Your opinion of my life defines your truth, not mine.
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We spend an extraordinary amount of time and energy tackling the surface issues, which rarely results in meaningful, lasting change. When we dig past the surface, we find that shame is often what drives us to hate our bodies, fear rejection, stop taking risks or hide the experiences and parts of our lives that we fear others might judge. This same dynamic applies to feeling attacked as a mother or feeling too stupid or uneducated to voice our opinions.
Until we start addressing the role shame plays, we may temporarily fix some of the surface problems, but we can’t silence the old tape in our head that suddenly blares some version of “something is wrong with me.” And, that imposter or phony feeling at work or school rarely has anything to do with our abilities, but has more to do with that fearful voice inside of us that scolds and asks, “Who do you think you are?” Shame forces us to put so much value on what other people think that we lose ourselves in the process of trying to meet everyone else’s expectations.
Brene Brown (via liquid-diamonds-flowing)
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The thing you need to remember when you're talking to someone with an Eating Disorder, is that you're always talking about weight - even if YOU don't think you are, let me tell you - you are.
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If someone tells you you're "in your ego," just tell them the only way they could be seeing you're in your ego is if they're in theirs.
Marianne Williamson
Vulnerability is letting go of that powerful fear of what others might think and replacing it with an awareness of how all of us FEEL.
Carrie Rodriguez
If you have reached a point in your life where you want to change, you need to be prepared that not everyone will be willing to come along for the ride. Your passion and enthusiasm may sometimes get you into trouble with those who don’t share it. Some people will be ready to pounce and criticise you for many reasons. There will always be people who are jealous, judgemental, critical and opinionated – but continue to be you anyway. Don’t let the energy-drainers stop you from being you and travelling the road you want to travel.
Belinda Anderson
We must not allow other people's limited perceptions to define us.
Virginia Satir
Anonymous comments? You're not in the arena, man. If you can't say it to me in person in front of my kids, don't say it.
Brene Brown
We all crave love and acceptance. To the point that we are willing to change ourselves; to amputate parts of who we are to fit into the imaginary boxes of who others want us to be. What we lose sight of in the process, is that in doing this we deprive ourselves of self-love and self-acceptance, which deep down is what we need most of all.
When will people get it through their fucking heads that telling someone with an eating disorder how 'sick' or awful they look does NOT,motivate positive change.
And the last thing is, I can’t be paralyzed anymore by the critics. My new mantra is, if you’re not in the arena getting your ass kicked on occasion, then I’m not interested in your feedback. You don’t get to sit in the cheat seat and criticize my appearance or my work with mean-spiritedness if you’re also not in the arena.
Brene Brown