Rewatching episode 5 of season 3, and one moment I find so interesting is when max is essentially pledging her loyalty to rogers with her share of the treasure and she compares it to a dowry. There’s this reoccurring theme with Anne and max and their relationship with the idea of marriage, and the idea that turning away from it represents both turning toward their truer selves and toward each other.
With Anne it obviously comes up with the “husband” she was married off to as a child. And then her whole season 2 arc concludes with her asserting that she can’t be jacks wife. Then with max its just so telling that the moment she declares her loyalty to rogers (and loyalty to the whole facade of civilization that she still idealizes) she does so by comparing it to a marriage. And the conclusion to her entire character arc is her deciding that marrying a man is the one compromise she absolutely will not make (and I adore the face Anne makes at the very possibility of max being some man’s wife).
I feel like there’s just this really fascinating theme throughout black sails about I guess the institutionalization of love? Like, what kind of love is wrong and profane and punishable by death, and what kind of love is not only allowed and encouraged but enforced and considered legally binding, and just how harmful those definitions are (like with just how diminished Eleanor becomes playing the role of “Mrs rogers”). Its telling that the only truly healthy married couples in the entire show are Miranda and Thomas, who obviously aren’t a traditional married couple in any sense (they basically use the institution of marriage as a source of security, to shield them while they each pursue love in their own unconventional but real and genuine ways), and Scott and the queen, whose entire existence as a family is kept hidden away in the shadows outside of civilization and its laws (plus she has power that is entirely her own in a way that wouldn’t be allowed in the “civilized world” and not dependant on him, unlike Eleanor in season 4). Eleanor literally refers to playing the part of a traditional English wife as “mutilating herself”.
I just can’t get over how beautifully max’s character arc subverts the sexist “ambitious, career focused woman realizes she really just needs love” cliche. Because her realization is not “I put so much energy into my career, I failed to realize I really just need a man!” it’s “the one thing I’m not willing to do to further my ambitions is compromise my own needs and identity and marry a man”. It’s about more than just her realizing that love is more important, its her realizing that her sense of self and her sexual identity are more important. Her choosing Anne is her choosing herself (just like in season 3 when max tells Anne “when you and i began, you did not choose me, something that lives inside of you beyond choice made it so”, so much of their love story is tied up with the story of their identities). Max is confronted with the fact that heterosexual marriage is something society rewards, and told that it’s a step all women must take if they want to get ahead, and her response is basically “fuck no”, and it just made my gay ass So. Fucking. Happy.