libraries raised me

reblog with a book that you have read this year and would like to suggest 📚📖📗📑📔🍵☕

Yeah that tracks

Man you could just do stuff back then huh

Got a reality check from my mom today (she was right), started liking Geography and Kashmiri Kahwa again, and excitedly waiting for Arcane season 2 act 2. Except I forgot it drops on Saturday and not tomorrow. But I was planning to study 7 hours tomorrow and watch Arcane as a reward 🧍‍♀️. Oh well.

Also got obsessed with Miquella from Elden Ring (I don't play Elden Ring). A character many people in the fandom hate? A character many people refuse to understand? Miquella, you're now my new Raiden Ei

Studying time: 5 hours 30 minutes

Now that's just obscene

"That was beneath me" is such a delightfully funny way to apologise. Like yeah I did something shitty that I regret doing, and I'm ready to admit to both of those points, but you're shitting squirrels if you think I'm going to get off my moral high horse to do that.

PhD Day 38 (yesterday): this time for real, I finished doing all the changes my supervisor suggested so I have finally fully submitted my grant proposal!

peace and love on my dash this afternoon

i think "it takes a village" shouldn't be just "to raise a child". we should understand it takes a village to do literally everything we do. all day every day. without our communities we would not have drinking water or electricity or clean streets or food or shelter or anything. we cannot do any thing alone. we just can't. and with that comes the fact that you are not alone. you already have a community, seek to be an active part of it, you will feel better. reach out and thank them, they're happy to have you too. i promise. it takes a village to live.

It takes a village to raise a child and it takes every neighbor to raise a barn and it takes all hands on deck to clean the river. We were built as a communal species. Lend what you can, and accept what you're offered.

Putting the term "male gaze" on top of the fridge until everyone remembers that it refers to a cinematographic trend and not the act of looking at things while being a man

The commitment to the bit! The t-shirt that names the over-the-counter pain killer this man will have to take after this Oscar-winning performance!

mutuals do this

I can’t believe you cropped out the best part

I don't know if it's because I'm autistic, I'm not American or because there's a special gun telepathy... But I don't understand how mirroring would infer you're a liar here?

Okay, so this is a very particular Thing that happens largely in the American south. It's the shotgun wielding dad "what are your intentions with my daughter touch her and I kill you I'm the head of the household" trope irl. My father has never actually done it, but he was given a gun by another man when my sister and I were very small to be prepared.

So to the dad, anon just challenged his authority and his manhood. Dad is already threatened by his daughter having a boyfriend (and potentially eventually moving out due to that boyfriend/marriage), now anon is saying "I don't give a shit about you or your threat" as far as the dad is concerned. So anon saying he didn't mean it that way is what's triggering the "liar" comment.

It's a very patriarchal woman as property thing that crops up especially among white Southern Christians. I would lay money based on this story and my own experiences that anon is the girl's first boyfriend and that she's in the kind of family environment where she will live with her parents until marriage, a very literal dad giving daughter away at the altar situation.

Anon probably does not have sisters and didn't have all of this subtext made text constantly throughout his life, even though him carrying on a daily basis suggests some level of immersion in gun culture

Tl: Dr the American south is a very weird place, he's violating some established power lines and then "acting clueless" when the dad reacts to the social transgression

Ooooooooh!!!.... It is in fact special gun telepathy, but you must be THIS misogynistic to ride. I think I got it.

This was actually very helpful, and disturbing.

I think there's also a level of, like:

Dad shows gun = "If you hurt her, I will kill you."

Boyfriend shows gun as well = "I also suspect you of being capable of hurting her and anticipate having to defend her."

And "hurt" in a dating context (or at least this specific gun related one) usually just means heartbreak, but "hurt" in a father/daughter context would more often be abuse.

So there's an implicit accusation he could read into it that turns the conversation into:

Dad: I think this relationship might not work out, and you will hurt my daughter's feelings.

Boyfriend: Well, I think you are physically harming your daughter, and brought this gun to show you I mean to rescue her.

Dad: How dare you! At least accuse me outright, for such a strong claim as this.

Boyfriend: I shall never say it outright, and therefore you have no evidence against me to use to kick me out right now.

Dad: So you plan to play ignorant if I bring your accusations to my daughter, and make me look crazy?

Shakespearean level shenanigans

middle aged lady on my bus just called someone's partner "your whimsical idiot boyfriend" over the phone . with sincere frustration might I add

"preheat"? dude i dont even HEAT my oven. thats right. im cooking my shit coldstyle. im stretching the definition of "cooking" far beyond its ultimate tensile strength. my chicken breasts are the most gorgeous pink color you've ever seen. they look like rosebuds on the very cusp of blooming. they look like the dawn when you're in love. hospital.

early november // currently playing: Norwegian Wood - The Beatles

i cannot get myself to actually start writing my thesis. i know that i will eventually get through it, but i am so so so scared of the blank page and there's less than a month before my intro and methods are due.

in other news, i am adoring the late fall vibes: the sound of the pouring rain, the crisp cold air, the last of the orange leaves... i am trying to savour it all because i don't know if i'll ever get to experience fall like this again; the realization that this is my last year of undergrad is settling in and making me feel melancholic...

currently reading: The White Book by Han Kang

recently finished: Human Acts by Han Kang - 5/5