trixie lulamoon is transfemme and proud 🌟🏳️‍⚧️🌙

i got to thinking about something i said... going to turn these into prints, stickers, shirts, buttons, etc. soon. thought folks might like this, i'm way more pleased with the design than i thought i would be (: consider adding more flags too!

happy pride to everyone who refuses to be cisgender (or cissexual!) in the face of a world that demands we bow to their needs. we do not owe anyone cisgenderism or cissexuality- we owe it to ourselves to be who we are instead.

People make it out as trans fems vs trans mascs in every aspect. No! We are gonna join together and overthrow the government! Join me fellow trans brothers, sisters, and siblings so we can rule the world!

The government is too small an endeavor, we need to think higher, we need to STEAL THE MOON!!

Right, considering the current state of corporate politics on this site, and that it seems that only those affected seem to be actively speaking on the matter, it is up to I, the only fucking cishet on tumblr, to drag this out to a wider audience.

REBLOG IF YOUR ACCOUNT IS A TRANSFEM SAFE SPACE.

We need to show these higher ups how much we truly value them.

Upon first seeing this, I thought,

Trans mascs meeting trans fems (& via versa)

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the reason intersex people need to be visible and at the forefront of every queer's activism is because we are completely devoid of autonomy when it comes to identifying ourselves. no matter how hard we try to speak up on how we are treated, how we are dehumanized, how we are refused our right to say who we are, it falls through the cracks because of how many people continue to diminish our issues, and espouse intersexist beliefs.

when i speak up about being transfemme, and a trans girl, it's not because i'm trying to step on people's toes or speak about something i don't understand. i speak up about it because this is the life i've lived. it doesn't matter if strangers see me this way or not, this is how i've been my entire life. whether or not someone knows i was technically born AMAB and then had my gender "corrected" shouldn't matter.

trans people do not only come in binary sexes- just like gender, physical sex is also not a binary. i am an intersex trans girl , even if my agab didn't stay AMAB forever. I would be an intersex trans girl regardless of whether or not they assigned me male at birth, because my experience with womanhood and femininity is that they've always been held away from me, way farther than it would ever be possible for me to reach.

i've had to take estrogen & progesterone HRT in the past in order to "correct" my masculine features in order to look like and be a girl "correctly". the subject of my body and my gender has never been something i've been able to control. my whole live i've just been told that i'm a girl wrong, and that i need to "Fix" it.

boyhood or manhood weren't options either, that was held away from me with a 10 foot pole as well. i've had to transition into gender, itself, because i was forbidden to be a boy or a girl. i was always too sensitive or soft to be a real boy. gender as a concept has been a source of control and degredation for me. i had to transition into both manhood and womanhood in order to have control over how i identify. even now when i talk about manhood and being a man, people tell me that i'm not a trans man because of how i look. i'm routinely denied manhood, I "have" to be a trans woman only to some.

due to my intersex condition, i'm a trans man and a trans woman, transfemme and transmasc, but people struggle to accept this. there's no reason for people to give me hell about these parts of myself, and yet people still do. intersex awareness matters because we fight to be seen as the people we are. we struggle to have our identities be addressed correctly. we are in the same fight as trans individuals, and we owe it to intersex trans men, women, and people to help people understand that trans folks come in all different types of bodies, and that biological sex is not a binary, either.

we have to fight for each other's autonomy. for all of us. together we are stronger, louder, and braver.

transfemme and transmasc solidarity! (prints available)

the great and transfeminine trixie

[id: two gifs with sparkling, glittery text. both have a black outline. the top reads: “if you cant make your own testosterone, store bought is fine” in rainbow glitter text and the bottom reads: “if you cant make your own estrogen, store bought is fine” in light pink glitter text. end id]

If you're a transfemme and can't or don't want to tuck, you are amazing. Your body is good. Your body is feminine enough - you don't have to do anything to "prove" it. No matter what is best for your mind and body, you will always be good. To hell with the idea that you must alter yourself to be a "true" woman - you are already there.

I have woken up and have a lot of feelings about something similar to this.

You also don't need to voice train! That shit can be hard to do, and if it's something that isn't for you, then it isn't for you. Your voice is yours to do with what you want. Your voice is good, and if it makes you comfy without training, that is beautiful! You are beautiful! And so is your voice.

transfems in dresses: 💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗

transfems in skirts: 💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞

transfems with makeup: 💓💓💓💓💓💓💓

transfems in suits: 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕

transfems without makeup: 💖💖💖💖💖💖

transfems wearing whatever the hell they want to: 💘💘💘💘💘💘💘💘💘💘💘💘💘💘💘

i dont think tme people get, or ever will get, how deeply affecting the experience of transmisogyny is. will elaborate later.

okay I drank more coffee and I'm ready to get into this.

so transmisogyny is the intersection of transphobia and misogyny, which should be obvious but some people don't like to listen. its another layer of oppression past the transphobia that transmascs have. every transfemme I've talked to and befriended has had some experience with feeling predatory for having feelings for someone (generally affects trans wlw more) or infantilized themselves and acted very gentle and passive in order to not feel as though they're predatory. (I'm still working through the first one and used to deal with the latter)

we're taught to be afraid of our own bodies, especially our genitals. it's as if we're monsters for being women born with penises, as if that in itself makes us gross. there's a reason that all the transphobic bathroom arguments come down to a "man dressed as a woman" preying on women. this goes a million times as far for black trans women, who have the added intersection of blackness. that paints them as even more masculine and aggressive despite how far that is from the truth.

I developed my eating disorder because i felt like my body was too big and masculine, that i would look more feminine if i were skinnier. thats obviously something cis women face, but its not the same for us. we're told we have male bodies and that we need to make ourselves smaller to fit in with "real women".

we're excluded from women's spaces for "not having the same experiences" or "invading" or whatever other transphobic reterric they want to use to allow trans men in but not us. we're alienated from trans/LGBT spaces due to the heavy focus on transmasc and tme nonbinary people in discussions of transitioning. for every 20 resources on how to bind and its dangers i get on my dash, I see 1 or 2 on tucking and its dangers. for every 20 binder giveaways i see I've never seen a gaff giveaway. I bet some of you don't even know what a gaff is. (its what we use to tuck)

the amount of times I've seen jokes about men in dresses, the amount of times i've heard words like femboy and tranny thrown around by tme people as if they're not harming us by doing so sickens me. every time you make genderbent fan art, draw a guy looking embarassed in a dress, or make a femboy friday joke, you are contributing to the stigma that follows us wherever we go.

I'm probably gonna lose followers for this and get told in the notes "I would reblog this but your tone is so aggressive :/" but I DON'T CARE. WE USED OUR POLITE VOICES AND YOU DIDN'T LISTEN. BLACK TRANS WOMEN BUILT THIS COMMUNITY AND NOW THEY'RE DYING ON THE FUCKING STREETS. WE AS A GROUP, ARE BEING TURNED AWAY FROM HOMELESS SHELTERS AND BEING JOKED ABOUT ON THIS AWFUL WEBSITE. IT'S OUR BLOOD ON YOUR HANDS.

Not to mention the fact that people barely understand anything about our transitions. I almost never see any kind of informative posts about what to expect from hormones/surgery/etc., and even the doctors that prescribe my meds hardly seem to know anything about them. The six page long informed consent document I had to sign to get my hormones listed like a hundred possible effects, all of which came with a “this may or may not happen we’re just kinda guessing” disclaimer, and I’ve STILL found TONS of things that no one EVER told me while they were busy stressing over and over that I’d probably be sterile after a while.

Did you know it’s not uncommon to lose a shoe size or two? Or to shrink a couple inches because your entire pelvis rotates after a while (which hurts like a motherfucker, I might add)? Or that it’s very possible that you’ll suffer some of the symptoms of PMS every month even though you can’t menstruate? Did you know your tastes in food might change because your sense of smell changes? Probably not, because barely anybody researches or published information on this stuff. And who even fucking knows what you can expect after surgery because hearsay reports vary wildly and there’s basically nothing out there.

It gets so much harder to stay healthy when it’s so hard to find information on how our bodies function.