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freefromthecocoon

@freefromthecocoon

more than slightly obsessed with all things Norman Reedus, Melissa McBride, Daryl Dixon and Carol Peletier
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It's difficult to have an informed discussion for a TV show if you refuse to watch said TV show. Maybe don't solely base your opinions on the opinions of others, and your thoughts and ideas would carry more weight.

There's no better advice than this. And not only for keeping up with some media or another but for everything in life: buying a house, seeking a romantic relationship with someone, making up your mind about politics or religion, choosing a career, making financial investments, deciding on if you want kids and why and how, maintaining a relationship with difficult family members. Making informed decisions require tons of informations, dedicated time to reflect on them and rationalization of feelings (feelings are important, they need to be accepted as such and heard but they should not run rampant and dictate your life).

Listening and considering other's opinions and inputs are part of a decision process, but they can't be your only source of information or you're destined to make decisions for your own life (which will lead to consequences, emotional and practical, good or bad, that you and only you be responsible to manage) based on other's thoughts instead of your own.

So...be curious about life! Watch the damn thing your invested on, even if it's not perfect, even if it's only to talk badly about it with elements to back you up. Study, learn new things, seek knowledge. Read philosophy and poetry and go visit a museum or an art exhibition. Talk respectfully with people that have radically different points of views of your own, you may learn a thing or two about your own biased views. Challenge yourself! Do therapy, if you have the time and money to invest on it. Allow yourself to feel discomfort and displeasure, things don't have to be nice or good all the time. You don't have to be nice or good all the time. You're certainly not right all the time. Making informed decisions is hard and a forever learning processes but it's worth the work. And if you still fuck up, own it and view it as a learning experience. You'll do better next time.

PS: Real life Lola is a licensed psychotherapist with a 10+ year career.

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