can everyone please keep in mind that there’s something bigger than “tumblr didn’t watch this show so they’re to blame for its cancellation” when it comes to shows like sense8 and the get down getting cancelled?

those two shows are frequently listed as being the most expensive shows netflix has on their roster. they were going at over a hundred million dollars per season. think about that, and then think about how many times you’ve seen either of those shows advertised. 

and then think about how many times you’ve seen thirteen reasons why or orange is the new black or stranger things advertised in comparison.

netflix, as a company, chose to give these shows with highly diverse casts the biggest budget and the smallest amount of advertisement possible. you know what happens when you don’t advertise tv shows? people don’t watch them.

i’m not talking about tumblr user #5754783 deciding not to watch the get down because they are (rightfully) uncomfortable with its depictions of abuse/assault or twitter user #2423857 deciding not to watch sense8 because they are (rightfully) concerned about its depictions of cultures close to their hearts or their tendency to prioritize white characters narratively.

i’m talking about the masses of casual netflix users who don’t get into fandom culture. the largest block of netflix’s audience. the people who clicked on OITNB because they saw commercials on TV and advertisement on facebook. the people who saw 13 reasons why getting hyped up for months before its release because netflix did the leg work to get news about it out there.

so here’s the shit netflix seems to be pulling right now:

it’s………really fucking transparent, guys, so maybe direct your anger in the right places

So Captain Underpants explores the friendship between a gay boy and a black bisexual boy and y’all wanna say Beauty and the Beast was the pinnacle of gay representation in children’s films huh

Captain Underpants comes out on Pride Month. Coincidence? I think the fuck NOT.

Excuse but Harold and George aint gay.

You miss the book where Harold has a husband?

Fanfiction aint canon

It’s in the official books written by the actual author, so it is canon. Pilkey wrote it, so it’s canon. 

I refuse to believe he willingly inserted a political agenda into a popular, established children series

Oh look, stuff from the book! The actual canon book. 

Look at Harold with his husband and kids. Very small but super poignant. 

surprise sur-fucking-prise the existence of gay people isnt a political agenda

My gender is mine to decide. Even if I take a while to figure it out

see: cultural appropriation

Men with stretch marks are entitled to be proud of their body, especially trans men!

If any of my followers believes that “brain sex” is a rigid and well defined category check this out

I actually did a study on this in my freshman year of university!

I had to give a ten minute presentation on gender and a) how it’s different from sex, and b) whether or not there’s such thing as a “male” and “female” brain.

I found COUNTLESS studies supporting the idea that the brain itself is unisex- there is very little, if any, difference between “male” and “female” brains, with one exception. I’m by no means a neuroscientist but this is what I understood from this particular article: there’s this tiny part of the hypothalamus (a small part of the brain) that has neutrons in it, and the number of neutrons varies. HOWEVER, when the brains of cis men and women and trans men and women (who had not taken hormones for years prior to the time of death) were studied, it was found that the cis men and trans men had almost identical average neutron counts, and the cis women and trans women had almost identical average neutron counts. So if you’re DMAB but realize at some point that you’re a trans woman, as far as your brain is concerned, you ARE a woman! The same goes for DFAB trans men (intersex/nonbinary individuals weren’t studied, unfortunately).

TLDR; Your brain doesn’t care what you were “born as”, only what you really are!

I’m currently reading a fantastic book that goes through and debunks old studies that “find evidence” to support gender roles. SPOILER ALERT: they were all poorly done studies and their evidence is unsupported bullshit.

White women, do me a favor and read this.

This line, in particular, gutted me:

That was my entire childhood.

I remember well the acute shock and confusion of that day. I had been so damn sure Becky and I were having a good time. I felt so guilty, despite my mother’s insistence that Becky’s mother was a racist bitch and that I had done nothing wrong. I felt frightened of myself and my potential to hurt innocent white girls without even realizing it.

We are taught to walk home with our keys between our fingers for protection from men in the night, but no one tells us how to defend ourselves from the white women who will try to ravage us from the inside out, with a smile, a comment, a betrayal, a vital inaction, a look. How they will choose comfort over effort, how they will read this and think I am talking about someone else, another pardon.

fellow white women, read this. Think about it. We have to step up and we have to do better.

Something I’ve talked about before and find super helpful! Finally in a visual!

This literally changed my life you guys don’t understand every time I almost relapse I think of this and I stop I’m two weeks clean because of this post I love everyone who reblogged this thank you all so much

Click here for a bonus panel!

Nailed it.

how to explain to people that i’m not rude or lazy, I’m just low on spoons

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I fucking love this.

Not only because hell yeah fat girl heroes and awesomely executed art and animation

But also because I know there are hundreds of assholes SEETHING over it

Everything about these pictures is PERFECTION.

I love how there are people who are pissed off about the depiction of *fictional* fat people being active. These aren’t even real people, but the very idea of a fat person being active (or you know, living while being fat) and being depicted in a positive light is enough to bother some? 

Please.

These are beautiful and skilfully done. The ugliness of those others has no place here. 

You can ask not to be weighed at the doctor's office, if the weighing is triggering or upsetting. I do it all the time.

If my doctor actually needs my weight for something specific, I’ve made the baseline assumption that they will let me know that. 

You’d be surprised at how chill almost every office is with letting you skip it. 

How do you ask, specifically?  I’m sure how you say it is important, some people are more easy to push around & could use advice.

Sure no problem!

I don’t ask, I make a statement. I think that may be the key.

So when they steer me towards a scale, I say “I don’t want to be weighed.”

If they insist (very rare) I just say “I’d rather not.” And then I don’t get on the scale.

If they insist after this (has only happened once), I say “What do you need it for?”

If they say they want it to file insurance, I give them a number to put in their computer. There are procedures/medicine that they do actually need your weight for. If that’s the case, they would certainly tell you so.

You would be surprised how often the nurse does not care.

I think the main key is to stay calm and phrase it not as a question they have to agree to, but as a statement of what you are willing to do.

This is a pretty good tip for setting boundaries in general! And I don’t think it’s that some people are more easy to push around, more that some people don’t have good modeling of how to set boundaries. I didn’t, not for a really long time! I was raised in an abusive home and we weren’t allowed to set boundaries. Learning how to do so has been a years long struggle. 

A simple, oh, no thank you has worked 100% for me.

please respect people who are mentally ill and disabled who cannot work. please respect people who look like they’re just relaxing all day when really they’re waging an internal war just to stay alive or fight their pain. please respect people who could not finish school, people who had big plans and could not see them through because of disability. people who look from the outside like they’ve “given up” or “aren’t doing anything.” people who are hospitalized repeatedly or permanently, and people who are grown adults who are still dependent on others. please respect disabled and mentally ill people. 

this is not a polite suggestion, by the way. it’s an angry demand. we are people, and we deserve the same respect as anyone else.

Disabled Person: (doesn’t know how to do something)

Disabled Person: (is well aware that their life would be easier if they could do it)

Disabled Person: (is already trying as hard as they can to figure it out)

Disabled Person: (would jump at the chance to do it once they know how)

Abled Person: “Just do it.”

Abled Person: (struts around like they just gave the greatest advice in the world)