And like. since I’m complaining here. I’ve seen so much hatred directed at Grace for the way she behaved in s1, and not even half of the same vitriol directed at Jared now and I’m bitter about it
Because though as a viewer I too got easily frustrated with Grace when she didn’t get how much effort Ben was putting into keeping Cal and their family safe throughout all that sci-fi shit, her positions tended to be pretty reasonable basing on the information she had, her situation and her limited view of what Ben was doing.
On the other hand, since when Zeke arrived Jared has been working against Michaela’s callings, making things harder for her just as Grace was making things harder for Ben, with the very big difference being that Jared knows what he’s doing. He knows about the callings, he was on board before, he knows that he should trust Michaela when she says that she Knows something, and yet as soon as he saw another man around her he did not trust her when she said nothing was going on and he decided that she suddenly didn’t know what she was doing. Because of course a woman cannot reason with an attractive man around, right?
Basically he was okay being supportive when that earned him points with Michaela and it gave him an excuse to be around her, but as soon as helping with the callings (or simply GETTING OUT OF THE DAMN WAY) meant that he had to trust that she wasn’t fucking the guy crashing at her apartment it all became “You don’t know what you are doing” and “You are not thinking straight” and “We are meant to be together, my wife left, why aren’t we fucking already? What do you mean you have other things on your mind? THERE’S A DUDE IN YOUR APARTMENT!!!! WITHOUT MY PERMISSION!!!!! HOW DARE YOU!!!!!!!!!”
td;dr: Grace was making things harder for Ben simply because she didn’t see the bigger picture, but most of the time she was acting as a reasonable human being in a shitty situation, whereas Jared was all helpful up until the moment he saw someone closing in on His Woman, then he started making things hard for Michaela simply because he’s possessive and condescending (clearly He Knows Best), yet apparently Grace is the asshole here according to way too many people and I’m bitter about it.