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Trans allyship includes multigendered people. It includes the he/shes, the people who are boygirls, the people who have "contradicting" labels, the people who are fluid, the people who are ever-shifting in their gender, the people whos sexualities feel complicated by their gender, and the people I couldn't include here because there are just so many different ways for people to exist as a multigendered person.

If you are to exclude multigendered people or people with a complex relationship with gender from trans liberation, you are doing your allyship in a backwards way. I do not want trans liberation if it means excluding fellow trans people. I do not want trans "allyship" that only loosely supports passing, binary, conforming, non-complex trans people. Liberation for all trans people. Not just the ones you personally like.

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"I identify as a trans woman, or just plain woman. In everyday life, of course, it’s woman, but if people ask, I tell them I’m trans. I don’t hide it exactly, but I don’t wear it on my forehead either. The first time I realized there was something fishy going on was in second grade and we were having a school play and doing Heidi. I wanted the lead part and the teacher said, “No, that’s only for girls.” And of course I knew I was a boy, but I didn’t realize that boys couldn’t do things like that. At the age of fourteen, I was left alone in the house for a summer and went up in the attic and found some of my mother’s old clothes and discovered I enjoyed dressing in them. After college, I went abroad to Denmark and decided to try denial. You just get busy with other things and then you don’t have to worry about your identity.

I met a woman that summer, Edith, that I eventually married. After we were married for about a year and a half, I realized, “This is not working, I need to be who I am.” So I outed myself to her. In those days, of course, the only label we had for it was transvestism. By 1980, when I was forty years old, I knew I wanted to transition, but I didn’t tell Edith. Somehow I got wind, I think through a television show, that if you wanted to transition you are required to get a divorce first. They didn’t want to foster lesbian couples being married legally. So, I wasn’t going to do that. I was too much in love. The two of us were married altogether forty-six years. So I waited, and then in 1993, she found out she had cancer. Of course, then I knew that this was not a time to transition. She died in 2008. I came out publicly as transgender in 2012.

After Edith died, I was alone here in the house. It just got empty, very empty, very fast. And so I knew I needed to do something. I met Stephanie, a transgender woman, at the Emerald City Social Club. She was homeless at the time, so I said, “Why don’t you move in?” And then we started taking in other girls, too. Since then, I’ve had over thirty girls go through the house at one time or another, some for shorter periods, others for longer periods. I think it’s a worthwhile effort. I’m trying to give people a little bit of safe space and respite from the anxieties of homelessness.

As you grow old, you fear the unknown. You can end up needing care. By inviting people to come stay with me, I have someone to at least look after me on a daily basis and make sure that I’m not falling through the cracks. This whole house has served in some ways as a model because, as far as I know, it’s the first trans house. The model is simple: if you can, open your house to others. As I say, we don’t have a homeless problem, we have a hospitality problem. We can still be effective doing what we can even if we regret it’s not enough."

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universal nonbinary experience this, universe nonbinary experience that. shut up!!!! the only real universal nonbinary experience is only being able to eat oysters!!!!!

behold the incredible diversity of the nonbinary experience

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ars-matron

Where do we land on scallops? Cuz I do enjoy a good scallop

you have to eat oysters

[ID. A screenshot of the post's notes. User orang3lover replies, "The shell is my favorite part! Love the crunch". User blackvhoney reblogs and replies with, "fuck osters eat slugs". User habits-white-rabbit replies with, "Fuck oysters, eat worms". User markadoo replies with, "im jewish". End]

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t4tails

cis people dont get it when they say a character is trans bc theyre short and have a high voice its transphobic but when i say a character is trans bc theyre short and have a high voice i am correct. whats not clicking

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r0ttedg1rl

yeah you summed it up, dawg

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tenmyoujump

[id: tags reading, #cis people do that because they think that is how to spot a trans person, #i do that because yeah me too dude /end id]

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While we're all here and I'm trans and cranky I also want to say that there is no like gender conforming presentation as nonbinary. There is not and should never be a gender role for nonbinary that anyone should feel pressure to confirm to, and no specific presentation as nonbinary person is more correct or acceptable. Masculine and feminine are arbitrary and presentation does not equal gender this is like trans 101 yall.

Nonbinary people do not owe you androgyny and nonbinary people who are 'masculine' or 'feminine' are not any less nonbinary and they are not privileged by having their gender identity erased because they are assumed to be men or women, nor are nonbinary people who are 'androgynous' conforming to a socially accepted nonbinary gender role and they are not privileged by being visibly trans, nonbinary, or gender variant in a cis binary gender normative society that is hostile to gender nonconformity.

"How do you reconcile the idea that nonbinary people who present more masc or fem feel pressure to give up any connections to binary gender or present more androgynous in order to have their gender respected with the idea that nonbinary people who present more androgynously feel pressure to choose a gender alignment and present more masc or fem in order to have their gender respected?"

Easy, cis and binary people don't like how we challenge gender norms and the gender binary and will say whatever they have to in order to try and shame us out of it. It's not about trying to make us the "right" kind of nonbinary, it's about trying to get us to stop being the kind of nonbinary that we are in order to control us and eventually shame us out of being nonbinary at all. Next fucking question.

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I love the queer community, but the amount of people who deep down think nonbinary people just fit into a binary box drives me mad. Shit like thinking all nonbinary people are okay with being under lesbian/gay attraction, thinking xenic/aporagender falls under “neutral”, telling me “enbian lesbian” is “assimilationist” because some nonbinary people might feel comfortable just using lesbian, saying cenelian is bad because “you can’t tell who is and isn’t nonbinary” as if you can know who is a man or a woman… Y’all.

Just because some nonbinary people are okay with being related to/grouped with a binary gender doesn’t mean all of us are. Please stop generalizing all of us and being accidentally exorsexist in the process. It’s to the point where someone started telling me, a nonbinary person, that nonbinary people only liking other nonbinary people and having a term for it is somehow homophobic. 😔

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(Image description left: a phone wallpaper sized image with a background photo of a dark cloudy sky, over the photo is a quote in white text, the quote is from Riki Anne Wilchins and reads "It's about all of us who are genderqueer: diesel dykes and stone butches, leatherqueens and radical fairies, nelly fags, crossdressers, intersexed, transsexuals, transvestites, transgendered, transgressively gendered, and those of us whose gender expressions are so complex they haven't even been named yet.")

(Image description right: a phone wallpaper sized image with a background photo of pansies, black text inside a small white centered box is a quote by E. V. Rogina which reads "Like wildflowers; you must allow yourself to grow in all the places people thought you never would".)

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Trans history: whatever happened to the other T?

I don’t know how universally relevant this is (I guess no part of queer history ever is) but I wonder how many trans people know the history of T&T groups.

Like, in the 90′s and 00′s in the Netherlands almost every trans related groups was a T&T ‘Transsexual and Transvestites’ group and that seemed to also be a quite common thing in other north-west European countries for as far as I can see. Maybe beyond Europe too? I’m not sure.

People who called themselves transsexual and transvestites at the time felt that they had many experiences in common that made organising together valuable and many agreed that there was a large grey area of overlapping identities. With very little information available, a lot of trans women identified as transvestites first, before identifying at trans women (in that period often using the term Male-to-Female transsexual and transwoman without the space between the words).

Then, in about 2007-2012, things changed. Transgender became more popular than transsexual and crossdresser largely replaced transvestite. In those early days, the term transgender was often understood to include crossdressers. The transgender umbrella is from that time:

Back then, the word transgender was seen by many as the umbrella term that would unite all the struggles against gender roles. But that grouping together was far from uncontroversial and a lot of heated debates took place over how broad or narrow the transgender umbrella term should be. Some feared too wide an umbrella would take attention away from transsexuals, others feared it would be confusing, some groups that had previously only had transwomen and transvestites did not appreciate the new presence of transmen and transmasculine people in their transgender community, some felt that it was very important to distinguish binary-identified transsexuals from all sorts of weird non-binary identities.

Those who took part in the debates probably remember the specific standpoints in more detail. For me, I just remember how in 2008-2012 all the T&T groups started changing their names to ‘transgender groups’ and then slowly but surely focussing more on only those transgender people that wanted some kind of transition, physical or social. Eventually, transvestites (or crossdressers, as the common term was by then) disappeared entirely from the transgender groups and a lot of transgender people forgot about the earlier wider meaning of transgender as an umbrella term.

Within that same period, there started to be a LOT of new and fairly positive media attention for transgender issues, specifically transition related atttention. The media was no participant at all in the ‘what does transgender mean’ question but the questions they did ask were ‘are you on hormones yet?’ and ‘did you have the surgery’? Since that was a lot better than ‘so are you mentally ill because you want to be a woman?’ a lot of people who fitted the hormones + surgery narrative eagerly accepted this ‘positive visibility’ and did not question the narrow focus. This further cemented the view that transgender meant transition.

And the transgender activists? Well, let’s just say many of them, knee deep in a struggle against terrible health care and cruel human rights violations, leaped at the opportunity to seize the momentum and finally make some changes and many didn’t really give much thought to the slow disappearance of transvestites from the newly named ‘transgender’ community.

So where are we now, in 2018?

The transgender community seems to have largely forgotten about their T&T history. The terms transvestite and crossdresser both seem to be in decline, as are the communities that meet around those identities. Younger people who don’t fit the gender binary but also do not desire social or physical transition, are now more likely to identify themselves as some kind of genderqueer and nonbinary or just ‘not into labels’ or just to wear whatever they want and rock it. Some of them find their way back under the transgender umbrella after all. Which I guess is some kind of a happy ending.

But then theres the question of recognizing our legacy. I don’t think a lot of these young people realise that, had they been born 20 years earlier, many of them would probably have found a home in the transvestite community. I don’t think a lot of young transgender people recognize older transvestites as their elders, who paved the way for them. I often get the impression that they view the dwindling groups of 50+, 60+, 70+ transvestites with an element of disdain, as people who held on to a regressive binary identity, instead of as like - their badass grandfather-mothers who build parts of trans history.

Over the last 24 hours, some trans people have responded to this with some truly nasty comments about transvestites and crossdressers, mostly accusing them of stuff like ‘degrading femininity’, ‘fetishizing’, or ‘giving trans people a bad name’. Invariably, the people writing these comments were young. Invariably, their only frame of reference seemed to be stigmatizing media portrayals and they clearly have no idea what they’re talking about.

I am not going to dignify these comments with a response because they’re too disgusting to reblog, I do not think they would listen and frankly reading them fills me with far too much emotion to write coherently.

I just wanna say: this is what happens when we are so quick to forget our very recent history. Despite the many debates and divisions that have existed in the past, few trans people could have had these completely off-the-wall misguided ideas 15 years ago because if they travelled in trans spaces they would have met so many transvestites and crossdressers. They would chat and hang out and probably make friends. They would swap experiences, share hardships and learn to recognize transvestites and crossdressers as siblings in the community of gendernonconforming and marginalized people.

My heart breaks for the young crossdresser out there today who might enter a trans space looking for their community of supporting likeminded people, only to find out that they are not welcome and even despised. I can only hope that if this happens, some older trans people will talk some sense into their younger community members and remind them of the long road transgender people and crossdressers have walked together, the battles we fought together, the crossdressers who fought for trans rights and the trans people who fought for their siblings too because we understood those struggles as interconnected.

When we forget where we come from, we fail to recognize members of our own family, and we are all lonelier and more divided as a result.

#huh this is fascinating#does anyone have any sources about this stuff beyond that image?#i mean i believe op just fine but it’d be neat to see more about these sorts of groups#google was….extremely unhelpful

Actually, I have more! But first, a little google advice when researching recent post-internet history: type in phrases from the time you want to find, in this case stuff like ‘transsexual’, ‘transgender’, ‘transvestite’, ‘transgenderist’ (no really that was a word people used). Click Tools > time > custom range and set a range you want. Like maybe 200 to 2010? See if that helps. 

ok, now my stuff, ill start with some more from the Netherlands

This is a 1975 party ticket to celebrate the 5 year anniversary of the Transvestite and Transsexual workgroup and contact group (meaning they did activism and community meetings).

This is another 1975 document: a brochure of the National Contact Group for Transvestites and Transsexuals, which, according to the content, strives towards self-acceptance, emancipation and education. Their ‘target groups’ are listed as transsexuals, intersexuals, transvestites and men who wear skirts. Believe it or not, for a while man-in-skirt was treated as an identity label for gendernonconforming men, who formed communities with other men-in-skirts.

There’s more recent stuff to be found too. 

This 2012 poster has it all. It announces a transgender information day with information for transvestites, transsexuals, crossdressers and part-time women.

Something in English? Alright, here’s an image from 2014 when, for a short time, people tried to make trans* with a * the most inclusive term like the + in lgbt+:

Something older in English too?

This is a 1994 transgender umbrella, from when the concept was still quite new. You’ll notice that the language here is pathologizing. This is the only source on my list not written by a trans person but by a cis therapist.

And here’s a 1990 leaflet showing some terms considered ‘respectful’ by many community members then.

Even older?

Here’s a beautiful 1971 article from the Detroit Gay Liberator, (Volume 1, issue 8, January 1, 1971) titles ‘transvestite and transsexual liberation’.

There is a gap, as you’ll probably notice. A lot of 70′s stuff has already been archives and a lot of 2010+ stuff is easily accessible online, but the early internet stuff is harder to find and not as prominent in archives yet. Still, there is much more like this out there. www.digitaltransgenderarchive.net has a lot of it.

What you’ll find, again and again, is that the exclusion of transvestites from the language of trans community and trans rights is very recent. We walked most of this road and fought most of this fight together.

I’m not going to respond to every person in the notes because … a lot to unpack there a lot of the time… but just in general: if you’re writing something along the lines of “okay but transvestites and gendernonconforming people are cis and do we want cis people in our spaces? etc”, you are missing the point.

The word ‘cisgender’ is new but the idea it is communicating, the idea of the ‘not-trans’ or ‘non-marginalized-not-us’ is not new at all. And for most of trans history, transvestites and gendernonconforming people were definitely considered ‘us’ and the idea of including them in the ‘not-trans’ seemed ridiculous. It was obvious that transvestites and gendernonconforming people shared in the same oppression and benefited from the same liberation.

Those who pushed a more limited concept of trans, one without transvestites and gendernonconforming, did so in part because they wanted to set a trans-cis binary in which trans could be clearly distinguished from cis without messy grey areas of gender nonconformity.

In pursuing that goal, they crafted a narrative in which trans people suffered transphobia, but transvestites who had to hide who they were or face social exclusion, loss of employment, street violence, etc. did not. The early 2010s internet had a lot of really nasty stories of imagined privileged rich transvestites sipping cocktails in villas while lobbying for their own interests while homeless transsexual youth were dying on the street. Those stories were bullshit and no such power-imbalance between the two groups existed but these stories helped cement the idea of a more privileged group unjustly claiming space in marginalized groups (if you have any experience with exclusionary movements this should sound familiar)

tl;dr: The conceptualization of who was included in ‘trans’ directly impacted who was included in ‘cis’. If transvestites hadn’t been driven out of the concept of trans, it would never occur to you to call them cis.

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