On the douchebaggery taking place on the #autism tag.
[TW for mentions of abuse/bullying; ableism]
So it’s come to my attention that allistic bloggers have taken to posting offensive, triggering, or irrelevant stuff on the autism tag (that is, even more so than usual) and that most of it is coming from parents of autistic children who want a place to either complain about how “burdensome”, “wrong”, “sick” and “hopeless” their children are, or wax hopeful about their crusade to “cure” their child of their autism, like the goddamn Don Quixote of autism parents.
And when called out on this by autistic bloggers - the people whose voices should be centered on this tag for obvious reasons - they are quick to defend themselves, spewing forth even more logical fallacies and bigoted tropes in the process. They try to deflect the blame off of themselves by claiming that they are being bullied by people calling them out on their shit. They try to dismiss us by saying “I’m normal, therefore I’m right”. They say “think about the poor parents who can’t have normal lives because autism has cursed their family!!!1!11!”. They’ll say and do a whole bunch of bigoted, privileged bullshit to make us look bad for demanding some basic fucking respect.
Allistic people, you are being put on notice here.
The autism tag is no place for the kind of behavior I just described.
It will never be “safe” for you to bemoan autistic people as burdens.
It will never be “safe” for you to express the desire to harm your child/sibling/family member, or sympathize with someone who does so.
It will never be “safe” for you to dominate our space and silence us.
It will never be “safe” for you to spread myths and disinformation about autism and autistic people.
You have two options, allistic people:
you can either resume frothing at the mouth, trying to defend your short-sighted, privileged bullshit,
or…
you can step the fuck back, shut the fuck up, think about what you’ve been saying here, learn what you can and can’t do here, and learn how to check your goddamn privilege.