I am surely in the toils.

#mental health #recovery #stress

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#my life #stress #code violations #hoa vibes #in-laws #i mean it's just so inconsiderate of them to not even give us a heads-up #the city AND my in-laws

Cons:

We got a letter about code violations. We have until 10 days from the date of the letter to address them.
The letter was dated 7/20.
The letter was postmarked 7/25.
The letter arrived 7/27, which is a Saturday, and the city offices are closed
The deadline is 7/29, when they will perform a reinspection.
One of the items is getting a dead tree removed. Three weeks ago we scheduled someone to look at it. Their earliest available appointment was 7/23.
Due to the rot and proximity of power lines, their company is unable to do it, and we need a specialist.
We are going out of town soon, so scheduling a specialist will be difficult.
My in-laws announced they're spending the night tomorrow night. 26 hours' notice. We knew they were "maybe stopping by on their way through at the end of the month," but somehow that morphed into staying the night. Tomorrow night.

Pros:

I emailed the code enforcement officer detailing our difficulties and the disadvantage the late arrival of the letter put us at.
My father-in-law enjoys yardwork, and can probably help us trim the trees and address the lawn issues.
My mom listened to me spill all of my stress and was kind and encouraging.

#my life #stress #code violations

Cons:

We got a letter about code violations. We have until 10 days from the date of the letter to address them.
The letter was dated 7/20.
The letter was postmarked 7/25.
The letter arrived 7/27, which is a Saturday, and the city offices are closed
The deadline is 7/29, when they will perform a reinspection.
One of the items is getting a dead tree removed. Three weeks ago we scheduled someone to look at it. Their earliest available appointment was 7/23.
Due to the rot and proximity of power lines, their company is unable to do it, and we need a specialist.
We are going out of town soon, so scheduling a specialist will be difficult.
My in-laws announced they're spending the night tomorrow night. 26 hours' notice. We knew they were "maybe stopping by on their way through at the end of the month," but somehow that morphed into staying the night. Tomorrow night.

Pros:

I emailed the code enforcement officer detailing our difficulties and the disadvantage the late arrival of the letter put us at.
My father-in-law enjoys yardwork, and can probably help us trim the trees and address the lawn issues.
My mom listened to me spill all of my stress and was kind and encouraging.

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#stress

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#mental health #encouragement #stress

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sarahseeandersen

#Sarah Andersen #stress

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quillingmesoftly

caseywond3r

hey guys so apparently this is a thing a lot of people don't realise but like. if you have had writer's block/ art block for like. six months. a year. two years. that's maybe not a block. that's maybe depression. and you should maybe look into treating the source of the problem instead of just beating yourself up for not being able to write/draw. be kind to yourself and know that your struggle to create isn't based in laziness or a lack of skill or talent.

tyrannosaurus-trainwreck

You also do have like, a finite amount of energy. Especially creative and emotional energy.

The celebrate-the-grind stories where some famous artist held down two grueling part-time jobs to make ends meet and got by on four hours of sleep a night so they'd have time to write their novel or paint or whatever, so what's your excuse are absolute bullshit. We should look at those about the same as we look at long-haul truckers doing a lot of amphetamines to handle driving for 16 hours a day or AAA game studios and crunch time.

So yeah, if your ability to make art has dried up, you really should take a good look at the underlying reasons and see if there's maybe some self-care you need to be doing. The answer is pretty much never "laziness."

opalescent-potato

tags via @tyrannosaurus-trainwreck

#creative block #spoons #underlying causes #depression #stress

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ernestsewell

I was actually just reading about this in Caste: The Origins of our Discontent. The author talks about how one’s body goes into stress or anxiety or defense mode when the person knows they’re being followed, watched, or otherwise scrutinized. She brought race into it. A Nigerian man, who was just a person in his country, was healthy as anything. He got to the U.S. and within a year, his doctor told him he was suddenly pre-diabetic and had high blood pressure. He never had those things in his country. He learned that being Black in the U.S. is a very different experience than being Black in a Black-centric country. The author elaborated more about those in poverty, women, and being a minority in general. Having that “fight or flight” triggered in the body, sometimes for hours or days or weeks at a time, degrades the body’s natural defenses, making them more vulnerable to disease.

#stress #fight or flight #health #mental health #is physical health

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halorvic

🙃

#stress #dragons

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lizclimo

#liz climo #stress

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#stress #mental health #depression #anxiety

#fredrik backman #beartown #stress #breaking point

All adults have days when we feel completely drained. When we no longer quite know what we spend so much time fighting for, when reality and everyday worries overwhelm us and we wonder how much longer we're going to be able to carry on. The wonderful thing is that we can all live through far more days like that without breaking than we think. The terrible thing is that we never know exactly how many.

Beartown by Fredrik Backman

#stress #my life #foundation repair #retail

Foundation got finished early
But they found missing cross beams so it ended up being 2k more than quoted
Also a pipe broke so we can't do laundry until that's fixed
You don't realize how much you love being able to do laundry until you can't
My job fooled me. It seemed mostly chill at the start, but I've come to realize we're just as understaffed as everywhere else in the world
Our house looks like this:

The choir I joined has stopped being any fun at all and is now only a stressful obligation
But I'm going to feel terrible guilt if/when I quit
They still haven't posted the work schedule for next week, which is stressful because I had to schedule a plumber not knowing if I'd even be available, and I may have to scramble to cover a shift
I'm feeling very frayed
But to show my husband I love him I cleaned two toilets today. It's not much, but he's always so supportive and wonderful, it's one little thing I can do for him
A customer came into the store yesterday wearing a restaurant uniform, and when he asked how I was doing, it was utterly sincere, and he gets it, he gets what it's like being in customer service, and I love him for it

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mckitterick

savagechickens

Cat Stress.

And more stress.

#cats #stress #seems about right