The less you try to control every little thing, the greater control you have over your entire life.
Healing comes from gathering wisdom from past actions and letting go of the pain the education cost you.
Caroline Myss
Perhaps you actually abuse yourself in some way (food, words, name your poison) or let yourself be taken advantage of by others. You might find yourself on the receiving end of being in relationship with someone who doesn’t love themselves and get frustrated as hell as they mirror you back. You may eventually learn to like yourself, entertain the thought of loving yourself and then dare to go all in. After which you could find yourself as a beacon for people who struggle with the same thing you have just overcome and get annoyed at how they won’t just help themselves.
Regardless of how long it takes for the “lesson to be learned” the years spent loathing yourself are just as important as the ones that you are head over heals in your bubble of self loving. So it’s just as much about getting it wrong as it is about getting it right. Us spiritual overachievers put so much pressure on ourselves to get it right that sometimes we miss the value of the time spent in getting it wrong.
Rebecca Campbell