I love the queer community, but the amount of people who deep down think nonbinary people just fit into a binary box drives me mad. Shit like thinking all nonbinary people are okay with being under lesbian/gay attraction, thinking xenic/aporagender falls under “neutral”, telling me “enbian lesbian” is “assimilationist” because some nonbinary people might feel comfortable just using lesbian, saying cenelian is bad because “you can’t tell who is and isn’t nonbinary” as if you can know who is a man or a woman… Y’all.
Just because some nonbinary people are okay with being related to/grouped with a binary gender doesn’t mean all of us are. Please stop generalizing all of us and being accidentally exorsexist in the process. It’s to the point where someone started telling me, a nonbinary person, that nonbinary people only liking other nonbinary people and having a term for it is somehow homophobic. 😔