of becoming 100% popping in your online life–Snapchatting everything, Insta-ing all of your brunches in the hopes that, one day, you might become a veritable Viral Meme (don’t believe me? Just ask Damn Daniel).
There are some definite signs that a relationship has been over for a while, and usually when we’re in that relationship, we choose not to see them. Going through a breakup is incredibly hard – but coming out the other side is worth it. Once you realize you’re better off without the person, you’ll feel stronger, happier, and lighter. Want to know if you should actually end things for real? Here are 10 signs you should have broken up a long time ago.
One of the most important aspects of a break up is how you do it. I strongly recommend you do it in person, in a private place, every time. If you liked someone enough to be in a relationship with them, you should respect them enough to provide this common courtesy. I’ve heard lots of breakup horror stories—don’t be one of them! Unless you’ve been casually seeing someone for a few weeks, don’t end things with them in the ways below. Here are the 10 worst ways to break up with someone.