Over a 100???? It was just the guy in the photo a couple days ago djsjdjks

no but jokes aside this is actually really great. malicious compliance in the best way.

here's a quote from a Pink News article about this that really stuck with me:

the whole point is to show how "afab" being used as a replacement for woman is fucking stupid and fundamentally incorrect and. whatever else. and it gives me hope to see the community rising up like this. solidarity and unity and peace on planet earth.

she was just a baby :(

Republic Square in Belgrade tonight, people lighting candles in Noa's honor and mourning

My 90yr old Irish Catholic grandpa doesn’t miss with my gender. He’s never gotten my name wrong, or my pronouns, never even faltered over it.

It’s all so natural too: son, big man, young man…

We’ve never talked about it. He’s the only one who hasn’t pushed for details. He just accepted it and carried on because it’s not a huge deal.

It’s so comforting.

My dear that’s called Alzheimer’s

I wasn’t going to respond to this, I looked at your blog. Your irrational hatred and bile directed towards trans people is palpable and pathetic. This was intended to upset me. 

But I now have a chance to talk about who my grandfather is. 

You see, I find it interesting that you claim the only way my 90yr old grandfather could possibly be so accepting is if he was dying of one of the most horrible diseases known to man, a condition which eats your brain from the inside out and turns you in an angry, scared shell of the child you once were while your family has to grieve you long before you’re dead. 

You find it easier - and evidently prefer - to believe that to accept me, my grandfather must have Alzheimer’s rather than any other reason. 

Why is that easier to believe than a man who lived through (not was born during, not was around for, lived through) the Second World War and the aftermath, seeing footage of the concentration camps and meeting refugees would be accepting? 

A poor builder and a farmer who worked alongside queer men and deaf men and the few people of colour in Northern Ireland in the 1950s and was himself barred from many places of employment and education due to his religion?

This man, whose oldest son was born the year the British army began occupying his country, who lived through the Troubles and was automatically considered suspicious and dangerous through an incident of birth? A man who helped raise six children - most of them boys and therefore in great danger of the army turning their guns on them for playing kid-games - in a time of civil war where it didn’t seem to matter which side you were on, the bombs and shootings could get you either way? A man who once was taken hostage by the IRA? 

My grandfather’s oldest son - my dad - was the first in his family to go to university and there he met and fell in love with a Protestant woman. This was before the Good Friday Agreement, when the civil war was still happening, and if my grandparents had a problem with it - they never let said to my mum. 

(My grandpa and my mum don’t really get along, but that’s more to do with me being a premature baby and tensions over my survival and disagreements on how to look after me. My mum and my Nana? Thick as thieves.) 

They certainly never let it slip to us when we came along because it wasn’t important anymore that we were something many people in Northern Ireland would have preferred to not exist. It didn’t matter. 

He voted in the Good Friday Agreement in hopes of stopping the conflict. He spent a lot of time listening to me about the bullying I was facing for being - unbeknownst to me at the time - queer and disabled. He just told me that being happy was far more important. 

Being trans? It does not matter. Of course it doesn’t matter to him because he’s seen worse things in the world. 

He’s ninety years old. He’s still out on the farm, he’s still studying history, he’s still sharp as fuck. I’ve seen someone die of Alzheimer's. I know every bit of it and it’s not him. Besides, I’ve not medically transitioned in anyway yet. He’s only seen me presenting fully masc for six days in person. Two years in total. If he had Alzheimer’s he’d be calling me by my deadname and using she/her. 

And he’s not unusual. Outside of your echo chamber, most people are fine with trans people. Most people don’t care. Most people are accepting. They may not understand, they may not use the right words, but they’re accepting. 

I do find it interesting that once again the TERF tactic is try and wrestle autonomy and self-control away from people who don’t follow your bigoted stances. Autistics must be being manipulated. Trans men are clearly confused little girls. Children obviously can’t understand their own minds and bodies. 

My grandfather must have Alzheimer's. 

Of course my view of a world I’ve seen in a Tumblr textpost must be more correct than the reality everyone else lives in. 

Have the day you deserve. 

When we say genocide, we fucking mean genocide. Call it what it is.

There is a lengthy write-up in the Tallahassee Democrat on this bill and what it would change: https://www.tallahassee.com/story/news/politics/state/2023/04/11/florida-legislature-follows-desantis-in-expanding-death-penalty/70103202007/. Bringing back the death penalty for child rape has been a conservative bugbear even since SCOTUS handed down Kennedy v. Louisiana in 2008. I oppose this and it’s gross, but note this:

Also, this is in direct conflict with applicable federal precedent, so here’s what will happen:

During this period of litigation, the law isn’t being enforced. DeSantis has or has not become president in the interim. Cops will keep being shitty regardless of what the law says. Also, I would expect Florida prosecutors to avoid any dubious applications of this law. It would be subject to a “facial” challenge immediately (e.g., the law is facially unconstitutional, no matter how it’s used). Any attempts to use it to execute drag queens would open up a whole series of as-applied first amendment-based challenges, and first amendment protections are robust, even under a conservative Supreme Court.

TLDR: This is performative bullshit. Don’t sleep on it, but don’t catastrophize either. Plenty of stress to go around.

… to play devil’s advocate, private citizens will take matters into their own hands, and we’ll see another increase in hate crimes against trans and everyone else who doesn’t meet the ‘cis, white, and male’ template during the entire process, because the republicans know they are losing, and have gone full nazi fascist in a last attempt to get and retain power.

And it’s always another foot in the door. It’s performative now because to do what they actually want is not socially permissible… yet.

But that’s what this culture war of theirs (and terfs) is about pushing the limits of. They already have a good chunk of conservatives and radfems who would celebrate the state executing drag queens and trans people. Republicans just gotta silence or drive out dissenters and get enough “but muh both sides” centrists on board, and then it’ll be open season.

I also want to point out that this is bad policy even if you just take it at face value as “only applies to actual child molesters who really do molest a child”. Because this would drive reporting rates down into the basement, and they are already not high.

CSA is a crime committed at home, not one done by strangers very often. It’s committed by people the child knows and loves and trusts. That’s how they manage to do it in the first place. And you can’t just eradicate the feelings of love and care by abuse. Children are tenaciously good at continuing to love their abusers. It’s already an under reported crime because the victims “don’t want to get [him] in trouble”. If “get in trouble” now means “get killed”? Or even if they THINK it means that? So much more reluctant to report it.

Which MEANS. Kids will spend years longer being abused because of this bill, even if it ends up getting thrown out, because kids will internalize “if I report it, my dad/brother/friend/cousin/etc will get killed and it’ll be my fault and that’ll make me an awful person and a murderer.” So. Not only is this clearly a step toward genocide, but it’s one that actively harms vulnerable children along the way.

Copying @thebookewyrme‘s addition into a new reblog, because it is an extremely important point to raise, but that green-on-white is horrendously difficult to read for those of us with vision problems:

It occurs to me that making people more afraid to come forward about actual sexual abuse sounds like they’d consider it a feature, not a bug, to these people. Most of the folks involved in this prolly have something to hide in that department; loudly condemning it while making it more difficult for their own victims to talk about it would greatly serve them. I often wonder about the mindset. Obviously hypocrisy or moral consistency is of no interest or value to them, but I often wonder if they think themselves moral when they do these things, they think themselves flawed but superior, or if they just don’t care.

[ID: a screenshot of a tweet by "Leading report":

Breaking: Florida senate committee has unanimously passed a bill that would give the death penalty to those who commit sexual crimes against children.

This got retweeted by "Olivia Hill":

I want you to read this while simultaneously remembering that Florida and about 20 other states are passing various forms of "being trans or in drag is a sexual offense against minors."

Just saying. /end ID].

[Image ID: Tweet from jace (@/ hawkinshop) reading: Full offense but if your son lays awake at night wishing he was dead because you insist he's your daughter, or if your daughter lays awake at night wishing she was dead because you insists she's your son, you have failed as a parent. /End ID]

"You Were Known To Us"

From time to time, and just now in the wake of Brianna Ghey's murder, those wishing to mourn our (transgender) dead sometimes use phrases like "rest in power", appropriate to the black community whence such phrases came, less appropriate when applied to white people, even when from other marginalized and oft-murdered groups.

May I offer, instead, that we popularise: "You Were Known To Us"

To make a generalization that I think is reasonable, trans people tend to want, more than anything else, to be simply recognised for who we are. To be known.

Not in the sense of "to be famous" but in the sense of just to be known for who we are, rather than for who we aren't.

[ image ID: an engraved metal plaque. in large print it reads:

You were known to us

Transgender memorial

- then, in smaller text beneath:

We remember those who have gone before us

And we will fight for those yet to come

Erected in 2013 by the Transgender and Gay Community

to remember all our Transgender

Sisters and Brothers who have left us.

Love will always conquer hate

end ID ]

[I.D. A series of tweets by Dan Savage @ fakedansavage (verified). It reads,

It’s not just that gay bars are supposed to be a safe space. People who hate queer people want us to keep it private. Behind closed doors. Someplace they don’t have to see it. And the doors of a gay bar are doors we keep it behind. A place we can go and be together and not bother them with the fact of our existence. And behind those doors… is a place we can forget they exist. Not straight people. There are straight people in gay bars and clubs. Our friends. But behind those doors we can forget-we can suspend our disbelief-and pretend the haters don’t exist. Just for a few hours. An attack like this says “not even here.” Behind closed doors isn’t good enough for them It’s not that they want us to exist out of sight. They don’t want us to exist at all. So if we’re not safe in there… behind closed doors… where they say they want us… we have no choice but to fight to make it safe everywhere, for all LGBT people. “Out of the bars and into the streets!” That was a chant heard during the Stonewall Riots. The modern LGBT civil rights movement began with an attack on a bunch of queer people-gay men, drag queens, trans women, butch dykes-being themselves behind closed doors. The raid on the Stonewall Inn was state-sponsored violence. The attack on Club Q in Colorado Springs last night… well, we’re waiting on the full details. But it looks like GOP-sponsoed violence. Not just the logical result of the “groomer” blood libel, but the goal. They used to say there was something wrong with us because we only gathered in seedy bars. But that was where they herded us. That was the only space we were allowed. And when they attacked us in a gay bar one time too many… we poured out of not just that bar, but all of them. Into the streets. Behind closed doors was never enough. They knocked down those doors and arrested us in bedrooms and evicted us from our apartments and fired us from our jobs and made something that’s already hard to do-loving another human being-almost impossible. We fought back then. We fought back last night. “The 22-year-old suspect… immediately began shooting at people once he entered Club Q and at least two people ‘confronted and fought’ with him, stopping him from harming others, officials said.” (attached is a link to an article by washingtonpost.com that has the title At least 5 killed in shooting at LGBTQ club in Colorado Springs, police say) And we’re going to keep fighting. Because if we’re not safe behind the closed doors of a gay bar-if they can’t let us have even that-then we’re not safe anywhere. So we will fight until we’re safe everywhere. End I.D.]

They banned the shinigami eyes extension in Norway???

[Article from the Norwegian Broadcasting Network]

Argument is basically that it "creates an echo chamber" for "the authoritarian part of the trans movement" and they have to "learn to accept an open debate and free speech". Some TERF is interviewed and she talks about how "scary" it was to be marked with red "just for her difference of opinion", you know the whole drill.

On the basis of this, the Norwegian Digital Agency has decided to ban the browser extension completely, meaning you'll need a VPN to download it.

Again none of these people would survive being trans online for 5 minutes.

love the implication that it's possible for trans people to live in an echo chamber where they aren't bombarded by transohobic rhetoric constantly. like can i get the address for the trans echo chamber i'd love to hang out there?

I've seen two posts in the past week where gay trans men were talking about concerns around dating/ sex/ relationships and being worried that cis gay men wouldn't consider them men, and people had responded to these posts with something along the lines of "you can still date bi men".

And like, yeah thats absolutely true, gay men, trans or not, can absolutely date bi men, 100%, no question about it.

But yall realize what's wrong with that wording right?

Like one of the posts even said (paraphrased) "bi men are attracted to women so they could still be attracted to you"

Like... really yall

@fantasticcroissantlamphoagie

I have a few questions

First, what exactly is a "trans dudes ladyparts"? No really, because I've taken a few anatomy classes and I also happen to be a certified emt and I cannot recall that ever being an anatomical structure? Furthermore, considering wide range of human bodies that exist in this world, along with the availability of medical intervention, are you really stupid enough to believe that all trans men have the same bodies?

Finally, what qualifications do you have to speak on behalf of "the vast majority of gay guys" worldwide? Because the vast majority of the gay guys that I know just like men. Period. So perhaps you've just surrounded yourself with transphobes and are now seeking to justify that rather than to examine your own prejudices.

[ID: a screenshot of a comment by "fantasticcroissantlamphoagie":

The vast majority of gay guys don't like trans dudes lady parts, that's a fact. You should indeed go for bi guys. /end ID].

Genuinely terrified for the safety of me and my fellow trans women

#The framing of an innocent trans woman for the mass shooting in Texas is going to get people hurt

they’re going WHAT now

Starting with 4chan and Kiwifarms, people began sharing the images of a trans teenager (who is still alive and is not a Texan) claiming it was the shooter

Now you have congressmen and Candace Owens and Infowars all parroting it as if it were fact, while trans organizations are trying to do their best to protect the girl in question and prevent the lie from being spread

If you're trans, be safe, if you're cis, protect your trans comrades, because a trans girl was assaulted in El Paso in direct connection to these lies.

[ID: a tweet from Maya (@/mbmb2237) that says "also cis woman have natural testosterone" and a reply from Rick (@/Rick26093885) that says "well yeah because they're men" /end ID]

it’s also 100% terf rhetoric that testosterone makes you shitty, abusive or violent btw.

But I actually can’t stop laughing at this awful graphic

Can cis people just chill for like two seconds

me eating rainbow skittles

me eating cis gays to increase my dark magic

wow the text of the article is no less wild

[Image IDs:

Two screenshots. The first one is an article’s header ‘Pride month is no longer a joyful celebration, but a symbol of something dark’ and the image of a Pacman in the trans flag colors eating six dots that are each one color of the gay flag. Below the titled and above the picture, in smaller green font, is 'by Brenda Brooks’.

The second image is part of the article and the very first word appears to be the tail end of a cut off sentence “doom. Once again we find ourselves living under the flag of Pride. Its symbol - the highjacked, mangled rainbows - flies high over the empire of gender authoritarianism, where trans activism, the pharmaceutical industry, politics, media, and assorted foundations, are intent on obliterating women’s rights, and turning children into medically-dependent, physical, and psychological wrecks for the rest of their lives.”

End ID]

Yeah, I made a video about That BBC Article, at least - about one part of it.

I also posted a thirst trap* on TikTok but you're gonna have to go over there to see it.

*at least I think it is, I've never posted anything like that before, heh.

TERFs don’t care about women

They’d rather erase women who’ve been sexually assaulted by other women just to promote their “man bad men are inherently bad” ideas and their “trans people are bad and predatory” ideas.

Yup.

Note: before anyone starts Googling Lily Cade, know that she wrote an absolute horrific screed on her website that called for the lynching of trans woman and the forced impregnation of trans men and non binary people with uteruses.

I've been on the Internet for a long time and the writing is easily one of the absolute worst things that I've ever read. I mean, it's BAD.

Video Transcription:

Hi, I'm Spider. I'm a non-binary lesbian and sometimes I talk about Queer things while I'm waiting for my tea to steep.

Tonight, I wanna talk about something that involves a discussion of sexual assault.

So if you wanna tune out, now is the time to tune out.

For those of you who are not on Twitter, or who do not follow along with the trans community news and everything coming out of TERF Island, the BBC recently published an incredibly transphobic article perpetuating the lie of the "cotton ceiling" and the concept that trans women will attempt to force or coerce lesbians into having sex with them.

One of the women who was quoted at length in that article is a cis lesbian named Lily Cade.

And Lily Cade is a rapist.

Lily Cade has acknowledged that she committed sexual assault against multiple other women and said that, you know, "I thought I was better than porn serial gropers, but it turns out I was just the female of the species."

So this is not in doubt.

This is a fact. She's admitted it.

But what has happened since that news came out that, or came out again, I should say, because it has been well known for a while.

She is the kind of missing stair that other women in the industry take care to keep the new kids and new girls away from because she will hurt them.

And since that news has come to the forefront again, the TERFS, Gender Crits, whatever the hell they're calling themselves these days, have crawled out of the woodwork to say that she's not a rapist because the UK's definition of rape requires a penis.

Which is true, and that's wrong, but that's a whole other conversation.

And to apologize for, to say that it's not really sexual assault, "Yes, some women are bad, but..."

And I feel like I'm beating the same drum over and over again, but this is what I'm talking about when I say that "Man bad, woman good" allows for women to get away with sexual assaults. Because that's exactly what's happening here.

The assaults that she had committed are being swept away by the people who want to hear what she has to say and want to say that trans lesbians are actually the dangerous ones.

So they're taking the side of a literal admitted rapist because she's a woman.

Because "Woman good."

So, again, this is what I'm talking about and that's why this concept is toxic.

Link to post

Actually, this is incredibly important. The idea that trans men, transmasculine people, or transneutral people aren't important enough to be considered in healthcare is not only transphobic but deadly. And if you look through the thread's comments, there are also people saying, "I asked about trans men, but I was told they weren't considered/they weren't a focus/there isn't a study pool". It's people being told a bunch of excuses as to why we weren't even thought of!

I'm sorry, but there is quite literally no good reason to exclude trans people (specifically transmasculine/transneutral people in this case) like this.

Attitudes like this are why I'm scared to go to doctors as a trans man, and having head horror stories from other guys, I can tell you I'm not alone in this. So many doctors - healthcare professionals in general - don't know how to treat trans men and transmasculine people, both medically and just as a person. It's abysmal. It's scary. I actively avoid the doctors whenever I can, and it's why I started hormones through Folx instead of going to my doctor first. It's why I avoid going to a hospital unless it's dire enough to warrant my stay at an ER. And I'm relatively privileged in trans spaces! This is compounded if you are physically disabled, if you're of a minority religion, if you're chronically ill, if you're a BIPoC transmasculine person, and so so many other things!

There's this idea that transmasculine people are sitting pretty - never facing hardship for being masculine or men and trans. It isn't true no matter how much I wish it were. This is a big issue, and ignoring it will get us killed. It isn't a matter of "if," it's a matter of "when."

[Image description: A series of three tweets in a thread from Harley *all caps* Trans Bangster *ends caps*, reads, “Wow they tested the groundbreaking new injectable PrEP with cis men, trans women, and cis women. There are no other major gender category that’s at risk for HIV. Yup, we totally covered everyone here.” Screenshot of part of an article that reads, “Two double-blind clinical trials comparing Apretude with Truvada found significantly lower HIV risk in people getting the injection, the FDA noted. The risk was 69% lower in the first trial, of HIV-negative cisgender men and transgender women who have sex with men, and 90% lower in the second trial, which involved cisgender women.” Second tweet continues, “This is literally exactly why trans men are the only demographic whose risk of contracting HIV has grown in the past decade” *angry swearing emoji* Third tweet reads, “Obviously I’m sure it works for trans men as there’s nothing particularly crazy about our bodies (contrary to popular belief *eyes looking up in concern emoji*). But this is a huge issue because it will keep making doctors reluctant to prescribe us PrEP because we’re “not at risk”. End ID]