Here is a free PDF of Why Does He Do That if anyone wants to give it a read

Control-F to the pages on “The Victim” style of abuser if you want to read about what Johnny Depp is doing to Amber Heard right now.

a very quick self-reflection comic for the new year talking about being raised by my dad ig

(edit: this is ok to reblog, i know some people have had similar experiences with fathers or other family members and i kinda thought about that while sharing!)

this is really beautiful. You did amazing. I am really proud of you! And Even If i haven’t experienced the same thing, I can see that it was really hard for you! So, really, you did amazing! ^u^

thanks a lot! im surprised this comic got the attention it did, but im happy to be able to share my experience and tell people that you can decide to change from what bad parents have taught you!

posting here because i know hayden myers has a large following on twitter and tumblr and i think it’s a good idea to get the word out as wide as possible to prevent any further abuse happening.

he goes by MrHaydenMyers on twitter and misterhayden and misterhaydencomics on tumblr. have included a photo of his face so that people in california know who to look out for.

This entire situation was so unnecessary and shameful and all because white people are afraid the country is becoming too brown.

Yet some don’t see how this policy is abt racism. Yet some want to blame the parents. Yet the Christian supposedly God loving right sits quietly by. A racist policy done by a racist President and his administration because his MAGA bs to play to his base abt keeping America white. Disgusting

cw abuse post about misterhayden

so I’d been meaning to put this outline I made of what happened to me starting in late 2010/early 2011 when tumblr user misterhayden and I were together.

I want to also state before you read/are a follower of mine:

- don’t follow me if you follow him or are friends with him if I find out I’ll block you

- please don’t message me for further details/receipts of what happened. I have receipts but they’re triggering for me to search through and if you need anything further then you obviously don’t give a shit about what happened and you can choose to keep believing he’s a decent person. I literally don’t have the energy to appease people who want to believe he’s changed because he has not been accountable at all. Even releasing this info I know he’ll probably hear I made a post about it and I don’t want contact with him anymore. 

- know that it is very, very awful for me to even see his art on my dash and talk about him so seriously please don’t contact him telling him about this because it’s my mental health on the line.

- people have confronted him before telling him about what I’ve said and he usually tells them to come to me to rehash what happened to strangers which is really shitty of him and triggering to me. He also tells people he’s changed and I was abusive too. This is really common with abusers and if you believe him don’t bother talking to me. I am not abusive and I was not abusive to him. He’s a liar. Abusers don’t often admit they were abusive. Why would he?

anyways, here’s a brief outline of what happened to me. Again, he has not been accountable, and barely admits he was abusive. You can reblog, just please leave me alone if you don’t believe me. It won’t undo what happened.

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Just a reminder from his first wife that Elon Musk is not a good person.

So I’m finally doing this GoFundMe you guys have been encouraging me to do! 

Please do share this. The overwhelming support I’ve been met with since I started posting about what has been happening to me is amazing and y’all have done so much for me over the years I truly can’t thank you enough! 

I wish I had things to offer you guys, I am pretty good at writing and editing papers and usually receive an A range for papers (but fall short in exams fml), so if you guys need proof reads for essays or applications or anything I will certainly be your gal!

The story is in the link, but stuff I left out due to fear of my family finding it is that in the long run I hope to eventually save and raise enough money to somehow move to where my long distance bf lives to work/study & since it is a non-straight relationship, my parents would literally kill me if they knew about it. Seriously, if they break my arm for cooking the wrong way & then answering back when insulted, then imagine if the strict African Muslims that they are knew this stuff about their daughter.

I feel like a lot of people in tumblr are victim of this kind of parenting 😔😔😔

Jesus Harold Cheezits

‘FOR ART’ IS NO EXCUSE TO TREAT PEOPLE LIKE THIS

Alfred Hitchcock also told Joan Fontaine that everyone on the set of Rebecca hated her in order to make her feel paranoid and uneasy. All of this is so counter to what I was taught about directing, and the actor-director relationship. These tactics are lazy as hell in addition to being abusive, I don’t care how great these directors are. It’s so fucked up.

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It’s not just Chris Brown and Bill Cosby: white celebrities commit heinous crimes and abuse people just as much as anyone else (if not more), but where are the public call-outs? The damnations and blacklisting? Four of these people have won Oscars and another four have been nominated. Too often, abusers are welcomed back to Hollywood after allegations are publicized, and nobody seems to care. In the case of Roman Polanski, many celebrities even rallied to clear his name—including Martin Scorcese, Tilda Swinton, Wes Anderson, and over a hundred others. All of this makes abundantly clear that the art these people create is seen as more important than bringing them to justice, and the only time the public is actually willing to call anybody out is when that person isn’t white. And, even with cases like Bill Cosby and Chris Brown, the public and the media are always quick to protect the abuser and accuse the victim(s) of lying for attention—with Bill Cosby, almost forty women accused him of rape, but it took a confession from him for people to even entertain the idea that Cosby was an awful person. People cite “innocent until proven guilty” as their reason for not believing victims, instead of employing the societal mindset that would actually be helpful for victims of rape and domestic violence: always believe the victim first.

Astrid Lindgren, author of Pippi Longstocking, 1978 Peace Prize Acceptance Speech  (via i-contain-multitudes)

28 Organizations That Empower Black Communities

The resistance starts here.

In case you needed some help or you wanted to help the community, here you go:

1.Black Lives Matter

Black Lives Matter is an international activist movement, originating in the African-American community, that campaigns against violence and systemic racism toward black people. 

2.Black Alliance For Just Immigration

 The organization works to ensure social justice and equality for black immigrants.

3.Trans Women Of Color Collective

TWOC offers support and resources for trans women of color, a highly marginalized community.

4.Black Girls Code

Black Girls Code is on a mission to increase the number of black women working in computer programming. By hosting after school programs and workshops, the org plans to train one million young black women in the field by the year 2040.

5.NAACP

The NAACP is a long standing civil rights organization that works on a broad scale to achieve racial justice for citizens in urban communities.

6.Common Ground Foundation

Rapper Common founded this organization in the 1990s to provide greater opportunities for under-serviced children through mentorship, community service and the arts.

7.The Trayvon Martin Foundation

The Trayvon Martin Foundation aims to spread awareness of the consequences of gun crime and caters to families affected by gun violence.

8.The Pennsylvania Prison Society

The Pennsylvania Prison Society is a long-standing organization dedicated to reforming the criminal justice system. By providing prison bus services, offering reentry services and newsletter subscriptions for current and former offenders, the organization advocates for the rights of those affected by incarceration.

9.Blackout For Human Rights

Blackout curates a unique way to protest the repetitive inattention to the work of black artists by tuning out from events like the Academy Awards. The group played a significant role in Justice For Flint, a charity event which was held on the same night as the 2016 Oscars.

10.Incite!: Women of Color Against Violence

Incite works to end violence against women of color through organizing events, conferences, circulating newsletters and strategic political initiatives.

11.Audre Lorde Project

ALP is a New York-based organization that dedicates itself to achieving social and economic equality for LGBT communities of color.  

12.National Black Justice Coalition

NBJC’s work centers around HIV/AIDS, and makes employment and education opportunities more inclusive for black LGBT citizens.

13.We Are Here

We Are Here, founded by singer Alicia Keys, is a partnership of organizations working together to end poverty, oppression and homelessness.

14.Million Hoodies

The death of Trayvon Martin spurred the inspiration for Million Hoodies, a coalition of young people organizing to put an end to mass incarceration and the criminalization of young black men.

15.Color of Change

With over a million members, Color of Change works to end racial injustice manifested in the media, economy and criminal justice system.

16.Black Youth Project

BYP studies the attitudes and cultural norms of black millennials in an effort to maximize their life experiences.  

17.#Cut50

Cut50 is a project by The DreamCorps that aims to reduce the number of people incarcerated through awareness campaigns like #DayofEmpathy and #ClemencyNOW.

18.The Innocence Project

With multiple branches throughout the nation, The Innocence Project works to exonerate those who have been wrongfully convicted of crimes by providing free legal assistance.

19.My Brother’s Keeper

My Brother’s Keeper aims to unite and amplify the voices of black men through mentorship.

20.National Urban League

Founded in 1910, The National Urban League uses programs, research and advocacy to advance civil rights for people of color.

21.Black Women’s Blueprint

The Black Women’s Blueprint services black women affected by issues such as sexual violence, abuse and incarceration.

22.The Empowerment Program

The Empowerment Program offers resources like employment assistance and housing referrals for black women experiencing poverty, homelessness and incarceration.

23.Fierce NYC

Fierce is New York-based organization catering to the extremely underserved LGBT youth of color.

24.National Action Network

Founded by Reverend Al Sharpton, the National Action Network operates on the platforms of voter protection, corporate responsibility, anti-violence and criminal justice.

25.Black Organizers For Leaders And Dignity

BOLD is a national leadership training program that aims to equip black leaders with the skills needed to place themselves at the forefront of movements for social justice.

26.African-American Planning Commission

AAPC is New York-based organization focused on resolving issues of domestic violence, substance abuse, unemployment and HIV/AIDS in black communities.

27.Sister Love

Atlanta-based organization Sister Love commits itself to educating women of color about reproductive health, safe sex and HIV/AIDS.

28.National Black Women’s Justice Institute

Sponsored by the National Council on Crime and Delinquency, NBWJI centers its mission on empowering black women and girls in the criminal justice system.

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Remember to support the people and organizations who are about the business of creating a positive existence.

Something horrible is happening on youtube

I’m going to preface this post with a content warning. This post is about child abuse. The video I’m going to link includes actually video footage of child abuse. It is one of the most upsetting videos I have ever watched. My post includes in depth descriptions of child abuse. 

This morning I watched a Youtube video discussing and highlighting what is happening on another Youtube channel. If you have the stomach for it, I’d suggest watching the video because Phillip DeFranco does a much better job of summarizing the situation than I can. 

For those of you who can’t watch, I’ll give you a very brief rundown. 

The Youtube channel DaddyOfFive is a combination family vlog and prank channel. In a recent video, the parents pull a prank where they pour invisible ink on one of the kid’s floors and then make him think that they believe he poured ink all over the floor. They scream and swear at this little boy, shouting things like “What the fuck did you do?” while the boy cries and cowers, looking genuinely terrified. Even the best child actors could not pull off looking as genuinely devastated as this child does. 

As DeFranco highlights in his video, although all the children are pranked, it seems that this one child (Cody) takes the brunt of the cruelty. In many videos he is seen being hit, kicked, pushed, and pinned down by his older siblings. In one video his father pushes him face first into a book case. In one video Cody begs his family to stop, saying that he’s tired of this. In another video his parents scream at him and tell him he’s the only one in the family who can’t “take a joke”. 

In response to some of the flak they have been getting, the parents uploaded a video about “Blocking All The Haters”. They goad the children into saying on camera that they aren’t being abused. Now keep in mind, the kids have been told that all the “Cool stuff” they have been getting is because of the Youtube channel. They know that if the pranks stop, the cool stuff goes away. Most of the children chime in that they are not being abused. Cody hardly says anything. The oldest boy says, “At least you aren’t beating us”. 

What is happening to Cody is child abuse. It is emotional, psychological and physical abuse. It is torture. And the worst part of it all is that it is monetized. The parents are being paid by advertisers to abuse this child under the guise of “It’s just a prank, bro”. 

So what can we do?

First of all, we can report the videos on DaddyOfFive’s channel for containing depictions of child abuse. If you decide to help by doing this, please be sure to flag the specific instances of abuse such as Cody being pushed or the parents screaming vulgarities at the children. 

Second of all, we can let the companies advertising on this channel know that we won’t be buying anything from a company that sponsors videos of child abuse. 

Finally, if anyone knows this family in person, they can make a report to CPS. Now the family is claiming that they’ve already been investigated and “cleared” by CPS, but that’s not how this works. Repeated reports mean repeated investigations. You do not give up and look the other way when a child is being abused just because CPS failed to act the first time. When my neighbors were abusing their children, I had to call CPS every week for over a month before something was done. Don’t give up.

This is so upsetting guys.

Their names are Mike and Heather Martin of Baltimore, Maryland.

http://dhr.maryland.gov/child-protective-services/reporting-suspected-child-abuse-or-neglect/ Here is how about you can report them. Please do. This poor kid… 

real controversial opinion here but speaking as someone who has struggled with bpd (and other mental illnesses) for years and who recently got a prof dx, i think Mental I’llness Tumblr needs to stop with the concept of a “favorite person”

to begin with, it’s not a clinical term - someone, idk who, made it up over a year ago. i think the community coming up with terms to describe your experiences is great! in theory. because i’ve watched as the concept of “fps” gained traction and i have seen nothing good come out of it.

you guys need to stop encouraging unhealthy dependency and using your MI as an excuse to control people. by creating a term that has become almost another kind of relationship status you encourage people to hold their “fps” to incredibly high standards and then become incredibly disappointed and possibly self destructive when that “fp” doesn’t meet them. it’s unfair to the “fp” too, especially since they are often mentally ill too!

i almost always see this label being applied without the consent of the “fp.” if they’ve agreed to it and are willing to provide that kind of support then it’s fine, i don’t care. but often it’s not consensual and all i see is people vaguing their “fp” and saying they want to kill them for daring to have their own life or w/e. why do you guys think that is okay? why do you think it is okay to objectify someone like that and guilt trip them?

and this is just another way tumblr has become anti-recovery. it scares me so much that 13, 14, 15 yr olds are being exposed to this and think its fine. there’s nothing wrong with having symptoms, or being dependent, but i’ve seen the concept of an fp hurt SO many people on both sides of the relationship and it quite honestly results in abuse a lot of the time

before i get called ableist: yes, i do know what dependency is like. i have REALLY horrible issues with it and have for a long time. but i also know i can’t use my symptoms as an excuse to hurt others. i can’t expect others to take care of me all the time. in the end, nobody is responsible for me and my mess except for myself

if you wanna understand why transmisogyny is so horrifying you have to understand the sorts of social and cultural patterns it takes to abuse someone until they will happily fulfill the role of the fetishized tokenized tranny bc any other option means isolation and death.

patriarchal society needs its sacrificial hypersexualized disgusting living sex-objects, and transmisogyny is how it tries to turn a human into that. i keep thinking abt this 4chan thread i read ~2013 shortly after i came out, in which a chaser talked about how he specifically liked dating trans women because “they have such low self-esteem that you can make them do anything”. he went on to talk about how he specifically looks for trans women with “dead, lifeless eyes” (aka dissociated from ptsd) because “they’re like a doll you can mold into whatever you want, then discard when you’re done, and there will always be more desperate for love”

that’s what transmisogyny is: a systematic pattern of abuse applied to a small sacrificial portion of the population to create a class of women with no claim to community or personhood, who will never be defended or avenged, who can be safely sunk into the attrition of patriarchy’s darker desires to protect the cis women, who after all could one day be mothers or some other kind of person. we are the class sacrificed to men’s violence and cis women’s violence. the socially unimportant. the weird and ugly. the punching bag. the blowup doll that talks. the mad artist that produces something great and then must burn out cause who could support that eccentric through life? the activist who makes huge steps for the better but stumbles on a community that would rather rape and abandon her than admit that it needs her. the queen of the dance who gets beaten with sticks as she’s leaving it and no one helps.

and its easy to do this, by painting the class as predatory, by making us hate and fear our own genitals, by indoctrinating us with an absurd amount of self-hatred, by giving us no out, no safe community, no one we can ever turn to. every cis person becomes a beartrap just waiting to swing shut and take out a chunk of flesh. and with fear and trauma we start to disappear from the world. we commit suicide, we overdose on heroin, we starve quitely in rooms playing videogames, or we become the tranny they want, deadeyed and always compliant and always ready to soak up blame. but whatever happens its the same: over time, we cease to exist. the person we are withdraws from the world until there is little to nothing left.

i don’t know how to stop it, but this has to stop. this is not something anyone ever should have to go through.

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