garden in the void

Got a terf in my sideblog and the reply is not worth deigning with a response but the pinned post?

This? This is a trap. This is concern baiting. Be very sure that shit like this is not in your best interest and does not care about you. The goal of rhetoric like this is conversion.

You’ll be welcomed and asked to ignore transphobia. You will be asked to side with transphobes at the expense of trans women. Eventually, you’ll be asked to see that, hey, maybe you transitioned to escape how terrible it is to be a woman?

This may seem obviously a trap but I see people every day buy into this. People like this do not care about you! They want to “rescue” you and don’t let them convince you otherwise.

Hey this one got the terfs pissy so like. To say again. Clearly if they’re mad about this, this post hit on something. Maybe reblog it?

a nonzero amount of TERFS are people who were seriously considering transition to male but got talked out of it by other terfs and now want to do the same thing to other people who are questioning their gender. i’ve seen a whole lot of them say the quiet part out loud: they don’t like being women, they once considered transitioning to escape the pain and discomfort, and they were made to believe that suffering is an intrinsic part of womanhood, which is a good thing, because being a man is much much much worse.

do not talk to terfs if being a woman is unpleasant for you: their entire ideology revolves around noble suffering, righteous misery and attacking people who make different choices and are happier and more comfortable than them. they hate trans men who ‘escape’ and ‘betray’ womanhood, they hate women who are too ‘stupid’ to be miserable, they hate straight women who find peace and happiness with male partners, they hate bisexuals, they hate queer women who are too butch or too femme. they hate themselves. they will not rescue you. they are drowning.

I recommend checking out Ky Schever’s blog Reclaiming Trans; she was a fairly well known transmasc detransitioner who later retransitioned and has written about her experience with TERFs using conversion therapy tactics and being sexually abused by a prominent TERF who, in her opinion, specifically preyed on traumatized transmascs and “was both attracted to [her] suppressed transmasculinity and wanted to control it.”

TERF spaces are not safe places for transmascs anymore than conversion therapy camp is safe for gay cis people.

This kid is awesome

Cute how people who say this shit dont say transphobia doesnt exist just because shitty parents might kick out a trans kid because they think it’s because they’re gay. It’s all terrible and parents being bigoted and neglectful and abusive. To parents like that it doesn’t matter if you’re gay or trans or ace, it’s all the same to them and they don’t want you in their family.

Using this as a “gotcha” to belittle the experiences of those who’ve gotten kicked out after coming out with the bonus of not even being believed for what they came out as is disgusting.

If you’re someone who’s so wrapped up in your exclusionary ideology that you’re denying the experiences of fucking children kicked out of their homes and abused after coming out, for the love of whatever you believe/don’t believe in, fucking re-evaluate.

Also to everyone like “this fake, aces don’t get offered conversion therapy”

In this recent UK study cis asexuals were the most likely to have conversion therapy equal to cis gay/lesbian people. And the most likely to have it offered.

https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/721704/LGBT-survey-research-report.pdf

Stop basically yelling Fake News!1 and re-evaluate why you refuse to listen to victims of abuse.

Also people should stop reblogged this with “why would a parent kick a kid out for not having sex??.”

1) Stop equating sexuality to behavior. Don’t do it with gay people, don’t do it for ace people.

2) Faith based groups, especially those who are not pro-LGBTQ don’t magically see aces as acceptable. They view them as not-straight therefore wrong.

3) If you are abstinent it’s supposed to be a sacrifice you suffer through to show your strong faith. Sex is meant to be your reward for being married. Being abstinent in a faith based groups works until you are meant to get married, be fruitful, or summit to your husband. The moment you decide you don’t want any of that for yourself now or in the future it’s a seen as a problem.

4) You’ll note that lots of number 3 is sexism, sex negativity, and the forced continuation of nuclear families something that directly and indirectly adds to homophobia and transphobia. And instead of saying “hey this ace, this victim of abuse, gives us an opportunity to discuss all of those wrongs in society, plenty of people just reblog “but why would you kick a virgin out??”

Learn what asexuality is, and how our fight for liberation has benefits for everyone.

Minors deserve to have a say in their own healthcare

This is about:

@ohpioneer1806 no I’m not a parent. I was however a minor in the past— shocking, I know.

You can’t get any healthcare services without parental consent. At all. Sometimes even trying or voicing a concern means they have to immediately inform your parents. I was denied vaccines that I wanted to get as a teenager because my mom was “worried” about them. I couldn’t get counseling through my college as a minor without parental consent— I was mature enough to get fast-tracked into adult classes, but not mature enough to know if I needed help

It is virtually impossible for kids to get mental help without alerting their parents. Secrecy is the highest priority in a lot of these cases. And who does telling the parents against the kid’s will benefit? When I was that young, I didn’t know it was a problem with my family, I thought it was just a problem with me, and I knew I very badly needed help but couldn’t take any that would alert my parents, because then I’d face repercussions at home that would make everything worse

The fact that I didn’t feel safe to go to the high school administration and ask for help is the sole reason I wasn’t put in foster care. They tried, years later, but it was too late

Who is this benefitting? If the relationship is in any way healthy, a teenager would tell their parent something like that. If it’s not, then that resource is needed even more

And with the other things on the list it’s the same. Trans kids should be able to get puberty blockers and hrt later on even if they have bigoted parents. If you don’t want teen pregnancies, then the solution is sex ed and birth control, and failing that, abortions. How is forcing a scared teenager to carry a likely very dangerous pregnancy to term benefiting anyone? Who is that benefiting?

You realize the anti-vaxxers’ kids are human beings, right? Human beings who might not wanna get sick themselves/endanger their friends but happen to have unreasonable parents who are obsessed with their kid being perfect?

ABT has been called torture but “autism mommies” just want their kid to act normal, above all else. The first time I was in a psych ward, I opened up about being gay and a nurse immediately suggested ECT. Thank God I was over 18. My parents would love to turn me straight.

I’m not saying eight year olds shouldn’t have to take medicine if it tastes icky here. I actually work with kids, and I understand how much they don’t wanna do things they have to do sometimes. I’m not saying they should be treated exactly like adults, I’m saying that a person has a right to bodily autonomy even before they turn 18